How to live the subtle little space life: SLSL!

[Guest Daffodil]

How to live the subtle little space life (SLSL) for LBs and LGs

 

 

 

I am a 22-year-old undergraduate being a little.... can be difficult to sometimes achieve, especially when I share a house with someone else.

Little space can be a private, but also very vulnerable time for a little. Traditionally little space is a ‘mind set’ or a ‘place’ that a little metaphorically goes to when they are feeling their little age. However little space, just like favourite colours or stuffies, is different to everyone. Some live their life always being a percentage of a little, some are very black and white (adult or little), and other go in and out. It could be seen as a spectrum; depending on how little or adult you feel depends on where you are on the spectrum. But that’s just one interpretation.

Regardless to how you and what your little space is like; it is personal to you, I have a few tips on how to cope when you either want to be little but cannot, or you are feeling little but are in an involuntary adult moment (such as socialising with people, work, college, uni etc). Some people find it easy to shut off their ‘little brain’, and others will be sat that hearing it scream at them while it throws the nearest available pillow. Here are just a few things that i use to help me!

 

Clothes

 

I find that with clothes, it can sometimes be easier for LGs opposed to LBs, as some LGs find skirts, dungarees, shorts a way to satisfy their little side, without it being too obvious. Of course, that won’t stop LB’s from being able to find something that can also support them. Some little related clothes are popular fashionable items, such as frilly socks, cute skirts, coloured shorts etc. Trial a few items and see how you feel. You might find you need more than one piece of clothing to make you feel more comfortable.

All of this depends I think on what you’re wearing and where to. You might be going to work with a specific uniform, or maybe an event. or you could just have nothing subtle enough to wear on the outside, especially if you find playsuits, or onesies the most appropriate choice.

The way I have coped, is with choice of underwear! I have a selection of underwear that are my ‘little’ pants/undies; they’re not specially made underwear, but the style, fit, colour and over all feel make me feel little. LBs might feel more comfortable in a brief instead of the typical boxers, but again its what you’re comfortable with.

There are alsorts of LGs and LBs type underwear that are available, or you might already own some that you like; could be the colour, or the pattern on them. This can be a great way to make you feel supported, without it being obvious.

Choice of bra can also make LGs feel more comfortable, the typical cupped bra can feel very adult, or you might have bras that don’t look little at all. If you’re able to go braless that can sometimes be comforting (obviously this depends on your little age and how comfortable you are with that and such), however sport/wireless/crop tops can be a nice substitute. I have a few that are baby pink bralet and bottom sets, and the soft fabric can make me feel more comfortable, alongside feeling like I am wearing suitable undies for my ‘age’.

Socks; thigh high socks make me feel little, as do frilly rimmed edged ones; I have successfully worn both of these under my work trousers, and no one knew but me.

COLOURRRRRRRRRRRRRR: for me pinks, purples, blacks and teals make me feel little (I know black...), but it's personal to all littles. Maybe if you can't go all the way, just a light change of colour might make you feel more supported, and it's very subtle as well. 

 

Drinks and Food

 

Drinks that make me feel little;

©     Juice boxes

©     Flavoured milk

©     Watered down fresh juice

©     Smoothies

©     Ice cream milkshakes

©     Squash

 

Sometimes its not the drink itself, but what you drink it out of that can support SLSL, I find anything without a spout (like the Lucozade style bottles) can mimic sippy cups if you like those. Lots of water bottles have these typed spouts that can feel nice, but also make you feel more comfortable. I also have a huge love for those water bottles with built in straws; they 100% help me, because straws make me feel little (that’s why I love juice boxes so much). A lot of these bottles you can’t see through, so if you wanted chocolate milk or something and don’t feel comfortable to drink it in front of others, you can disguise it that way.

The way you even hold the mug/cup/bottle can help me as well. If I am an adult I drink my drink with one hand, but the minute I go near little space; two hands straight away. It’s typically a way for children to support independent drinking, however its really subtle. A lot of people who suffer from muscular difficulties or dyspraxia, etc. have found that using both hands support them to be independent to avoid spillages; there are a variety of non-little reasons why people do this. So it’s very unlikely someone would see it and think; YOU’RE ACTING LIKE A CHILD OH MY GOD.

 

Foods that make me feel little;

©     Yoghurts WITHOUT BITS (okay if I am an adult)

©     Jaffa cakes

©     Oreos

©     Cereal

©     Ice cream

©     Jelly

©     Butterfly cakes

©     Plain pasta

©     Anything I can eat with my fingers

©     Spaghetti Bolognaise

©     String cheese

©     Rice

©     Potato smillies/faces/numbers/stars/waffles

©     TURKEY DINOSAURSSSSSSS

©     Carrot and cucumber sticks

©     Sandwiches cut into cute shapes!

