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    #1 0xJustAGirlx0

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    Posted 05 August 2019 - 06:00 AM

    Hi so I recently started kinda researching DD/LG or CG/L and it seems super cute! Thing is... I'm probably submissive but I don't think I'd ever be cute enough to be a "little" and I definitely not dominant so I don't think I could be a caregiver. My main issue is...

     

    Is little space like... a role play thing or do you really feel that young? I just don't really understand it- though I'd like to! I'd like to very much. I see people talking about how to enter little space but never what it really is. Does it ever feel weird? I see people say that they talk to their stuffies. Does that feel strange? Or do you just genuinely feel young enough to do that? Or is it roleplay?

     

    See, I still have teddies on my bed, I prefer apples sliced, I actually like Shimmer and Shine and The Amazing World Of Gumball and other cartoons, I quite like drinking juice out of sippy cups and drinking milk out of baby bottles for some reason (I don't usually do that 'cause it would be weird in front of my parents lol but when I had to taste siblings juice or milk, I liked drinking out of those containers). I love cute things (though I can't buy many cute clothes because I've been struggling to change my clothing style for a long time), I've always loved unicorns and mermaids and I still believe in fairies at the age of 19 XD I love reading fairy tales still but do these things make me a "little"?

     

    I guess I just don't really understand much about it outside of the sexual parts. I read a story on Wattpad and it was ABDL and her whole brain seemed to become that of a 2 year old. Is this really what it's like for you? I'm sorry if this upsets of offends anyone, I accept you for who you are, I promise, I'm just trying to understand ♥


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    #2 Nymph

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    Posted 05 August 2019 - 09:20 AM

    Technically if you are doing role-play then you are not a little, but I've seen plenty around that do just that... I am not sure some people realize they are doing it. Nothing wrong with it but this forum focus on the lifestyle, so most stuff you find here will be real life and relationship related.

     

    Little space is an escape/release of sorts where adulting doesn't really cross your mind, some regress quite a bit, others not so much and that is what we use "little age" for, it is in reference on how little you get.

     

    So baby bottles and pacifiers are not a must, some are more of a toddler or a tween even and not all are into cute pink stuff, there are tomboys, geeky, goths, all kinds you can imagine really, we are still people after all. It feels like a very special treat where you get to be yourself in a safe place without being judged, you feel calm, content and it feels very natural.

     

    You and I sound like we would get along great and we could be best friends, we seem to like the same stuff and have a similar personality. Maybe it's because we are both littles... or maybe it's because my little age (12) is closer to your real age... My real age is 36. But what do I know? maybe it's our little ages that are closer... I hope I am making sense.

     

    You sound genuinely curious and that is why I answered. I recommend you read and ask more about this and explore on your own until you know how you feel about it, if still unsure after a while then forget about it for a few years.


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    #3 0xJustAGirlx0

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    Posted 05 August 2019 - 10:36 AM

    You sound genuinely curious and that is why I answered.

     

    Yeah I am really curious and you're the only one to have answered and I am very grateful for that ^^

    It's also nice to know that I don't have to appear "cute" to be little.

     

    So it's not usually roleplay, you "regress". This brings me back to the question: do you really feel like you're 2 or 8 or 12? Or is it just that you ignore all adult responsibilities and kind of just begin to act and feel like a child even if you're not really thinking in "baby talk"? ("I weally don't knyow if daddy is going to wook after me pwoperwy?" for example xD I've seen some people talk like this in chats and I think it's cute but idk if they actually think like this lol). Do you just talk to teddies (for younger littles) because it's fun and makes you feel like a little kids or do you really feel like you are that young and they're talking to you?

     

    I mean, I would still play with dolls if my step-mum hadn't made me chuck them away so I kinda get it but I feel like I'd still be thinking "I can't believe I'm playing with dolls at this age" but I don't know.

     

    Ugh I just don't know anything lol

     

    Edit: Also- jobs. Do you still work? Is this every day or just certain days? What if you "enter little space" on a work day? oof


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    #4 xBabydollx

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    Posted 07 August 2019 - 01:14 AM

    I think what would clear some things up for u is the differences between DDlg, an ageplay kink, and age regression. Not every little age regress or have an ageplay kink. The difference between age regression and an age play kink is that age regressors mentally regress to a younger age and usually not on purpose, while with ageplay the person will pretend and role-play being another age. One is a real mental state while the other is just fun pretend. There can be other components to ageplay like how some guys just like being called Daddy or the iconic teacher/student kink where one may pretend to be older while the other pretends to be younger etc. It's all just a fantasy or role-play based on age, but it is not always sexual for everyone. I would suggest researching both to learn more. With age regression and age play out of the way, some ppl are just littles who are young at heart/youthful personalities etc who likes the DD/lg dynamic. They might not age regress or age play at all. In general, littlespace is different for a lot of ppl. Personally, what I often heard from friends was that it was a headspace of euphoria that was induced by feeling safe, loved, and cared for...and a moment where they feel young at heart, carefree, and like their true self. It has been this way for me as well. If littlespace feels different for u, then that is ok. If u feel like u never experience littlespace then that is ok too, a lot of ppl don't. On a side note, some ppl enter littlespace daily, some practice this lifestyle only on the weekends, and some are 24/7. Everyone is different.
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    Posted 12 August 2019 - 04:02 AM

