Guest MissNMTX Posted August 13, 2016 Report Share Posted August 13, 2016 I'm not quite sure how to word this. I'm wondering it there is a way your Daddies talk to you when they're tired or unavailable that doesn't make you feel horrible? My Daddy...or the man acting as him at least *ugh* had yesterday off work and had promised me time. All I got was a good morning...after mine and when I said Goodnight He said he was crabby. He works very hard and I understand he's tired. I don't ever want to make his life harder, but I know that if I said " I'm in a bad mood and can't give you what I promised" there would most probably be punishment for back talk. Worst yet, I feel bad for being too needy and wanting too much attention. Obviously, I went to bed feeling bad last night. This morning all I got was he had things to do. I know he works hard, is busy, and has things. I am grown and I do understand. Like I said, I'd never want to make his life harder or be a burden, but the way he talks to me makes me feel awful. I know all Daddies get busy at times, so I'm wondering if any of you have worked it out someway where Daddy has the time to rest and do what he needs too and you don't feel like the most awful burden? Thanks for reading and for any advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stargirl Posted August 13, 2016 Report Share Posted August 13, 2016 IMO, if you feel so strongly about something, but are so afraid of the repercussions that you feel stuck, you need to put it out there in the open. It only makes it worse to bottle these things up. Say how you feel and if he cares about you, he will listen and at least try to understand. You have needs that you don't have to apologize for. There should be a strong basis of communication and open dialogue. If he doesn't understand or punishes you for expressing your emotions in a way that makes you uncomfortable, it might be time to reevaluate your agreement or situation. Best of luck! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest sophia isabel Posted August 13, 2016 Report Share Posted August 13, 2016 I understand where you are coming from, and this might not be my place to say, but he doesn't seem to have your best interest at heart. I use to have a daddy who would take hours to respond and then be crabby when I took a few minutes to respond. Even in a ddlg (or any bdsm relationship for that matter) it is a two-way street! You need to be cared for and vice versa for them. You need to make him sit down and talk with you! You have a voice too, do not let him take that away from you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AngelLove Posted August 13, 2016 Report Share Posted August 13, 2016 I used to have a daddy like that, he would promise me time on his days off then he'd just ignore my messages and later say he was busy with other people..i ended up leaving him because of that. Just talk to him about it, I'm sure he'll understand how you feel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Coyote420 Posted August 13, 2016 Report Share Posted August 13, 2016 Hmmm , I don't think it's you that needs advice, but him. I was in A bdsm relationship before and I neglected my slave cause I had exams and part time work to top it off. It wasn't her fault, it was mine. A daddy (in my case a master) should always give attention to the little, no matter what. I made my slave feel bad and unwanted, which showed in our sex life as well. A daddy should never take out his frustrations on his little. All you can do is have an open conversation with him about it and hope for the best. However I'm afraid he's a master only and not a daddy from the way you described him, if so he simply can't give you the affection and care a little needs. I hope that's not the case tho. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Coffeefarism Posted August 13, 2016 Report Share Posted August 13, 2016 Evn if it's hard you should open up and talk to him, and you both need to be completely honest about the situation. Communication is always the key for a good relationship. If he loves you just as much as you love him, he will listen to you and take in consideration that because of his duties he's been neglecting you, maybe and hopefully not on purpose. I know that it can happen because when I am too tired or have too much work to do I tend to isolate myself, or want to be alone to rest, or neglect friends and boyfriend because I lack the energy to even send a text, but I don't do it on purpose, it's just because I am really too busy/tired.If you make him aware of the situation, you can talk it out and maybe come up with a plan to get some quality time together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FitPapaBear Posted August 13, 2016 Report Share Posted August 13, 2016 (edited) This man is not a good Daddy, not keeping promises and punishing for no reason what so ever... Edited August 13, 2016 by FitPapaBear Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Antoinette Posted August 14, 2016 Report Share Posted August 14, 2016 (edited) This is the plain and simple truth, although it might be hard to hear I'm sorry. If he had your best interest at heart and cared for you as caregiver should for their little/middle/etc then he would make time for you. No way would any reasonable daddy make their little feel like he made you feel - they would make a conscious effort not to. Being a daddy is about making your little feel safe and loved, before anything else. If you think he can change, talk to him about it but honestly, if you feel like he can't then he's just going to keep hurting your feelings - don't let anybody make you feel that way. Edited August 14, 2016 by xAntoinette Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess-P Posted August 14, 2016 Report Share Posted August 14, 2016 Its true that sometimes we are too busy for our partner. My Daddy and I have been together for years, we live together, and yet sometimes it seems we don't actually see each other for days (opposite shifts 12-14 hours day/nights) and it makes us both cranky. All you can do s tell him you miss his attention and how it makes you feel. If you don't express your needs or feel you can't have a conversation about something bothering you then your relationship is pointless. Remember that before CG/l your just two adults who should feel the same way about each other. If its one sided it won't work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 14, 2016 Report Share Posted August 14, 2016 my Daddy doesnt have time for me right now either Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DollDirector Posted August 14, 2016 Report Share Posted August 14, 2016 People here are being very helpful. I agree with everything and Coyote420 is right to point out that he needs advice. Maybe he is in a badly organized life and doesn't know how to change that. Even sounds like he might be heading for a burnout,and does not understand that what would actually do him a lot of good would be learning