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tips for slowly revealing my little side in new relationship?


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Hi everyone!!!! So there's this guy that I really really like... He goes to my college and we've been seeing each other for a few weeks now - we talk 24/7 (two week snapchat streak lol) and we see each other almost every night and I'm getting to know his friends and he's getting to know mine. We're like.... on the way to being possibly, like, a real relationship soon. *HAPPY SQUEALING*

 

There have been good signs with him so far, like him being very very dominant in bed - including choking, hair pulling, varied amounts of spanking, and using handcuffs. Slowly I've been dropping hints and letting him know that I like being called "good girl" and "bad girl", I like saying please/thank you and begging, and sometimes when we joke about me being a "bad girl" I'll ask him "what do you wanna do about that" and then refer to whatever his response is as my "punishment". So BASICALLY I'm slowly trying to gauge his reactions to somewhat DD/lg sexual behaviors and activities..... Very very slowly.....

 

Relating more to my little side (ageplay), I have so far revealed that I have fairy wings that I like to wear sometimes, I love to blow bubbles, I love to do gymnastics, I act very silly with him and sometimes I can be whiny and bratty, whenever we have movie nights I bring my Frozen blankie off of my bed, I like to be picked up and carried (and be put over his shoulder and manhandled), I like to sit on his lap and have him bounce me up and down with his knee, and he's also probably seen the stuffie that I sleep with. OH AND ALSO one time I told him the best way to drink alcohol is out of sippy cups, and that that's what I do when I drink at home.... of course I covered that up by saying it's because you can drink while lying down, but still......

 

I'm not going to fully unpack the DD/lg stuff to him anytime soon because it's still a new relationship, but until then I would like to reveal as much of my little side AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE so that when I finally explain it to him as DD/lg, he'll more understand how normal and part of my personality it already is. Because he clearly already likes the younger aspects of me that he knows, so I'd like to keep it going and gently add more of my... err... more interesting younger behaviors.

 

SO WHAT I'M ASKING is if anyone else has experience doing this with new relationships, and if anyone has tips and ideas for "little things" I can do around him to get him used to seeing me as a little (and hopefully being in a caregiver role himself) before I actually explain DD/lg in all of its weirdness and glory.

 

Thanks everyone for reading this long long post!!!!!!!!!!!

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I don't understand what you think you could be gaining by waiting to let this person know the full story of who you are at this stage. By waiting to tell him who you really are, you run the risk of developing deeper feelings for him, and in leading him on to have deeper feelings for you, without being open with him. That would only make it more painful if he were to realize that your true identity is something he can't deal with. You should have let him know the second you felt you knew him well enough to consider a relationship with him. Better late than never, but you should let him know before your relationship goes any further. 


 


You've already insinuated much about DDlg interest to him, and he has obviously been receptive so that's good news for you. Your tastes however, seem that they could be on the verge of ABDL (maybe?) and so he deserves to know this so that he can make an appropriate emotional decision considering you to be a partner. And you deserve to be yourself, so what are you waiting for? If it's easier to just send him a link to your tumblr page, then do that and give him the opportunity to fully know who he's dealing with. After that, it should be easier to talk about it all, especially since it seems you both seemed to have hit it off in some ways already.


 


I'll quote myself from another similar post:


 


"Your own identity is not worth sacrificing for the sake of having a relationship. The relationship actually isn't as good as you think it is, because you're keeping your true self from your partner. If he doesn't appreciate or understand who you really are, and can't be with you because of it, then you aren't right for each other.


 


Honesty and communication are two of the utmost important qualities of a relationship, and right now you are not sharing either of those things completely. I understand wanting to be in a quality relationship, but the truth is that the quality of your relationship right now is just surface. It's not real yet; not until you discuss your real feelings and communicate who you really are. All of what i've said, by the way, is assuming that being a little is an important and true aspect of who you are and that you feel the need to manifest it more in your life in order to feel fulfilled. If it's something you can live without then you've got no problem if he doesn't want to explore it further. Good luck!"


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Hi!

 

Reading your profile, I can see you have many activities that you like. I'd say you can pretty much do all that when you feel like it! ... I know I did most of these activities with Mommy when we started seing each other. If you are being yourself and the guy Like to spend time with you, that is great. 

 

Putting a name on your interests or relation is not an obligation.. I cannot talk about your relationship, but for me, we first started as friends, became a couple.. and Mommy loved me knowing that I liked to take naps, sleep with my stuffie and watch everything made by Disney. First thing I knew, Mommy was buying me a Stuffie herself and puttin my favorite Little Show on TV. She's calling me her baby since the beginnings of our relation..  Sometime I even think she knows more about my Little side that I even understand.

 

I'd say someone can show plenty of interest for Little activities and find a Caregiver, with a natural interest for that. Not sure it is always working like that, but I think it is possible.  

 

Hope it can help you.

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unless you're considering him for a caregiver, not just a boyfriend I have to disagree with an above post. you don't have to put a label on who you are for him or anyone else. boyfriends don't always equal caregivers. you can date and not need your partner to fill that role, as I'm sure you already know. they are not mutually exclusive. you're still an adult with wants, needs and desires to spend time with other people in that way.

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