A bit nervous

[Pr0JLA]

Hello all,

 

My baby girl and I have been in a relationship for years 1.5 of it has been long distance. It's been a journey but we've weathered quite a few storms. She and I have a pretty big age difference but nothing I haven't seen in these forums before. We are both happy consenting adults and I am lucky.

 

The reason I am nervous is my 20 year old little is a virgin and has decided that she is ready to share herself with me. And for some reason, I am terrified. This is my first ddlg relationship and I think I m so nervous about hurting my kitten that I am actually completely apprehensive about going there...any advice?

[RainDoeSprinkles]

Well, since you asked...here is the best advice I could possibly give. It may bother some people. But I am old fashioned and a Christian. So the best way to protect your loved one and yourself is to....get married first. There you go!

[DerbyNerd]

Hello all,

 

My baby girl and I have been in a relationship for years 1.5 of it has been long distance. It's been a journey but we've weathered quite a few storms. She and I have a pretty big age difference but nothing I haven't seen in these forums before. We are both happy consenting adults and I am lucky.

 

The reason I am nervous is my 20 year old little is a virgin and has decided that she is ready to share herself with me. And for some reason, I am terrified. This is my first ddlg relationship and I think I m so nervous about hurting my kitten that I am actually completely apprehensive about going there...any advice?

Lots and lots of foreplay, lots of checking in, making sure she is comfortable, having lots of blankies etc on hand for after. Also communicating and being open with her, let her know you are nervous and that you're wanting to make it the best experience for her. 

 

Also a bath after if that's possible is always lovely. 

[Pr0JLA]

Well, since you asked...here is the best advice I could possibly give. It may bother some people. But I am old fashioned and a Christian. So the best way to protect your loved one and yourself is to....get married first. There you go!

There is nothing wrong with that.  Too much these days people come down on others for having opinions.  Thank you for sharing yours =)

[Kitten&Spice]

I want to add with what has already been stated but I think it would be best to take your time and if there is a point in which things get overwhelming for her then stop! Don’t continue and don’t force anything! Give her the time and make sure she has a safe word! A wonderful system I like is the light system. Green is good, yellow is on the verge of nervous but good, and red is stop! Have her communicate with you where she is at and to be vocal about it!

 

I hate to say this but her first time will probably not be what you hope for and you may even have to finish off later on. But it is important to allow her to be comfortable being able to know she can stop and trust that that there is no judgement on her decisions! And if there is a point you can tell she is not enjoying herself or if she isn’t communicating then it’s best to take a big step and stop altogether. It keeps things in a safe spot and keeps the consent present!

 

I think what you are doing is wonderful and that you are willing to take advice! I promise you that she will greatly appreciate it and that this is a great way for other Doms who face the same thing as you to get the answers as well! So I am glad that you asked! I hope all works out well and good luck!

[Kichōna]

I think that, if you really are that nervous, it would be okay to tell your little that you aren't ready to take that step. Maybe instead of going straight to intercourse, you can slowly become more phsyically intimate in other ways. You could also just try online roleplaying at first. That way you can get a better understanding of what you both like and need.