Her_First_Daddy Posted March 28, 2018 Report Share Posted March 28, 2018 Hey! So I'm kind of a new caregiver but I'm trying my best and going off of what my little tells me she wants. But I've come across a bit of a problem. I've set rules for my little, and she knows the consequences for breaking them, and how many times she can break each one before I punish her (She breaks them a lot). But my problem is that she won't accept her punishment. She will refuse to do lines or time outs no matter what I say, and we're long distance so I can't physically punish or enforce her punishments. She has said that she does want rules and punishments to go with them, but still refuses to follow them. I've considered denying phone time or texting as a punishment that she has no choice but to follow, but she gets really anxious when I do things like that. Is there anyway I could make her follow rules and punishments even though we're long distance? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessLilBug Posted March 28, 2018 Report Share Posted March 28, 2018 (edited) Here's a topic kinda similar to yours that I remembered about from a bit ago, maybe the advice on there will help? https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/31479-hello-new-here-and-i-need-some-advice/?hl=follow&do=findComment&comment=160815 Basically you can't be expected to enforce rules if she doesn't follow them. You need to have a discussion with her about how you're supposed to do that because genuinely it's impossible unless you have different serious punishments. Edited March 28, 2018 by PrincessLilBug 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Spookycupcake Posted March 28, 2018 Report Share Posted March 28, 2018 Me and my daddy are long distance most of the time, but we do get to see each other in person so it might be different. I rarely break rules but when we first started being a couple, I broke them a lot more often to see his limits. And he punished me and I followed it, so I guess that's different. Like I did as I was told because I respected what he said. We came up with rules, we came up with punishments and idk if she respects you and wants to be with you she needs to obey...I understand sometimes that people are trying to test the limits but idk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RavenclawPrincess Posted March 28, 2018 Report Share Posted March 28, 2018 Oh...there really is only so much you can do. When other punishments don't work I get time outs from daddy for a set period of time and that always sets me straight. Maybe it won't make her so anxious if you without contact within specific time frames and she knows exactly how long it'll last and when her punishment is over? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sleepless Posted March 28, 2018 Report Share Posted March 28, 2018 After reading your post, I believe the best route would be to put a temporary "pause" on your rules. Chances are she really wants rules and punishments, so taking away the rules is a punishment itself. While on your pause from the rules, it would be a good time to really develop your relationship more fully with less kink. If your relationship is more developed before you bring the rules back in then chances are you will both be more understanding of the expectations you have for each other and she will be less likely to test you. A big part of it is probably immaturity on her part, but everyone is immature sometimes. Explain to her that a relationship involving kink requires a lot of maturity and personal responsibility to keep everything safe, so until she can show some more maturity the rules will go on a pause. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RavenclawPrincess Posted March 28, 2018 Report Share Posted March 28, 2018 That's really smart, MachoPrincess! Excellent advice! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Illy Posted March 28, 2018 Report Share Posted March 28, 2018 After reading your post, I believe the best route would be to put a temporary "pause" on your rules. Chances are she really wants rules and punishments, so taking away the rules is a punishment itself. While on your pause from the rules, it would be a good time to really develop your relationship more fully with less kink. If your relationship is more developed before you bring the rules back in then chances are you will both be more understanding of the expectations you have for each other and she will be less likely to test you. A big part of it is probably immaturity on her part, but everyone is immature sometimes. Explain to her that a relationship involving kink requires a lot of maturity and personal responsibility to keep everything safe, so until she can show some more maturity the rules will go on a pause. Im not going to say anything. MachoPrincess nailed it directly on the head. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Prat Posted March 28, 2018 Report Share Posted March 28, 2018 Try this: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12632-cgl-over-distance/?p=68819%27%5DCgl Side note - not all littles / caregivers are compatible with LDRs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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