I have been a member on the forums for a little over a year now and so far it's been a hit or miss. Many of my friends that I've made when I've been here have either gone off to find a "better site" or a lot of them have left because they felt they weren't treated fairly. It's come to my attention that many of the members (that I personally talk to) feel that the staff has been picking and choosing whom they "side with" or whom is their least favorite in the argument. Not only that it seems that there is no space for us members to voice how we feel about the staff anonymously without feeling like we are going to get reported. Personally, I do love many of y'all and believe that you are genuinely trying your best; however, behavior that is deemed unacceptable by some members, are considered okay for others. I'd also like to address the fact that our rules state that we need to be courteous to one another, but that is a gray area when it comes to chat because everyone wants this to be their own safe space which leaves others at wits end to have to censor themselves. Some topics are wildly controversial, but the beauty of both the internet and freedom of thought is that we are allowed to have these opinions. My last point I'd like to make is that many individuals choose to come onto chat or discord while under the influence of whatever they so choose to use. And their actions are not only disrespectful (sometimes) but are also used an excuse to get away with their behavior. That should not be the case. We all came to this site to find a place we felt like we could fit in because we are outsiders wherever we call home. And yet we further subdivide ourselves to the point where we are outsiders to each other.
If we had a better understanding on how y'all are judging each and every case you come by, like perhaps a standardizing rubric then the expectations on what you really want this community to be would be much clearer.