©     Soft boiled eggs with marmite on toast soilders

 

Just like drinks, food can be eaten slightly differently in a way that can be subtle! I find either using a bigger spoon to make my mouth seem smaller, or a smaller spoon to make me feel like I am tiny can be something really simple and comforting. I personally don't like big spoons, and I eat everything with a tea spoon. Give it a trial, see how you feel, and experiment what is good for you. 

There are so many ways you can eat something in a little way, just have a play with things, a lot of the things on the list you can incorporate into an ‘adult’ looking lunchbox.

You can try having cuter lunch boxes, I know it seems silly and simple, but I have a Japanese bentō box that makes me feel little when I eat from it.

I love yoghurts as well! Especially without bits, EW.

 

 

 

Behaviour and environment

 

There are a variety of slight behaviour changes that could support SLSL.

Chair raising; as a little I like to feel small... and that’s not exactly hard for someone who is 5 ft 3 ½ hah! However, the average desk chair I can sit at and my feet sit firmly on the floor or on the peddles available. I like to make my chair higher so that my feet just dangle, and I can swing them freely. This might be a little more difficult if you’re taller, but you could always try putting your feet on a small table under your desk. Can mimic the feeling of being sat at a playing table, or just like a little.

Pen lids and small cylindrical objects. I don’t use a dummy or pacifier; however, I am very much orally fixated. I enjoy having things (in a non-sexual way) in and around my mouth. The pressure on my teeth, tongue and gums is very therapeutic to me. A lot of littles use their mouth to feel and taste things; so sucking on, or tasting the end of a pen or something hard but soft; can sometimes help with oral cravings. There is a nasal inhaler I have to relieve a stuffy nose, and the lid is a great size and shape once I take the label off. It does its job, but it feels nice, and could impersonate the dummy shape.

This is very much a personal thing I think, as some people might not feel comfortable chewing or sucking on things in public, however use the common habits people have to your advantage; like pen chewing or holding things between their teeth while they type or something.

 

 

Bedroom

 

Here are some things that have helped me with my bedroom;

©     Fairy lights

©     Canopy

©     Pillows

©     Cushions

©     Stuffies

©     Blankets/layers

©     Music; I like ocean sounds

 

I uploaded a picture of my room on a separate post I did: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/31767-little-space-friendly-décor/#entry162198 

I am very much a girly girly so I think in some way I can get away with the everything IS SUPER PINK AND SPARKLYYYYYY! But I spend pretty much all of my time in my room at the moment, so I find this really helps, mostly when I am about to sleep I love being able to look up at the canopy and the lights.

From a more neutral perspective, stuffies and toys and blankets can easily be hidden in boxes under beds/on top of wardrobes, under old hoodies or other clothes. 

However, if you are unable to do those things, I find lots of pillows very reassuring, it feels like I am in this massive marshmallow! Or a pillow fort! I currently have EIGHT pillows in my bed with me. Again, give it a try, it might work, it might not.

The texture of bedding can also be considered as well; I knew a little once who loved satin fabric and it made her jump head first into little space. So you could try bedding fabrics to be subtle as well.

Night lights can also be great! I am sacred of the dark as a little and as an adult, so night lights not only make you feel safe, but they’re so easily disguised as ‘so I don’t have to turn the big light on when I go to the bathroom’ or ‘if I turn the big light on it blinds me and I get worried about falling down the stairs”.

 

 

Books and music

 

There are a couple of books that my daddy has read to me that I love, more pictures the better for me plus adult me is a bit of an artist so it satisfies all.

I find reading those books when I am little space really comforting.... well just looking at the pictures really. You may not have had your CG read to you, or you don’t have one, but looking at pictures of books that you resonant with should help you feel a bit more comfortable if you’re at home. Sometimes those ‘read to me’ books you can get can be great if you like having someone read to you; but it’s not feasible for a variety of reasons (distance, no CG, CG doesn’t like to etc.). Youtube supply them if you don't have apple music or a kindle, Spotify also do some too. 

Some music can support SLSL, I really like ocean sounds to help me sleep, the quiet makes me very nervous when I am in little space. Any type of music, you might have Disney or specific little songs playing through earphones. You can do that anytime, anyplace. But work with what you feel, and what makes you happy.

 

 

All of these are just things I have found comforting, you should always follow your own heart and do what feels right to you. These are just suggestions, not rules, not a code. I just wanted to share something with other littles to help.

