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EvieTheOne

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I'm referring specifically to those that you've rejected in the past yet they're still hanging on, stalking, sending you underhanded messages, they've recruited their friends as well, how do you let them know that you really don't care for their games?

Because I don't. Because it's cringy how they try to impose on my attention with passive aggressive post or messages. It's pathetic that they can't bow out respectfully.

Chances are that if you've lied to me, and I've ended the chats, you going under fake profiles instead of coming clean is not going to make me respect you or care for you. I don't find ambiguity attractive at all. I find it quite pathetic actually, but maybe that's your kink? Nonetheless, zog off if I said no.

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Ignore, block, report, repeat.

 

Don't give them the satisfaction of getting a rise or response out if you. Eventually, haranging you will loose it's luster, and they will tire of having to build new profiles, and they will go away.

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Guest QueenJellybean

i agree with Lass above - block & ignore is the best option.


and, from the moderator perspective, if someone is harassing you, don't hesitate in letting a moderator know.


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thank you guys xx 

 

no one is harassing me, it's literally that insipid and sly approach to getting to know me that I recognize from when I was first thrust on the bdsm scene, 5 years ago. one character in particular likes to remind me he's still around, willing and ready. if i'm reminded of his, what felt to me, abusive ways, my skin crawls - some people take that as a yes?...totally bonkers. :) equally, it's more about a style of a dom than his personhood. honestly, I cannot engage with anyone who's not a real caregiver, and is actually careless and irresponsible around their littles.

 

And also, some people don't want to see or accept me as I am: still sensitive about past abuse. Nor do they understand that if, say, their 'ways' left me suicidal for months while I've lost my business and my livelihood, they're not welcome back into my life. They should feel so lucky that I was a vegetable from all their unconsented, botched slave training, that they got off without being exposed, while they smear campaigned and character assassinated me. And this entity is hanging around, dropping lil' messages here and there..not realizing, nor feeling shame for the things that he's done. Make no mistake, I can live with him 'loving' me from where he is right now, but that means not interfering in my life, or my friends, loved ones life at all.

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I agree with Lass and Jelly! Gray rock method is the way to go with nearly all toxic personality types. If you're not interesting/responsive they'll move on to someone else.

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As a rule, we all do. Don't we? :) It's a perfectly normal human trait to move on if we're not getting attention. I'm only saying because if we don't, that's also classifiable as "toxic", some clever people call it "codependency".
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It's not... because 99% of online drivel about mental health is just that: absolute bs, spit out by professional charlatans with a PhD, or not, who take perfectly normal human traits (that we all have) and pathologize them, to churn out some money from us because we've lost touch with who we are (the good, the bad and the ugly) by scaremongering the soul out of the followers/fans...the moment we take power back from these self appointed "autoritah" figures and accept ourselves with what is, we are going to be at peace and happy again. I refuse to give in to propaganda and asses taking every human trait, yes, egotism as well, and calling for a revolution. It's the biggest in your face hypocrisy ever.
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Sounds like another thread of discussion to me, and I'd be very interested to read it if you decide to create a topic about that! I was only here to give my 2 cents regarding the issue presented in your original post and a nod to the folks that gave good advice already.

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I shall, one of these days, but reframed, because the world is nowhere near that doomed as some invested parties would have you believe. Thank you for your feedback on this xx :)
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