to ... take time off to spend behaving properly with his little ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest BabyGirl_Liya Posted March 8, 2017 Report Share Posted March 8, 2017 I'm not quite sure how to word this. I'm wondering it there is a way your Daddies talk to you when they're tired or unavailable that doesn't make you feel horrible? My Daddy...or the man acting as him at least *ugh* had yesterday off work and had promised me time. All I got was a good morning...after mine and when I said Goodnight He said he was crabby. He works very hard and I understand he's tired. I don't ever want to make his life harder, but I know that if I said " I'm in a bad mood and can't give you what I promised" there would most probably be punishment for back talk. Worst yet, I feel bad for being too needy and wanting too much attention. Obviously, I went to bed feeling bad last night. This morning all I got was he had things to do. I know he works hard, is busy, and has things. I am grown and I do understand. Like I said, I'd never want to make his life harder or be a burden, but the way he talks to me makes me feel awful. I know all Daddies get busy at times, so I'm wondering if any of you have worked it out someway where Daddy has the time to rest and do what he needs too and you don't feel like the most awful burden? Thanks for reading and for any advice. I used to have a daddy like that, he would promise me time on his days off then he'd just ignore my messages and later say he was busy with other people..i ended up leaving him because of that. Just talk to him about it, I'm sure he'll understand how you feel I agree with everyone and Angel- I did have to leave my 1st daddy because of that. He really does need to know how you feel and he should really change his attitude during you. Maybe asking hi whats wrong because he might be feeling angry or upset. Dont worry! It will work out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EllaDawn Posted March 8, 2017 Report Share Posted March 8, 2017 Everyone gets busy. It's normal. But you also deserve to have your needs met and to be able to speak up without fear of reprisal. If your Daddy has no time for you, he needs to communicate with you and also find a way to MAKE time. You're a person. You deserve to be treated with the respect any living, breathing, feeling person should be treated with. Don't let a Dom, a Master, or a Daddy tell you otherwise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Waiting4us Posted March 21, 2017 Report Share Posted March 21, 2017 It is foremost responsibility of a person who is honored as DD to give his time to the one who gave him this prized gift. First if he cannot take out time and understand his duties then he should never seek for the honor. If he is not able to take care of his Little then I feel he is not ready in himself. Yes, agreed at times we all get busy but even then as a DD it is my foremost duty to check on my Little., I need to take out time and give her time. I took her responsibility thus I need to now keep it. Always a two way the Ddlg or any relationship is but the one in Ddlg is basically so very much depending upon the one who says I take charge, when someone calls himself DD or DM they have taken the promise to be there to make sure their Little is happy, safe, protected and feel secure always. If at times the work is too busy it is to be made sure DD lets her know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleNanette Posted March 21, 2017 Report Share Posted March 21, 2017 It is foremost responsibility of a person who is honored as DD to give his time to the one who gave him this prized gift. First if he cannot take out time and understand his duties then he should never seek for the honor. people have Jobs and need to take care of themselves first and foremost... Daddies/Mommies are humans to with real Problems and lives, they're not psychologists (well in most cases sure there are some), they're only humans themselves Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Waiting4us Posted March 21, 2017 Report Share Posted March 21, 2017 people have Jobs and need to take care of themselves first and foremost... Daddies/Mommies are humans to with real Problems and lives, they're not psychologists (well in most cases sure there are some), they're only humans themselves Well the one who is responsible of himself first and knows what they are capable of applies self for the other as a DD or Mommy. Yes, agreed we all are human and have self work but that need to be discussed earlier but even then it is foremost responsibility of them to be there and handle the state. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleNanette Posted March 21, 2017 Report Share Posted March 21, 2017 Well the one who is responsible of himself first and knows what they are capable of applies self for the other as a DD or Mommy. Yes, agreed we all are human and have self work but that need to be discussed earlier but even then it is foremost responsibility of them to be there and handle the state. no that is the responsibility of oneself... daddys/mommys do not replace therapy... i'm not talking about the OP here.. that sounded absolutely abusive.... but a dysfunctional relationship isn't the answer to that... even as littles we have to take our own responsibilities as hard as it may be.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Waiting4us Posted March 22, 2017 Report Share Posted March 22, 2017 no that is the responsibility of oneself... daddys/mommys do not replace therapy... i'm not talking about the OP here.. that sounded absolutely abusive.... but a dysfunctional relationship isn't the answer to that... even as littles we have to take our own responsibilities as hard as it may be.... I never talked about dysfunctional relationship at all. We were talking about responsibility Responsibility .....it means to respond. I never said Little's need not care for themselves and should not be responsible but as DD if the duty is taken and accepted they need to be more responsible and should never ignore the needs and wants of the Little. They have been trusted to take care so they should do it however hard their lives and work maybe. I as a DD myself see it that is the way, not trying to offend anyone. I as a DD of somebody would always be there and if I get busy for some hours I will let my Little no it before and let her know I am busy but care each moment. This is how I see Ddlg dynamic relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rantanplan Posted March 26, 2017 Report Share Posted March 26, 2017 I would help my dad, make dinner, make sure he always has his clothes ready for the next day or simply bring a cup of tea. He will have a little bit more time for you then. In life there is a universal rule (unless you are confronted by freeloaders). You give and take. Give more and take more. Give less ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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