Miss_behaved Posted March 22, 2018 Report Share Posted March 22, 2018 So I’ve become aware that I’m not quite the most respectful sub/Little. I am very attractive and it seems that when I’m in social settings without my daddy, I get hit on or other Doms approach me and seem to be “interviewing” me when really I just think it’s friendly chatter. I end up spending time with them creating friendships so that when I go to kink events, I’m not sitting there awkwardly. My problem is that even though I inform them I have a daddy and am not interested, my flirty personality makes it difficult and probably confuses the lines a bit and then I have to back track. My question is, how can I be respectful yet not hurt peoples feelings or be confrontational (because that I am not) while also being friendly and slightly flirty? This did not come out the way I wanted it to but hopefully some of you guys can understand lol. I don’t want to rewrite it haha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gobacktosleep Posted March 22, 2018 Report Share Posted March 22, 2018 It sounds like you don't need to do anything different. You've made your situation clear and there is definitely nothing wrong with being flirtatious. Sadly, if you are attractive, guys will probably still try their luck, and it would be up to you to reiterate your situation where necessary. Which i can imagine getting tiresome. I think flirty refusal is the best response there, if you are enjoying the interaction; the old 'I know you're trying to hit on me, but i've told you, i'm spoken for' with accompanying cheeky smile. However, if you are tired of it, overwhelmed, or just being polite a sincere, 'I am spoken for' but that does invite that person to stop talking to you completely. It's difficult and a catch 22, but if a guy is genuinely respectful, they shouldn't take offence to either response. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SUeB Posted March 22, 2018 Report Share Posted March 22, 2018 If you're flirty, then most guys will take that as you are available. Many people who say they are in relationships give out signals that means the relationship doesn't mean they won't fool around with someone else. Men are usually very simple creatures. You flirt, they think they've scored. Simples. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Arc Posted March 22, 2018 Report Share Posted March 22, 2018 I'm a naturally flirty person but I know where boundaries are and when it is not appropriate. I think it's just something you need to learn. But if you've made it clear that you are taken and not looking then it's partially on them as well if their feelings get hurt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TwilightSparklez Posted March 22, 2018 Report Share Posted March 22, 2018 If it's a kink event your Daddy putting a collar on you would work wonderfully But in all seriousness, there are boundaries when it comes to flirting just as there are boundaries when a person tells you they are taken. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss_behaved Posted March 23, 2018 Author Report Share Posted March 23, 2018 If it's a kink event your Daddy putting a collar on you would work wonderfully But in all seriousness, there are boundaries when it comes to flirting just as there are boundaries when a person tells you they are taken. Hehe i agree! I would love to be collared but were still new-ish so I'm not holding my breath. Although, my birthday is tomorrow and I'm kinda hoping he just might. I had to backtrack with the guy I was talking to and clear things up. I explained my flirty nature but that I love my daddy and will not disrespect him by entertaining anything else. It went well and the guy was like, yeah no disrespect so if it ever escalates, i can get angry and cut off the friendship. Its just hard because this happens ALL THE TIME. Im a social butterfly and need to come with a warning label ;p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Arc Posted March 23, 2018 Report Share Posted March 23, 2018 You can wear a collar without being collared. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ~*~Sachita~*~ Posted April 17, 2018 Report Share Posted April 17, 2018 You can wear a collar without being collared. I often wear a fake wedding ring when I go out because I detest being hit on. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frog Posted April 17, 2018 Report Share Posted April 17, 2018 This is coming from the male perspective. I'm mostly dominant, but I guess not in the usual sense of being a full Dom. Don't worry about their feelings. I know this may be difficult, because you're asking for help. So you care about others' feelings. Sometimes in life you have to hurt feelings, break eggshells, rip a bandage off, all that. I'm not saying this to be mean. Let's be honest, as someone else said, if you're flirty, quite a few will interpret that as a definite interest in the subject of your flirting. They need to be set straight. If they hit on you, then politely say something like no thanks, I'm in a relationship, etc. If they push it, they're being mean. At that point, their feelings don't matter because they're tossing your feelings away. You have every right in the world to be flirty. It's normal for some to guess you may have an interest, but you have the right to tell them that no, you're not available and it's part of your personality. If they don't want to or can't understand that, then that's their problem. You and your daddy come first, and they come second and beyond. You're not doing anything wrong by telling them that. And you're not doing anything wrong with being flirty. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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