I didn’t cover EVERYTHING because I could talk about SLSL FOREVER. I am a sneaky little.

But feel free to experiment and let me know if there is anything you do to help you cope that others, along with myself, that can find it helpful.

 

 

 

Lots of Love

 

Daffodil

Edited April 3, 2018 by Daffodil

[Barbiedolly]

I love this post so much!!!! So well written and I do a lot of these things myself! x

[Guest Daffodil]

I love this post so much!!!! So well written and I do a lot of these things myself! x

 

Thank you! I'm so glad you like it! 

Ah not just me then! ♥️

[Guest Little Otter]

Wow Biscuit what an amazing post! <3

 

And tysvm for being so inclusive of LB's it means alot 

 

Firstly, the oral fixation thing. I have that big time. I pick at my lips, I chew my nails, I grind my teeth. So I am certainly going to give those ideas a shot! 

 

I need more little stuff for my room, I always have a hard time sleeping, and always get most sads at night too. I have my otter stuffie Snotlout, and of course my sweetheart of a boxerdog, Laney (she helps with little space), but I think I need to take an extra step in that arena. Going to sleep happy is so important, cuz you'll wake up happier! 

 

I still need to figure out what I can wear. I find softer blues make me feel little, so maybe a wardrobe change is in order. I kinda wanna get some toon socks like my Mommy showed me (or maybe they'll be in the gift package she's sending!), they'll be hidden, but just knowing they're there I think could help a ton.

 

Thanks for the great effort you put into this!

[Guest Daffodil]

Wow Biscuit what an amazing post! <3

 

And tysvm for being so inclusive of LB's it means alot 

 

Firstly, the oral fixation thing. I have that big time. I pick at my lips, I chew my nails, I grind my teeth. So I am certainly going to give those ideas a shot! 

 

I need more little stuff for my room, I always have a hard time sleeping, and always get most sads at night too. I have my otter stuffie Snotlout, and of course my sweetheart of a boxerdog, Laney (she helps with little space), but I think I need to take an extra step in that arena. Going to sleep happy is so important, cuz you'll wake up happier! 

 

I still need to figure out what I can wear. I find softer blues make me feel little, so maybe a wardrobe change is in order. I kinda wanna get some toon socks like my Mommy showed me (or maybe they'll be in the gift package she's sending!), they'll be hidden, but just knowing they're there I think could help a ton.

 

Thanks for the great effort you put into this!

 

Thank you Tea! ♥

 

You're welcome, LBs and LGs we're all in this together!

Getting a goodnights sleep is so important, regardless to little space or adult, and if something comfort you, then there is nothing wrong with that. What ever helps individuals.

There you go! Just a small colour change can help. SHOPPING TIME. I hope you're excited for your package form your mummy! Fingers crossed for socks!

 

Always

[Guest BabyPeach]

Loveeee this! Great advice for all littles, but especially the ones that can't be openly little in their living environment.

[Guest Daffodil]

Loveeee this! Great advice for all littles, but especially the ones that can't be openly little in their living environment.

 

Thats exactly what i wanted it for! It can be so lonely for a little... i know how that feels first hand. Its nice to share the love ♥️

[Angel24]

So well done! I'm sure I'll keep looking back to this in the future

[##1°*BeDaddy'sGoodGirl]

What a great first article, Daffodil. You are a great new addition to the community. That is why this forum is such a nice place for those who know about DDlg and for all the many newbies who want to find out more about it. We all look forward to your future writings.

[Lola Step]

Love ALLLL of this!!! Even though I'm over 18 i still live at home so am alwayyys looking for sneaky ways to indulge my little side and I do many of these all the time but I also picked up a few new tips so thank yous :)

[SharkPrince]

I was determined to read all of this, but I got as far as marmite soldiers and died and went to heaven

[Guest Daffodil]

What a great first article, Daffodil. You are a great new addition to the community. That is why this forum is such a nice place for those who know about DDlg and for all the many newbies who want to find out more about it. We all look forward to your future writings.

 

Thank you J. thats really kind That exactly why i wanted to do this, to give a little something back!

[Guest Daffodil]

Love ALLLL of this!!! Even though I'm over 18 i still live at home so am alwayyys looking for sneaky ways to indulge my little side and I do many of these all the time but I also picked up a few new tips so thank yous :)

Yay! I'm glad you liked it! When i finish uni i'll be living at home, so i'll be doing all of these too. 

You're more than welcome 

[Guest Daffodil]

I was determined to read all of this, but I got as far as marmite soldiers and died and went to heaven

Marmite soldiers ARE EVERYTHINGGGGGGGGGG

[cutelittlevixey]

So many great ideas here and nicely written