Ex friend reach out?

[Lola Step]

So I just had an old friend reach out to after 3 years of not talking due to the fact that she cut me of after she felt I wasn't talking to her/seeing her enough despite there being no warning whatsoever which really hurt, I'm just wondering if this has ever happened to anybody else? How did you respond? Were you mad or relieved? Basically just looking for some similar stories to help me not feel so alone/confused/mad.

[SoulEater]

While I haven't been in your situation I do have a few words of wisdom:-

 

it's better to have friends than enemies.

 

However that being said communication is a two way street it takes both parties to do so and I would maybe explain to her before agreeing to be friends again. All in all just be careful

[Guest QueenJellybean]

i've been in a really similar situation before on both sides of this coin.

i had a really good friend of mine who would just ghost on me when it became too much for me, & i'd have to initiate contact in order to start talking again. 

eventually, it got to the point where our friendship was too much for /me/, so i told her that i thought we needed to take a break from talking. 

i'm pretty sure she's blocked me & i haven't heard from her since --- & i have a feeling that if it isn't me initiating, she'd be more than happy to just not speak to me again. 

 

which hurts, you're right. 

but whenever we got back in contact, there was definitely a sense of relief. 

 

just remember this; 

a pattern always repeats itself unless something alters it's path.

if the problem before was that she was feeling neglected, make sure you talk about that.

& if you can't give her more time or attention like she wants (which isn't your fault at all), make sure you're upfront about that too.

 

if those root issues aren't resolved, it's just going to happen again. good luck!

[Guest LeftyGuitar]

Well to keep things short, on my end, I've had a couple old friends come and even a couple romantic interests come back. To make these long stories short, the results were not good and in one case a little disasterous. However it is possible for some friendships to be salavaged I think. As Jellybean said, if you're the one doing most of the initiating, then its probably not a good sign. Just thought I'd give my two cents.

 

EDIT: Also, I should mention that I do believe in second chances. However they are not always warranted.

Edited September 14, 2018 by LeftyGuitar