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Guest Littlepanda666

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He sounds condescending, belittling someones passion is horrible, tell him how it made you feel, some people might not know when they say stupid things sometimes especially if they're nervous.

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I did I said why would you say that? Is it wrong for me to be passionate about something I enjoy and love doing.. he said well that's pathetic why not do something better with your life.. and the sad part is I met him on here.. he wanted to be my daddy.. but then he said that and honestly it killed me inside... Edited by Littlepanda666
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Great question.  First, I agree with others that there is no excuse for rude behavior.  littlepanda, I'm sorry you had that experience.  That said, let's considere what our response should be in times like this.  We could decide to basically write a person like this off as an idiot.  When my feelings are hurt or I am frustrated, I have the temptation to do this.  Another option is to decide not to simply write the person off (at least not yet) and see if there is more to the person than their initial rudeness seemed to indicate.

 

To be good at ballet takes a LOT of time, effort, sacrifice, and pain.  Very few outside of the community understand the level of involvement over the years that it takes to be good.  littlepanda, you DO know.  You've put in the work, as such, a part of your heart is invested there.  That is why his comment hurt you as it did.  He has not had that investment in ballet.  To him, ballet is just another activity and (in my assumption of his view) as such he is baffled that you could be passionate about it instead of one of "all the other things in the world to be passionate about."  

 

You asked, "What would you guys have done in a situation like that?"  One could explain why ballet (or whatever the passion was) is so important in their lives in hopes of helping the other person gain a better understanding.  They could turn the conversation around and ask the other person the same question.  When they answer, then use that to give them the opportunity to explain why that is such a passion for them.  Most people like talking about themselves, so this will be a positive experience for him, but it will also build a foundation of understanding that you can use to then explain your passion for ballet. He may still not get it.  Many people don't.  If not, at that point, evaluate the friendship/relationship and decide if it's something you wish to continue or not and move forward accordingly.

 

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oh noes!! :( i'm so sorry you experienced that.

you should give him a piece of your mind and then block him or something! >///<

he is not worth your tears!!

 

don't be sad... :(

it is perfectly okay for you to enjoy dancing!! :)

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Guest MasterPhotog

I agree with others and feel sorry for this wannabee Daddy's lack of intelligence and child-like reaction to your passion. 

Your passion for dancing and for wanting to be in ballet is something to be proud of and nothing to make you feel bad about. 

You don't need people who are not supportive of your passion or who make you feel bad about it.

How someone makes you feel is usually a good way to tell if this person is that you want to continue chatting or not. 

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i'm sorry you had to go through that :( we all have different things that make us truly happy, driven and alive. i don't think he realizes the complexity and beauty of ballet. I have studied ballet before so i know how you feel~ try explaining to him why and how it makes you passionate. if he doesn't understand, forget about him. leave the toxic people out of your life. people who are close minded like that will have difficulty understanding people and will always think they are right. don't be sad by his comment~ just because he said that doesn't mean it's true ~ ballet is beautiful and is a wonderful thing to be passionate about ~ and so are you ^ u ^

 

Cheer up, buttercup <3

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It is possible to be rude to someone unintentionally,and it's great to be given a second chance and explain yourself.

 

If I understand well,you gave the guy that second chance and he used the word "pathetic"; Perhaps his conscience trying to speak to him ? 

This being said,this character leaves the set.

 

What is important is what this story says about you.

Many people behind their screen loose touch with reality. You have to know this and mange your way,manage protecting yourself from rudeness but at the same time don't over-rant and stay open. 

A challenge for all of us,in fact !

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What a jerk. Don't take it personally. People like him don't deserve the time of day. Any real daddy would be sad to hear that their little can't do the things they love most. Of I were you I'd stop talking to this person asap. He could be a fake trying to use you
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I know it hurts, especially since you wanted him to be your daddy. But any sort of relationship, especially DD/lg relationships, rely on open communication an acceptance. If he can't respect what your passions are out of littlespace, who is to say that he can respect you as a whole in littlespace. It sounds to me that, as much as you might want him to be your daddy, that will not be the healthiest course of action in the long run.

 

It hurts when people belittle your passions, but they make up who you are. Anyone who treads on that does not deserve the time of day from you. You are worth so much more than that.

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Guest StrawberryMonsterMix
Daddies are supposed to encourage us and help us grow as people in whichever way we choose to grow. :( He's not a very good Daddy. I'd avoid him. That's just my advice.
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I did I said why would you say that? Is it wrong for me to be passionate about something I enjoy and love doing.. he said well that's pathetic why not do something better with your life.. and the sad part is I met him on here.. he wanted to be my daddy.. but then he said that and honestly it killed me inside...

People not only daddies should support your ambitions and dreams and give encouragement to build you up!  If more people did this the world would truly be a better place!

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A Daddy is there to build you up and encourage you - This arsehat tried to tear you down before really even getting to know you. I'd say the trash took itself out and you dodged a bullet, Princess! 

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