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    #1 Girlyd

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    Posted 06 November 2017 - 03:04 PM

    Hey, Im a bratty little I mean not all the time but can be sometimes. Me and my dom is running out of ideas for punishments especially since we are long distance this makes it a little harder.



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    Posted 06 November 2017 - 06:36 PM

    What have you tried so far?

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    Posted 07 November 2017 - 12:51 PM

    skype and sit in a corner or spank yourself.

     

    write lines.

     

    write an apology letter.

     

    honestly if none of the punishments he uses end up fixing/helping your behavior there's probably a bigger problem going on.


    Edited by neko, 07 November 2017 - 12:52 PM.

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    #4 Girlyd

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    Posted 10 November 2017 - 03:03 PM

    ok thanks we will try lines and apology letters etc

    I have also tried spanks with hand, talking privaleges taken away as well



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    Posted 11 November 2017 - 04:07 PM

    I'm a new Daddy but these are punishments I have used in similar dynamics for LDR:

     

    1.  Teach humility by taking away accessories and forcing plain dress.  Nothing shiny, nothing sensual, nothing but plain cotton in mute tones.  Surprise, live photo updates through the day make for easy enforcement with strict time limits on replying.

     

    2.  Teach patience for rewards by preparing pomegranate.

     

    3.  Teach respect for possessions by having to break a favorite pen/barrette/toy and then using their own funds to replace it.

     

    Those are three I can think of off the top of my head.  If you give me more specifics of how you misbehave, I can better tailor the punishment.


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    #6 Girlyd

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    Posted 13 November 2017 - 12:38 PM

    Thank you for those ideas they would defiently help. mine is probably swearing thats the worse.



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    Posted 13 November 2017 - 02:15 PM

    Thank you for those ideas they would defiently help. mine is probably swearing thats the worse.

    Language ... I've used traditional punishments like soap or bitter herbs or putting parts of your allowance in a 'swear jar' and then having to use the money to buy something to donate to the less fortunate like Toys for Tots.  I've also used rubber bands around the wrist to 'pop' or 'snap' each time a swear word comes to mind or is spoken.  Writing lines that require you to come up with lists of twenty nice things to say or polite ways to disagree have been effective as well.


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    Posted 15 November 2017 - 07:33 AM

    Thank you! this is really helpful!



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    Posted 15 November 2017 - 11:57 AM

     
    3.  Teach respect for possessions by having to break a favorite pen/barrette/toy and then using their own funds to replace it.
     


    I think breaking things up somebody else's is not a very good punishment yeahitI might be a cheap easily replaced item but in my opinion it shows and lack of disrespect towards the little and her belongings.


    Edited by Mr F'ing Grinch, 15 November 2017 - 12:13 PM.

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    Posted 15 November 2017 - 12:07 PM

    3.  Teach respect for possessions by having to break a favorite pen/barrette/toy and then using their own funds to replace it.

     

    As a little, that's a horrible idea! And the saying goes "you break it, you bought it." The little probably bought that from their own money, now you're making them rebuy it? YOU should be the one to replace the item (if it can even BE replaced). And what happens if it's something that was special made or picked out for them from someone in their life? That's irreplaceable. It's disrespectful of your little and his/her things, if it's theirs it's theirs. Even if it was a gift from their dom, once it was given to them it was theirs. So another person has no room to break something of theirs. Kneeling on pencils, writing lines, time out from stuffies, etc. Are all fine punishments. But not destroying something in their possession, that's along the lines of something like time outs from daddy. It's not healthy or right. And if you think breaking another person's valuables (even if you don't see them as such) isn't a huge line that should be crossed. You need to rethink morals further before finding a little. If my daddy broke or made me break a pen of mine (I have a bunch of pens I love) I would literally cry and be unable to replace it and that would be the end of that relationship faster than he could blink. Cuz that goes a million miles past power play to abusive behavior. And it's also a good way to make your little fear you. My cousins would break my toys so whenever they were around I would have to lock my door or hide my toys in fear of them breaking something of mine. It's along the same lines. Something small and in your mind inexpensive could have HUGE sentimental value to a person (little or not). And especially if it's a favorite. That's also teaching your little that you don't respect her or her belongings (respect both ways is a major part in powerplay.) It teaches her to fear violence as watching someone she's supposed to love break or have her break something which is violent and cruel. It teaches fear, not respect. I pity any little who has to go through that. Makes me sick just thinking about it.


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    Posted 15 November 2017 - 01:06 PM

    I can now see where in this context my third suggestion (break/replace an item) would cause more harm than good.  It's a technique left over from my D/s expereince that I thought might carry over.  After reading through how the Little would perceive this punishment I have to whole-heartedly agree it should be abandoned.

     

    Anything that causes more trauma in the submissive isn't healthy as a Master, Dom, or any other role.

     

    I used this technique in two specific situations where my sub wanted to learn to be less materialistic and more conscientious about their borderline hoarding.  They were the ones doing the breaking at my request and had every right to refuse if the item was irreplaceable or held significant sympathetic value.  It was more of a challenge exercise on what truly held value, what constituted a 'favorite', and was designed to serve as a way to get them to see how their cognitive behavior had become skewed or maladaptive.

     

    I appreciate your feedback and willingness to call out my oversight in looking at this from the Little's point of view.


    Edited by JayRingo77, 15 November 2017 - 01:09 PM.

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    Posted 28 November 2017 - 04:09 PM

    Hopefully one of these topics will give you some ideas:

     

    LDR Punishments for Bratty Littles

    Long Distance Punishments

    Cgl Over Distance

    Long Distance Punishment

    Rules and Punishments in LDR

    Digital Rules/Consequences

    Long Distance

    Punishments

    Punishment and Correction Tactics

    Punishment List

    Odd/Different Punishments







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