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just_a_little_kitty

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Hi I'm new to this thing so sorry if I do this wrong. So anyway my problem is my daddy won't let me see his phone and he gets really defensive about it and I'm scared he's talking the other people. .. I'm very loyal and give him everything I have and I don't know what to do I'm very scared... and the other night I asked him about ifunny and if he had and account and I was freaking out because there's lots of Littles on there including me and I don't know if he has a dom account... if any little is taking with a dom named trevor please kik me at adiaskellington thank you for your time <3
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Two of the most important factors in creating and sustaining intimate relationships are trust and communication. His defensive nature is a bright red flag.

 

Pick a time when your partner can give you his full attention, keep your tone as calm and level as possible, describe your feelings (rather than attack with them), and remember that communicating is a two-way street.

 

If he becomes defensive and hostile, don't shrug it off. Sever your bonds and end the relationship. Consistent drama stemming from lack of trust in long-term relationships makes both parties miserable.

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The best way to approach it is level headed and honest about the way YOU feel less on what HE is doing. This is one of the things that Daddy and I strive for (but do not always succeed at) When we are trying to fight like reasonable people.

For example in your case.

I feel uncomfortable that you are so defensive about your phone and on-line activities.
It makes me feel as if you have something to hide.

I want to trust you but I feel as if you are hiding things and giving me reasons not to trust.

I would like if we could be more open and sharing. I am willing to show you mine as well.

 

It addresses what the problem is without saying your doing this thing and i don't like it. It's a matter of I feel like you are doing this thing and I dont like it. It's a very tiny shift of blame but it usually helps for constructive discussion. 

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Thank you guys:) I'm going to talk with him today I hope it goes well ill use your advice for sure thank you so much:) <3
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I would really say, go and sit down and talk to him. And have a real talk. express to him your concer and why this makes you uncomfortable, and that you don't like that its making you uncomfortable.

 

I've been cheated on before, and my daddy has been too. So we both are really open with what we are doing on our personal messaging systems, it also helps with the coping of anxiety. And we both want to do it. 

 

I hope this all turns out well for you. 

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