Trying to explain ddlg to boyfriend?

[sneaky_ninja_bunny]

Hi, so I was wondering if anyone had advice? I recently explained to my boyfriend that I'm a little and he seemed to bE okay with it, if not a bit confused. I showed him blogs that had great explanations about the whole dynamic of the relationship and what the community is like but he still seems confused? He said he'didn't be willing to try it and he has tried a little bit to be the best estate daddy ever. It'seems just he seems to think it's a dynamic thing that's meant only for the bedroom...I don't know how to explain to him that it isn't only a bedroom activity...

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hi, so I was wondering if anyone had advice? I recently explained to my boyfriend that I'm a little and he seemed to bE okay with it, if not a bit confused. I showed him blogs that had great explanations about the whole dynamic of the relationship and what the community is like but he still seems confused? He said he'didn't be willing to try it and he has tried a little bit to be the best estate daddy ever. It'seems just he seems to think it's a dynamic thing that's meant only for the bedroom...I don't know how to explain to him that it isn't only a bedroom activity...

For some people, it IS only a bedroom activity. The advice I have for you is sit down and make a list of what YOU want from this dynamic. How often you want it, the level, if any, of power exchange you want. If you want rules or not. Punishments or not. Define every detail of how you want the dynamic to be. Then sit down with him and discuss. Explain what everything is if he seems confused, and you may need to discuss at multiple different times so as not to overwhelm him.

 

Once he understands what the different parts of DDlg are and what you want... find out what HE wants. Then, be willing to compromise. Remember, just because you guys decide something now doesn't mean you can't revisit later and change your choices. In fact, I encourage you to revisit your dynamic every few months or with any change in either of you and decide what works best. Life is ever changing and so are most DDlg dynamics. Best of luck.

[Grizzly bear]

For me, ddlg is like a religion. There are guidelines, beliefs and acceptable behaviors. As with a religion, ddlg is not some role play, it is a belief and a way of life. The only way for a little to truly be happy and feel fulfilled, is to have a true daddy to nurture her little side and take bring a daddy as the most important thing in his life. Not every boyfriend starts out as a daddy, everyone started somewhere, but they have to be willing to not only accept the way of life, but totally emerse themselves in it. Now that I'm a daddy, dating someone who wasn't a little would be like dating someone who didn't speak English.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

This thread might help: DDlg - The Serious  End of Things