First, I woud like to make clear that this is a debate, and there is no right or wrong, which was the point of my original post.
" And guess what? My opinion matters just as much as anyone elses"
Never said the opposite, everybody's opinion matter. Opinions can be discussed, which is what we are doing.
"Guidance IS Domination, it IS power exchange. One guides, one submits to being guided"
Personally, I do not see guidance as a form of domination, it can be, and often is, but it does not have to be. There is a subtle nuance between those two terms, anyone can seek guidance in any circumstances, which does not have to imply any submission or domination.
Here are my researches:
Somehow, many here don't understand what D/s actually is. It is assumed by many here to mean "cruelty", or "force". Submission is often misinterpreted to mean a form of degrading servitude. Because of these misinterpretations, there are many here who then say that D/s isn't or doesn't have to be part of the CG/l dynamic.
I completely agree with you on that, but don't really see where confusion has arisen? Now you might be talking about a general observation and not only the post I made.
I think many people misinterprete what you say because first, as you said yourself, you do not only answer to the post, you also "respond with some generalities that could address the entire community and all who might read it"
And it makes it seem like you're off topic, or stated unsolicited opinions.
Now I understand that might not be your intention, but the way you answer makes it feel like we should feel somehow privileged by your willingness to share your "superior" knowledge. Don't get me wrong, most of your posts are very articulate and informative, however, they can appear a little random and off topic.
"There is a vast lack of understanding of the basic psychological concepts that make up the various BDSM archetypes here. And there is no reason for it because there are vast amounts of resources. All it takes is a couple of google searches and the reading of a few sites to get a basic grasp on these concepts. But it is quite obvious that there are many here who fail to do even that; I'm sure many can agree with that. In turn, it makes it difficult to actually have conversations and debate about DDlg/CG/l when the general knowledge is so low."
Now, with all due respect, it sounds quite condescending and patronising. People are completely free to contribute to this community and forum without having accessed the same sources as yourself. And if you really feel like the level of general knowledge is so low, you are not obliged to engage.
You and I agree on the fact that everybody's opinion matters, and I am glad you have responded to my post.
What my post was about in the first place, is the fact that some people feel the need to tell others, that they do not belong here, and that their opinions are perhaps less worthwhile than others. There is no need for a "DD/LG police" presence; if people can find like-minded friends, comfort and a sense that they have been listened to and understood, they should be welcome here, be they littles, middles, babies, caregivers no matter their perceived role.
Edited by ImABoođźŚ™, 04 January 2017 - 02:20 PM.