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Hi cuties!!!! Sorry I've been posting a lot in this forum haha  :heart: 

I just want to ask..

So I talked to this guy.. he's an expat and lives in a city near mine, we talked on Line (a chatting application like Kik). He added me cause he saw me liking a post from an account called "Daddy's Babygirl", he then asked if I was looking for a daddy and I said yes.

After I sent him my requirements, what I like, etc, he said that he's interested and honestly, I'm interested in him too..

But the thing is, I'm 19 (turning 20 this August) and he's 35.. Should I agree to be his little or no? It's just that if I agree, he will be my first daddy, and because I'm looking for a long-term daddy/boyfriend, that would be weird... even though we'll never know if I'll last with him..

What should I do? :(

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I'd treat this like you would any other relationship. Would you date a guy you'd only spoken to for a day? Take the time to get to know him and vice versa before you make any decisions. Jumping right into this dynamic without any real foundation isn't the best idea (in my opinion). Take your time, become friends and progress from there.

 

The age issue, however, it's whatever you make it. If you feel comfortable with that and believe you two can make it work, then awesome! If you feel more comfortable just being friends, that's okay too. I do believe after a certain age gap, people are at different points in their lives, but that's not with everyone and people do make it work. Whatever the case, I hope things work out how you'd like! :)

~Ginger

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What Ginger says is perfect.

 

On precisely this section of the forum,there is a subject called " age difference between daddy and little ",at the moment with over 30 comments. It seems there is no "true way" regarding this; My idea is,when the dynamic is present,bio age takes second place.

Besides,elsewhere on the site you'll see some littles actually mentioning their preference for a partner who's older enough.

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I'd treat this like you would any other relationship. Would you date a guy you'd only spoken to for a day? Take the time to get to know him and vice versa before you make any decisions. Jumping right into this dynamic without any real foundation isn't the best idea (in my opinion). Take your time, become friends and progress from there.

 

The age issue, however, it's whatever you make it. If you feel comfortable with that and believe you two can make it work, then awesome! If you feel more comfortable just being friends, that's okay too. I do believe after a certain age gap, people are at different points in their lives, but that's not with everyone and people do make it work. Whatever the case, I hope things work out how you'd like! :)

~Ginger

 

Hi, Ginger! Thanks for responding! :)

I wouldn't date someone who I've talked for even a week or two, I told him that I'll call him daddy if he earned it cause that's not something to give automatically, but this guys basically just ignore everything I said in my introduction and straight up called himself daddy.. I told him I want to get to know him for at least two months but he's so eager to be my daddy.. so I asked him to introduce himself more, he said he lives in a city near mine and an expat, when I asked how long has he lived there and where he's from he legit ignored me and asked about the sexual intercourse part and what my answer was and how he expects me to want to have sex with him (I've told you in my other post), and like I said in other post, he doesn't respect my wishes.. I think I'm not interested with him cause just like you said, "Jumping right into this dynamic without any real foundation isn't the best idea". And he already jumped into a one sided decision that he's my daddy, which I clearly disagree

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What Ginger says is perfect.

 

On precisely this section of the forum,there is a subject called " age difference between daddy and little ",at the moment with over 30 comments. It seems there is no "true way" regarding this; My idea is,when the dynamic is present,bio age takes second place.

Besides,elsewhere on the site you'll see some littles actually mentioning their preference for a partner who's older enough.

 

Hi, DollDirector! Thanks for responding :)

Yes I fully agree with what Ginger said, and I think this is just me not ready yet with someone who's nearly 15 years older than me..

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Hi, DollDirector! Thanks for responding :)

Yes I fully agree with what Ginger said, and I think this is just me not ready yet with someone who's nearly 15 years older than me..

 

My pleasure. I think you are very polite; From the precisions you are giving us,the guy is pretty creepy and you could well have asked him to have a long enough cold shower before he messages anyone,lol

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Yeah, I think you shouldn't bother with people who jump right into discussing the sexual side of things.  It suggests that he's only interested in you to get his kink on, rather than actually being interested in you.

 

An age difference in this dynamic is common, but at the end of the day you have to consider whether or not that's something that matters to you.  Age gaps matter less as both people involved get older since most people's maturity development slows down a lot in their 20s, whereas someone who's 18 may well change quite a bit in 5 years.

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Totally agree with the others. Age is not the problem here, the issue is that this guy is obvioulsy a jerk who does not take into account your needs.

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I'm in the same age boat as you and honestly I do prefer like 25 to 35 year old men, just because of their maturity, but that is just me. At a point, it does get a little weird, because like someone above said, people are at different points in their lives. But once you get to a certain age, being 30 dating a 40 year old is no big deal. It honestly all up to you though, advise is always helpful, of course. Obviously this guy is not wanting to actually have a real dynamic with you, but it the age thing comes up again, it is honestly about how you feel. Don't push away feelings for someone just because they're older than you. I'm currently talking with a 36 y/o and honestly you forget he is 15 years older because it doesn't end up mattering. I honestly don't even think about it, we like each other and that's all that should matter.

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I think you should be because even though my daddy now wasnt my 1st daddy, he was the the best thing that has ever happened to me. Im 18 my daddy is about 10, 15,  20 years older and he know what is good and whats not good for me because he has been in my place. Take a chance with him he may be the one you've been waiting for.

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Yeah, I think you shouldn't bother with people who jump right into discussing the sexual side of things.  It suggests that he's only interested in you to get his kink on, rather than actually being interested in you.

 

An age difference in this dynamic is common, but at the end of the day you have to consider whether or not that's something that matters to you.  Age gaps matter less as both people involved get older since most people's maturity development slows down a lot in their 20s, whereas someone who's 18 may well change quite a bit in 5 years.

 

 

Totally agree with the others. Age is not the problem here, the issue is that this guy is obvioulsy a jerk who does not take into account your needs.

 

 

I'm in the same age boat as you and honestly I do prefer like 25 to 35 year old men, just because of their maturity, but that is just me. At a point, it does get a little weird, because like someone above said, people are at different points in their lives. But once you get to a certain age, being 30 dating a 40 year old is no big deal. It honestly all up to you though, advise is always helpful, of course. Obviously this guy is not wanting to actually have a real dynamic with you, but it the age thing comes up again, it is honestly about how you feel. Don't push away feelings for someone just because they're older than you. I'm currently talking with a 36 y/o and honestly you forget he is 15 years older because it doesn't end up mattering. I honestly don't even think about it, we like each other and that's all that should matter.

 

 

Thank you all for responding :)

Yes I do feel like he's not interested in getting to know me and doesn't seem to actually want to have a real dynamic with me. It annoys me big time when he's ignoring my needs, wishes and boundaries and automatically jumped into conclusion that I've agreed to have him as my daddy and straight up told me to just "do what daddy says".. And I've decided I won't reply to any of his messages and tell him that I'm not interested in him..

And for the age gaps, I personally don't really like large age gap (10-15 years older than me), but for others who find it doesn't matter then that's good to know :)

Thanks again for the input!

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