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Mrbrightsid3

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Hello everyone! I'm totally new to all of this, and in all honesty, I'm very inexperienced with regards to relationships and sex. Before my current partner, I had only had 2 one night stands (with women, I have more experience with men but it's not my preference), both not great.

 

My partner has introduced me to this community and I genuinely feel that I am suited to it but have some fears/worries.

 

My partner is little and has explained what that means and entails and we have spoken about a lot of the boundaries we both want in place but I'm scared that I miss a lot of the cues she has when entering littlespace and don't always feel that I am doing the right things for her with my behaviours.

 

I fear continuous questions will put her off and ruin this time for her and I know why she needs this. All I want to do is be there for her in every way I can. I also tend to struggle a little with the more Spontaneous aspect of the interactions when she's being little. In our day to day lives, she is in control and I fear she doesn't see me as someone who can dominate her. I don't really think she can buy in to it given the dynamics of our relationship outside of littlespace.

 

Sorry for the rambling, this is my first post and I'm just really trying to get it right.

 

Any help or advice would be very welcomed and I hope everyone is safe and well!

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The fact that you're so concerned and obviously looking to make her happy is already a great start. You seem like you'll make a great caregiver. Communication is very important so don't be afraid of asking questions. You can also try giving her homework assignments with questions like fill in the blank... my favorite snack is, my favorite movie, when I'm upset i want to (multiple choice). Just a fun activity to learn more about her little side.
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Considering you're new and she introduced it, there is some responsibility on her to show you the ropes and at least guide you in the right direction. Caregivers aren't mind readers and communication is super important to express wants and needs on both sides.  I would save the bulk of the learning and communication in adult to adult conversations setting the roles aside while you basically negotiate, but SweetCuriosity makes a great suggestion on other ways you can learn about your little that could be fun for you both. If you can't think of anything to begin with and don't mind spending a little money, TheLittleBondageShop  (I'd say NSFW) on Etsy has several workbooks you can start with to get some ideas.

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Thank you guys for your kind replies! As I mentioned, everything about this relationship is new to me and its all very overwhelming at times. With regards to this aspect of our lives, I am willing to accept as much help as possible to be a good caregiver, main fear is that as I'm more timid and willing to accept things to make her happy in our everyday life, that she will only be able to see this in me and not as the daddy she needs, wants and deserves.

 

I will take on board all of your advice and most certainly will be back for more!

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Heya,

 

I first want to say that it's okay if you are missing cues when she is starting to enter littlespace because as you said, you are new to the lifestyle and don't have a lot of experience. Especially when you are dealing with a new partner, you can miss cues and that's ok, as long as you are trying your best in the future to pick up the cues.

 

As everyone in the comments have said before, communication is key. Talk about it with her, ask questions, I'm sure she will understand that you are new and she will probably appreciate you asking. Just like any other relationship, it takes time to get to know your partner. My Daddy and I are also in a sub/Dom relationship and it has taken us time to be able to learn one's limits, boundries, etc, and the same will go for you and your partner when learning about each other. It's normal to miss littlespace cues even when you've known them for a long time. Nobody's perfect and that's okay. Again, as long as you are striving to do your very best and be the best caregiver possible, it's okay!

 

Hope this helps!

 

 

 

 

Junebug xx

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