I-I'M A LITTLE!! NOT A MOMMY!!

[PrincessMommy45]

I-I'm in a Long Distance Relationship... I've been in a ddlg relationship for a few months now and I'm real new to this. My boyfriend wanted to try mdlb b-but I just couldn't do it. It gave me anxiety.

 

I lie about my anxiety and tell him that he can be my baby boy...but I feel sick the whole time.

 

A few minutes ago my bestfriend (who is also a little) Called me her caregiver. And she said it was because I called her Princess. She doesn't call me mommy o-or anything but I don't know how to tell her... That... I-I just can't be her caregiver anymore. I'm daddy's little girl!!!

 

HELP!!!

[Guest]

Just say you want to be little. You don't feel comfortable in the caregiver position anymore. And your friend should not call you her Dom when you are in a relationship. That's totally disrespectful, friend or not.

[Strawberry Sprinkles]

It's a hard conversation, but you need to be open with your partner. If it helps, write it all down in a letter and give him the letter. Of course, linger around so he can talk to you afterwards. Sometimes it's easier when someone else starts the conversation. 

 

I've been on the reverse end of this. I've always been openly a little and okay with practicing the lifestyle solo. However, my boyfriend felt compelled to take on the Daddy Dom role because he felt it would make me happier. When I found out he was pushing himself, it made me kind of sad. I didn't want it if he didn't want it. Even now I'm too nervous to break out the sippy cups around him (something I used to do all the time) for fear I would make him uncomfortable. 

 

TL/DR:  Don't force yourself into situations that make you uncomfortable because your partner wants you to be happy too.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

You ether are or are not a Dom. Some people are switches, and that's okay too. I have absolutely no dominance in me whatsoever when it comes to my relationships. I can be dominate in my work and with my children when needed but most of the time Daddy handles that, too. You absolutely need to talk to your partner about this.

 

When Daddy and I first started in the BDSM scene, we were simply playing around with D/s. Daddy wanted to try him being the sub one time. I tried it for all of about a minute and started having a panic attack. He let me stop, and hasn't asked since. Would he like for me to be Dominate sometimes? I'm certain every once in a while he would, but he knows it isn't for me and gives me great anxiety, so he doesn't ask any more.

[Thequeen]

I am absolutely blown away that your friend has decided you are her dom and caregiver, that is absolutely absurd. I think the biggest issue you need to deal with first is this one. Tell her you are not. I dont know if she knows your in a relationship or not but no one should ever thrown themselves at someone like that. It is so rude and inconsiderate to you as a person. Now I dont think badly of your friend and you shouldnt either, there is obviously a reason she did what she did but you need to tell her that your not a dom and you cant and will not be that for her. Only once you do this can she have her chance of finding the perfect caregiver for herself, because so long as you fill the role she wont be looking for anyone else which isnt fair to her.

 

Once youve told her this, I believe things with your boyfriend will become easier. You said youve been into ddlg for the past few months, have you told him this perhaps? If not, I recommend you do. Tell him you have been interested in being a little girl for a long time. Maybe instead of flat out saying no to being his mommy maybe you could test out being switches. Some people find its satisfying and I am not by any means saying you need to love it but if you do care about him I think you owe it to both of yourselfs to at least try it so you both can be happy.

 

Now as I said this isnt for everyone so if that doesnt work another idea to think about is perhaps creating a family. You may have stumbled across it occasionally on here or have previously knowledge of it but it is basically multiple partners in various relationship roles. For you I would say if switching doesnt work, you could both talk and if you agree try to find a caregiver for both of you. This caregiver could be sexual or not, in person or long distance, any thing the point would be to allow each other something you can not provide.

 

Now both of these might sound scary but if you actually give it a try it might not be so bad. So I really want you to try to have an open mind. I'm not asking you to be sub or dom at the moment in taking action, I am asking you to be confident. Be confident in what you want, be confident in what you need, be confident in pushing your friend towards a real caregiver for her, be confident in providing the love your boyfriend deserves. It sounds scary but as a person, you always need to be confident so now might be the time to try. 

 

I wish you all the luck and if you want to talk, I would be more than willing just add me

TheQueen

[ScaredLittleKitten]

I'm dealing with something similar myself. I know how you feel. I can't give you advice because I'm not handling my situation well. Just know you are not alone. Try to be brave.

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there !

 

Wow , okay I feel like there is so much ground to cover here but I will keep it short !

 

You say you can't be her caregiver anymore , which to me doesn't make sense. I don't believe you can BE someones' Dom or Caregiver in the first place without first having a serious discussion about it before hand. So either you don't really know how the dynamics work yet or you DID somehow agree to be her Caregiver. To me the answer is simple , tell her you are not her Caregiver and it makes you feel uncomfortable. If you can not do this , than maybe you are too immature to have this type of relationship? It is something to take seriously , as you could hurt other people by not being responsible with your feelings and other peoples' feelings.

 

As well as caring for your friends feelings , you should worry about your significant others feelings as well. Have you ever discussed with him having another person in a relationship with you , sexual or otherwise ? Would you like it if he had a friend who "decided" was his little now ? Other than that , how do you think he would feel if he knew you "felt sick" every time he was in his Baby-boy space... let alone the fact you are lying about it t his face which tells me you might not truly care for him anyway... that can be very traumatizing for ANY little. I hope he is not on this site to read you post. I would feel distraught , and even disgusted with myself if I thought for one second my Daddy "felt sick" the entire time we were in our space. I'm sure most littles would feel discouraged hearing their Caregiver really felt that way , and even betrayed with the amount of vulnerability goes into showing this side of you to someone. 

 

My advice to you would to be honest with both of these people , and maybe re-evaluate whether or not you are ready to be in a relationship like this quite yet util you know what you really want. 

 

Hope this helps.