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Punishment and discipline for long distance


A.Hamdy

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I am new to the whole ddlg thing and im trying it out with a female friend whos also interested in trying it out. we dont live together or even near each other, but we manage to meet like once a month, so its mostly an online thing.

 

weve worked on rules and a schedule for her, but without me being frequently there with her its hard to enforce them, and she admits that not only is she not good with discipline, but also she struggles with the idea of being controlled due to past issues with her parents, but she does want to be controlled and disciplined because she feels it would be better for her.

 

 

my question (as the title suggests) is this:

what do u recommend i do to make her more disciplined and have her follow the system we put in place?
also, what punishments would be effective to ensure she wouldnt keep on breaking the rules?

weve considered writing lines, corner time and no electronics or internet for certain durations of time, but they dont seem very effective, and sometimes hard to enforce.

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Guest purpleroses06

This is a big one... Sometimes, Caregivers will have to deal with a little not accepting punishment so here are some tips for responding to that:

 

  • Do not lose your cool! - Caregiver needs to demonstrate that they are in control of themselves even under pressure. DO NOT shout or swear at the little because you're giving them the reaction they want. Firmly make them understand that accepting the punishment is in their best interest and that further consequences will ensue if the little continues to disobey.
  • Be consistent and firm!
  • Apply the consqequences!
  • Start counting down from 10!

Here are some of my own rules since im in a ldr relationship too!

1)Making them write lines

2)no treats for x amount of time

3)time out

4)being sent to bed early

5)hand signals to kneel, sit, undress etc.practice every now and then. For punishment, do them over and over again. This is something done over webcam so it can be seen.

6)A good telling off (scolding).

7)Kneel on pencils or other rough objects during Skype.

8)No YouTube and that kind of stuff.

9)Stuffies put in stuffie jail.

10)No sexy stuff over Skype

 
 
I hope this helps you and good luck!!
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Guest Sunshinekitty

Purplerose makes good points.

 

My only contribution is--make her do all her punishments on cam. Then you can watch her follow through and talk to her through it. And then it might lead to other things...

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Hmm. So my Little and I have different forms of enforcement from the typical "Little" consequences. For his goal of eating veggies every day, if he skips a day then he has to look up a new vegetable. If he skips 2 veggie days in a row, then he has to actually go to the store and pick up and try the new vegetable. So, the consequences deal directly with what his goals (read: rules) are.

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