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Mommy and Little Boy/Little Girl Representation


DeathMetalPrincess

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I'm not sure how new of a thing ddlg is, but I can imagine the lifestyle itself has been around for at least 10 years, if not a little more so. Anyway, I've noticed, since it did start with ddlg (initially, I assume), there seems to be a large focus on daddies and little girls alone. I want to know about other representations, though. Mommies don't seem to be in the spotlight as much, nor do little boys. It might be the stigma in our society that boys have to be strong and tough, so they tend not to go for the soft and cuddly side of being a little. As for mommies -- well we already see women as kind and nurturing as a sort of default, so does this mean we are more desensitized to it?

What about caregivers in general? By this I mean non-binary caregivers, who may not choose mommy or daddy as their preferred name. Littles can be enby's as well, though.

In any case, I feel like there could, and perhaps should, be a lot more representation than just daddy and little girl. I understand this dynamic is the basis, but it feels somewhat ingrained into the community that this is all there is. My daddy before said that mommies weren't a thing, until I found one a little while later.

I never really considered the idea that there could be daddies and little boys or mommies and little girls together, but I think this is certainly a possibility.

What do you think? Should we be more representative of other dynamics? Are we inclusive enough? Let me know your thoughts and opinions on this. I'd love to hear them!

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Also there are male mommies and female daddies. I think everyone just kind of does what works for them.

 

I know the language we use is important. But we are the ones who choose what words have meaning to us.

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Guest QueenJellybean

I think overall, this community is very open and receptive to changing dynamics and differing relationships and lifestyles. As was stated above, DDLG is an umbrella term, and if it doesn't work for you, you don't have to use it! Many people prefer the term CGL (Caregiver/Little) because it's more gender-inclusive, but all means the same thing! Use whatever terms and labels work for you. 

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I'm actually a NB caretaker, but I use "Daddy". My little is also NB and I fluctuate between calling them girl/boy but most of the time its "little one".

 

I know predominantly in this community its daddys and little girls, but I do know of some others that don't fit that. But I have to agree, some more representation would not be a bad thing. I know, personally for me, I'm slightly reticent to go to CG/l meetups because of the fact that I don't quite fit the normally held idea of a "Daddy" so if there were more, I guess "nontraditional" cg/l's out there then it'd help out those like myself who may feel a bit like the oddball.

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Male ABDL/switch here.

 

From what I've seen and read around the internet and whathaveyou, I haven't really got the impression that the DD/LG lifestyle wouldn't include someone like me. I feel like most articles tend to go out of their way explaining that the DD/LG dynamic includes any gender with any given combination, so that's good. DD/LG in and of itself is just a lot more common and that's fine. CG/L is a better term overall I suppose, but it's nbd as far as I'm concerned.

 

As for the stigma around little boys/mommies, that's a tough one, but there's likely some truth there. I'm semi-okay talking about it now - I haven't been for a long time - however I wouldn't dare put all the blame for my struggles to be open about it on stigma alone. From a personal perspective it would obviously be great to have more Mommies out there; it would make my life seem a lot more meaningful. But I guess all you can do is make sure everyone feels welcome. If we already do that and they're just rare, we can't do much about it.

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