Hello!! <3 I'm a little shy :P

[Shy Little Princess]

Hello!! ❤️

I'm sorry, I am very shy writing this! Hopefully I say everything right!
I'm very new (and shy!! 😛) so I guess I'll try to follow the introductions post guidelines.
(I guess trigger warning since I might mention some bad stuff)

For what I like to be called, "Shy Little Princess" works (but I've been stalked before so I'm hesitant about revealing personal information right away). If you really need a first name, online I usually use "Anastasia" (it's my doll's name (She doesn't mind! :P)). My username comes from me being shy, but one of my favourite books is also "A Little Princess."

I haven't ever been part of a community before, this is my first time (ouch!! (:P)).

It's hard to say if I'm new to the dynamic because I've sorta always been the way I am, I guess it feels like "little" me is just *me* but I guess it's a me that I only show to certain people? Hopefully that makes sense, I'm sorry. I do have a history of family and relationship abuse, so I find that for me there is a distinct "outer" vs "inner" self, or the outer self that you use protectively, vs the inner self, or who you feel comfortable being (Hopefully that makes sense, I'm sorry). I'd be interested in knowing if other people might feel similarly?

Hopefully it isn't too much of a turn-off, but I am on the autism spectrum (the syndrome formerly known as Aspergers (:P)). I am so-called "high functioning" meaning that I can be intelligent, but I find that I am too trusting, I trust people I shouldn't, and it has gotten me into trouble before.

Hopefully it, again, isn't too much of a turn-off, but I am somewhat recently out of a difficult relationship. It was with a dominant figure who I trusted implicitly, but they ended up lying, and they weren't so much dominant as they were toxic and narcissistic and abusive. (My heart is still healing, I think I might need time to be around people who are kind and compassionate)

I feel like maybe being in a space for littles/middles/everyone/etc, I might feel more soothed and able to heal? (I guess that would be how to put it? I'm sorry) I'm hoping to meet more people and possibly make friends with other littles. (Due to the controlling behaviour in the relationship, I was never allowed to socialize and so I am currently very socially isolated)

Happier thoughts though, possibly. ❤️

For my favourite things, I am interested in what is known as "l*lita fashion" (if you have any questions please feel free to ask me, but I suspect I'm not the only person here that might be interested in it, which actually makes me a bit happy!! ❤️ I would love to meet other littles who also are!! ❤️ ). I've edited the name (just in case), the name actually has no connection to the book by N*bokov: the semi-official story goes that it was a mistake to name to name the fashion that. To avoid the connection, I sometimes refer to it as "Dolly Style" or "Hime/Princess Style."

Personally, I was a longtime "lifestyle gothic lol*ta" meaning that you kind of live the life, you have all the matching gothic accoutrements and accessories/etc. But a few years ago I switched to being a lifestyle sweet l*lita. That basically means I switched from everything being black and goth-y to everything being pastel pink!! 😛 (I still have somewhat gothic interests though, I enjoy reading and I do have aspergers syndrome, so if you ask me about something like Dracula or Frankenstein, or gothic literature, or Ancient Egypt, or 19th century mourning culture or antique dolls, I just might talk your ear off, I'm sorry!!)

I guess for interesting things about me, I do own an antique porcelain doll (Her name is Anastasia, after the Russian Romanov princess). I also am currently working on an art project related to the "Dracula" novel. (I had just recently mentioned this to some people in an online game, so if it sounds familiar, maybe we know each other in another online existence as well!!)

I'm kinda into I guess what you call "Nerd Culture" and I enjoy both playing and designing/creating video games, and reading, and also drawing, comics. (I've read every issue of Wonder Woman from her 1940s debut until the 1980s, and also Supergirl from her 1950s debut until the 2000s, Batgirl from her 1960s debut until the 2010s, and a majority of vintage Catwoman appearances. I also enjoy the "Hellboy" series and am a fan of Batman in general, particularly "Batman The Animated Series")

I also collect plushies/stuffed animals/teddy bears, specifically pink ones, and I have way too many!! 😛 Currently I have 36 pink teddy bears, 16 l*lita fashion-related plushies, and a lot of pink bunnies.

Thank you for reading my terribly long introduction post!! ❤️ (I'm sorry!! ❤️ )
I hope you are having a lovely day!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

Edited February 5 by Shy Little Princess
forgot Batgirl omg, i'm sorry!