    I come from a place where I was a 'secret little', as in, I've been a little all of my life, but only just learned it's actually an identifiable thing that thousands of other people do about two years ago, and I'm 33. So until I knew it was actually a thing, I did my best to hide it, never talked about it, but still indulged privately. For me, being little is just a breath of air and an escape from everything that is scary, bad, mean, bullying, sad, depressed, etc. and lets my brain literally just indulge in innocent happiness. I flow in and out of little space all day, every day, and I have since I was born, it's a totally natural state for me. I don't personally need to try, some people have a lot of difficulty going in or coming out, and I respect that. For me, it's as natural as breathing, it literally is half of me (I'm a Gemini). I generally don't talk out loud little talk, but my brain will think that way (I only have online friends), so I will type little and think little. I find myself pouting, wrinkling my nose, and my body usually takes on behaviors/mannerisms like flopping on the bed, sitting sideways, etc. that I would not do in front of people if they did not know I am a little. I don't personally do any clothing or hairstyles because I live with my bio parents, so I can't have a blanket fort or princess castle or anything (sob). But I have dolls, stuffies, lots of color books, dozens of animated DVDs, lots of slinkies and toys and glitter pens and pens with bunnies and roses and sparkle balls on ribbons, etc. (you get the picture). Bio parents often roll their eyes, tell me I'm acting just like a little kid, but I don't care. My voice is naturally quite high, something as an adult is hard, but it just makes me think I was always destined to be a little from the start ^.^

    For me, it's not a total change of mentality, like a crazy person, lol. I mean, I can be in little space coloring, watching Cinderella and holding a stuffie, and have bio mom walk in and ask what I want for dinner. I can answer her as an adult, and she'll leave, and I'm back in little space, coloring away. It's not like you have a multiple personality, adult me is still here and present, just like little me is always around when I'm an adult too. I have bad anxiety disorders, and being little and thinking little can literally help me get through a stressful situation. I can coo in my own head about a pretty unicorn I see on the shelf at a store, for example, and not focus on the people who are causing me anxiety shopping nearby. So my advice to you is to not stress over it. Try different things, see what feels comfortable to you. Giggling at a scene in The Little Mermaid while sucking on a lolly and hugging a stuffie all curled up with princess pillows isn't rocket science XD Just let yourself tap into the child happiness we all have. It's simply a state of emotions that let you indulge all the girly, child daydreams you want and dream about being a princess.


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    Posted 12 August 2019 - 11:44 PM

    I'm in a similar boat to Sugar Bunny. I've always been little. There was a time I didn't understand why I was the way I was, or that it was even a thing that others were, and looked to therapy to figure it out. I was told that age regressing is something often used by people to deal with anxiety and though that was comforting, it still didn't sound like it hit the nail on the head. I feel 3 more than I feel 28 most days. It's an actual thing that I feel. Talking to my stuffed animals, coloring, and watching cartoons while eating tiny snacks doesn't feel weird to me. I'm not RPing. I'm not forcing it. It's just who I am.

     

    That being said, I know that a lot of people have a more difficult time going into a space where they can feel little. Whether it be the stresses of adult life or being too busy to have time. There are people who ageplay, which is completely different form what I do, and that's more of a state of acting little rather than being a little. If that makes sense. Babydoll explained that pretty well, though.


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    Posted 13 August 2019 - 09:48 PM

    I really don't have much to add here, but I do want the highlight the difference between regression and ageplay!! regression is a coping mechanism, and ageplay is sexual roleplay. I always compare regression to meditation - it's like putting on a different mindset, but you're still the same person.

    I didn't read if it was answered or not, but on the "littlespace at work" thing - for me, personally, I have to be in a safe, comfortable and private area to access that mind state. Just like how I wouldn't plop down in the middle of a workplace and start meditating. It's something sacred and private for me. Another thing is I feel like it's not uncontrollable, nor is it really a day-long thing usually. I typically only regress at night when I know I'm alone - and it helps me sleep.

    Another thing worth mentioning (I think??) is that some people are permanently regressed and unaware of it. This is usually due to quite a fair amount of childhood trauma. They may act like a "little" (and publicly), but they really are mentally immature constantly. Mentioning cgl to them will probably freak them out (again, they're literally just a kid in their brain). I think this is the strongest psychological example of regression. But for most of us, it's by choice.
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