My 3 rules for all Doms and littles!

[WickedJax]

So lately I've seen a lot of threads posted here asking for advice, and while all threads of this type should be looked at on an individual basis, I have noticed certain patterns, so I'm here today to give anyone who's going through a rough time a little bit of advice! These are my 3 rules for a successful DDlg relationship!

 

1. Communicate! This one's obvious, I know, but it's a biggy. More often then not what your relationship needs is a good honest talk! Sit down with your partner, make it clear as a sunny day that there will be no judgement, no holding back, just a good, honest, trusting, and more then anything, blunt conversation. Make sure you understand exactly how your partner feels in explicit terms, there's no room vague mystery here! 

 

2. Research! Articles, blogs, posts, anything and everything! Read, read, read! Done reading? Read some more! Make sure you understand terminology, and what certain terminology means to certain people, and try to be as open minded as possible. Explore, expand, excite! Oh, and for you Doms out there here's a fun little tip: Try some things out on yourself. I started doing this a while back when I read that a spanking can hurt in the bad way of you hit with your wrist, tried it out on myself, and what do you know, it was true! Plus, it's always good to know what your little or sub is feeling, and why they enjoy it.

 

3. Remember, it's still a relationship! Sooooo many questions and advice threads I've seen on this forum can be answers with this rule. Our lifestyle is obviously not mainstream, and sometimes that gets at us, makes us forget that we're still in a relationship. Just because you're a little, or a Dom, doesn't mean you're not still a person who needs support, needs to be held sometimes, needs a break. To boil it down as simply as I can: The DDlg mechanics of your relationship are built on that foundation of a relationship, not the other way around.

 

I hope these help some of you to have a better day, and a more healthy relationship. Thanks for reading!

[kissingkitten]

Good advice.