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How to find cope with being lonley while trying to find a mommy?


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Hi I'm a 24 year old male struggling to find a mommy I've been looking for many years without any sort of luck. I did make a personal but it hasn't seemed to help. Where should I look for one? I've tried everywhere
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Perhaps try looking for someone you connect with outside of the DDlg dynamic first. Get to know people as people versus trying to just jump straight into a Cgl dynamic.

 

There isnt a specific place or way to find a caregiver. The best advice I can offer is put yourself out there, get involved with your local community and stop looking so hard.

 

I honestly found my Daddy at a convention and totally was not looking for anyone. We clicked in a bunch of other ways before we introduced the DDlg dynamic into our relationship.

 

Finding someone you love who is a right fit for you and you for them takes time, it doesn't just happen overnight in most cases. There are lots of guys looking for a motherly figure, that's where getting to know people as PEOPLE, not just a role, can set you apart while still being authentic to yourself.

 

Little kaiya

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Guest Looby-Lou

It's often not easy to find a suitable partner even in vanilla life, so it might take a bit longer (or even a lot longer) to find the right mummy for you - but don't give up hope!

 

Keep active in the discussions here and elsewhere so that people get to know you.

If you're not too shy socially, then get out in real life as much as you can too. The more people you meet, the better chance you have of finding friends and maybe even someone you really "click" with.

 

As for coping with being lonely, I'd encourage you to spend time doing things you ENJOY, that's a great way to take your mind off being lonely. Maybe make list of things you like to do, or new things you want to try. When we're feeling lonely it can be difficult to find enthusiasm to do things, but if you have a list ready it might help you to just get on with it!

 

Good luck :)

Looby  :)

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Well I can't do a vanilla relationship that's to hard for me I'm literally little 24/7 with no big side much I act big around family so they don't judge me. And I tried hard on my personal. I have autism so I'm not the best with telling about myself,I hope my personal ad isnt making me not find a mommy because I put an hour in making that thing:/
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I think your personal listing is fairly ok, and you can edit it anytime you want.  Sometimes it's a good idea to add more detail or just change it up a bit. An hour isn't long. I spent much longer on my personal and edited it several times too.

 

If you join in the discussions here and elsewhere, you'll stand more chance of meeting people you like and possibly forming a relationship with someone :)

There's less Mummies than Daddies on the scene, and if you want a 24/7 caregiver that does make it harder to find someone. 

 

So you will need to be very very patient and I still encourage you to get on with other things in your life. I can't stress that enough. The more you have going on in your life, the happier you'll be in general. And as a bonus to that, you'll meet more people and be more likely to find a Mummy!

 

Good luck,

Looby  :)

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