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okay so me and daddy we have kinda fighting laity cause im not super sexual like he is specially when im in little space, and i feel bad for it guilty even bit its just not who i am and i dont know what to do i tryed talking to him about it and he said he will try and work on not being so sexual with me but he still has been and it makes me feel bad cause i cant help him. he said hes not mad that im not sexual but i feel like he is. I just dont want him to end up like my last daddy and only talk to me when he needs a sexual favor. 

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This might be a little out there but have you considered maybe he can fulfill that need with another partner someone you can both mutually agree on and would take that stress off of you?

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You should never feel guilty or ashamed of being who you are, especially when it comes to sexual matters. My suggestion is that try to meet in the middle somewhere you are both happy. Neither one of you should be expected to do all the changing, but you also shouldn't do anything that you aren't comfortable with. Talk with him about what specifically you are and aren't okay with, and find out what he is and isn't okay with. Hopefully you can find a happy place between where you both stand, but if you just can't find that place, you two might not be right for each other.

Keep in mind this is all coming from someone who has never been in a ddlg relationship, so take it with a grain of salt... I hope you two can figure it out and be happy together.

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This might be a little out there but have you considered maybe he can fulfill that need with another partner someone you can both mutually agree on and would take that stress off of you?

Sounds good, doesn't work.

 

@ShyLittleLee He said he'll work on it and he hasn't which is a red flag in my opinion. Also if you're a non sexual little and he obviously wants a sexual one then that's a compatibility issue. You have to think about yourself and your needs too... breaking up isn't the end of the world.

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I'm kinda with Prat and Jotck8 on this one.

I don't know if breaking up is the "correct" thing to do, and I don't know the whole situation. But incompatibility is a real thing. If it turns out you aren't right for each other, it's best to go your separate ways. Which might be hard.

But, yeah, make sure you're clear and you lay everything out there. Talk about things. See where both of you can compromise a bit(if you feel comfortable doing that) and go from there. If he continues to do things you're not comfortable with, that shows a lack of respect for you and it's probably best to go.

 

 

Oh, and opening up the relationship... eh you have to be careful with that.

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Actually I need to amend my original post here. The opening the relationship should only be done with a couple in a stable, long and well established relationship where you two are constantly communicating.

 

That aside, you both clearly have a bit to work out so it's probably not a good time to open the relationship. I agree with everyone else that has posted. If he's looking for a sexual little and you are not, there are compatibility issues to work on. And it's a red flag if he said he'll work on something and nothing changed. It can hurt to move past a relationship that you believed was what you were looking for but you deserve peace of mind, security and the love you want in a relationship. There's only one you and that makes you special you deserve to have your needs met.

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This might be a little out there but have you considered maybe he can fulfill that need with another partner someone you can both mutually agree on and would take that stress off of you?

yeah i talked to him about that and he said he couldnt do that even though i was okay with it

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Sounds good, doesn't work.

 

@ShyLittleLee He said he'll work on it and he hasn't which is a red flag in my opinion. Also if you're a non sexual little and he obviously wants a sexual one then that's a compatibility issue. You have to think about yourself and your needs too... breaking up isn't the end of the world.

yeah i know its not the end of the world if we did break  up and right from the get go i told him i wasnt sexual cause of what happend with my ex and he said it was completely fine and now it seems like its a big deal for him

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