[beanbean]

not many wrong ways to say hi . hello and wecome

[Shy Little Princess]

1 minute ago, beanbean said:

not many wrong ways to say hi . hello and wecome

Hi!! ❤️

Thank you!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[beanbean]

2 minutes ago, Shy Little Princess said:

Hi!! ❤️

Thank you!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

very welcome and i hope you enjoy this place is like home to me

[Shy Little Princess]

1 minute ago, beanbean said:

very welcome and i hope you enjoy this place is like home to me

Thank you!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

I'm hoping I will, it already feels welcoming! ❤️

I'm looking forward to spending time around other people, both littles and everyone else, but I have lots of shopping links, and games and books, and things like colouring pages, that I'm hoping to share with other people who might enjoy them too!!

How long have you been here? What do you recommend doing first? Do you have any general advice?

Thank you for replying too!!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[beanbean]

1 hour ago, Shy Little Princess said:

Thank you!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

I'm hoping I will, it already feels welcoming! ❤️

I'm looking forward to spending time around other people, both littles and everyone else, but I have lots of shopping links, and games and books, and things like colouring pages, that I'm hoping to share with other people who might enjoy them too!!

How long have you been here? What do you recommend doing first? Do you have any general advice?

Thank you for replying too!!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

i have been here forever and mostley i would say read the forums lots of smart people here . as for advice just don't rush in to anything take everything slowly

[shadowrider]

Hi and welcome to the best little place around. We are glad you found us.

[Shy Little Princess]

9 hours ago, beanbean said:

i have been here forever and mostley i would say read the forums lots of smart people here . as for advice just don't rush in to anything take everything slowly

Thank you!! ❤️

I'm enjoying reading the forums so far. I just need to build up the confidence to post.

I do understand about taking things slowly, both in general and specifically relating to posting. Elsewhere on the wild internet (not here), I had seen some people saying that they were desperate not to be alone for Valentines Day, and would take anything, absolutely anything, that came along first. While I understand where they were coming from (Valentines Day does seem manufactured to make lonely people feel lonelier), I think, like you said, it is maybe best not to rush?

How do you recommend building up the confidence to post? Is it best to just dive in?

Thank you for your replies so far!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

 

9 hours ago, shadowrider said:

Hi and welcome to the best little place around. We are glad you found us.

"The best little place around." <-- I think I see what you might have done there! 😛

I am also glad I found it! It feels so welcoming so far, so different from the rest of the internet! ❤️

I see that you're an administrator! Hopefully you don't mind if I ask, but do you recommend that I censor the word "l*lita/lol*ta/etc"?

I had seen in the rules that it says not to mention the novel by N*bokov, I'm guessing due to search engine results/etc? Should this apply to l*lita fashion as a term as well? I admit I am somewhat interested in fashion/aesthetics/etc and so I was hoping to possibly discuss the fashion style and the accessories and aesthetics (Possibly even eventually start a thread about it someday). Should I censor it going forward? (I am sorry to ask so many questions!!)

Thank you for replying!!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[shadowrider]

4 hours ago, Shy Little Princess said:

"The best little place around." <-- I think I see what you might have done there! 😛

I am also glad I found it! It feels so welcoming so far, so different from the rest of the internet! ❤️

I see that you're an administrator! Hopefully you don't mind if I ask, but do you recommend that I censor the word "l*lita/lol*ta/etc"?

I had seen in the rules that it says not to mention the novel by N*bokov, I'm guessing due to search engine results/etc? Should this apply to l*lita fashion as a term as well? I admit I am somewhat interested in fashion/aesthetics/etc and so I was hoping to possibly discuss the fashion style and the accessories and aesthetics (Possibly even eventually start a thread about it someday). Should I censor it going forward? (I am sorry to ask so many questions!!)

Thank you for replying!!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

By all means ask all the questions you want. That's what the staff and community are here for. 

Censoring it would be appreciated. That will keep us from popping up when people search that topic. 

I like the term Victorian era because that is technically where that style was borrowed from. But I don't know how many people actually search for that when thinking DDlg or doll style. I think that style is elegant and should be brought back. But I think showing less skin and more style should be the norm anyway but what do I know. 

The site should be set to auto censor it but I should probably test that.

 

 

[Crybunbun]

Helluws and welcome to the forum !!
I really loved the intro and thank you so much for sharing your story.
I luv bunnies and pink stuff ! Everything kawaii ~
I hope you find loooots of friends here !

[DD 918]

Welcome! This seems to be a safe place for you to be yourself and enjoy your time here. I’m new as well but nothing but positive vibes so far