New to DDLG Community w/ Questions

[LilBean]

Hello!

Nice to meet you all. I am very nervous and feeling a bit out of place here, however, it is only because this is a new experience for me. So, I have finally come to terms that I am a Little (with a mix of Middle), I adore when Daddy calls me his "Babygirl" and "Little-One". I love when he kisses me and makes me feel safe too.

 

I am just having a hard time figuring myself out. For my entire life, I've always been pretty independent-- I was forced to grow up quickly, but I've always had a child-like side to me. How do I embrace the Little side of me and completely rely on Daddy? 

 

My biggest worry is that I am annoying him, even though he was the one to introduce me to dd/lg. Also, I am a natural caretaker as well, so I feel like I am super (overly) worried about him instead of taking his affection. What I mean by that, is when we are cuddling, I constantly ask him if his arm feels numb when I lay on it. Or when I pay for things when we go out and do excursions that I want to do.

 

Am I just overthinking it as well? The adult size battling my little side?

 

 

[Guest PianoPlayer]

Could you be a switch? That would allow you to be little with him, but also be a caregiver to him (if he also switches) or someone else

[Puppy]

I think you may be overthinking it a little! There are no rules, or guidelines. DDlg and how you identify with that lifestyle is as unique to yourself as you want it to be! Do not worry about the labels, or what you may or may not be. Worry about the things you are sure of.

 

You can be both a little and middle! I am both. Sometimes I feel more little, and sometimes I feel more like a middle. Sometimes I'm not really sure where I fall other than in between the two. And that's okay. If you want to make it easier on yourself, just call yourself a little. There is no true definition to how "young" a little has to be. I refer to myself as a little more than a middle, even when it's not necessarily the case. "Little" is a broad blanket term for most of us submissives in a DDlg dynamic, and can further be customized to fit each individual.

 

If you're worried you're annoying him, communicate that with me. Communication is so important and just simply letting him know how you're feeling can be the solution to solving those feelings. Let him know, and I'm sure he'll have reassurance for you!

 

As for you being a natural caretaker, that can be a few different things. You could be a switch, who has some Caretaker like qualities. You could also still just be a very caring, worrying little who does not want their Daddy's arm to go dumb. As for paying for things and such, that may be your adult side just doing what adults do, or as I said, you could definitely have Caretaker qualities.

 

 

Just always remember no matter what, you're the only one who can say what you are and what you aren't. Don't ever let somebody tell you you're not a little, or that you're not a Caretaker. If you identify as something, and that is how you feel, don't let somebody take that away from you.

 

And just try to have fun, and enjoy the dynamic with your partner! You can sort out all the finer details with time. You don't need a definite label. It's all about just enjoying what you're doing and sharing the experience with your partner. 

[Princesscuppiecake]

I’m also having a problem because I’m an independent woman IRL. It’s hard to sit back and let Daddy do it all. I feel he gets stressed and I can carry some of that on me. But he doesn’t want me to worry. That’s when you as caretaker can meet Daddy’s needs.

 

But he does appreciate that sometimes it’s nice I treat or offer to do something.

 

When in doubt, just ask Daddy.