University and little space

[clumsy_little]

I'd love to get some advice on this problem of mine. It's been more than a year since I fell in little space and stayed in it for hardly 15 mins. Last year, I was preparing for entrance exams so it's understandable to get in little space when you are studying or stressed 24/7. Fortunately, I got in a good medical university, no need to worry about my parents walking in on me or find out about my lifestyle. I was blessed to have a roommate who's not there in the room till 10pm (our hostel in-time) since she's either busy studying in library or with her boyfriend but I still find it hard to slip in little space. I'm either too exhausted after college hours (after 5 pm), busy with assignments or prepping for seminars, being called by seniors related to academic/non-academic related stuff or find myself studying in library till 11pm. Things been hard after we got n number of exams and tests, which has taken a toll on me to the extent that I was admitted for 5 days, 2 weeks ago. Anyone has any tips on how to balance your college life and also manage to take out time for being a little?

[Middlespace Brat]

Wow, that sounds like a lot! First off, let me start by saying that congrats! University can be very difficult, and you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. You should be proud of all you've accomplished! 

Unfortunately, sometimes as adults we do get super busy. And you're obviously stressed, so I think it's a great idea to try and incorporate more stress-relieving time in your days.  Here's my suggestions!

1) Have you considered "multitasking" with your littlespace? By that I mean involving more "little" stuff with your adult stuff, subtly of course. I know it can be really hard to set specific time aside just for little stuff, but maybe you would benefit from more casual littlespace aspects. Here's some examples. When you study, make it a game, or have a sticker chart or small treats for getting it done. You can set up a rewards system for yourself, like if you ace a test you can get a stuffie! Or listen to "littlespace music" (whatever that means for you specifically) during study time. Have a sippy cup and put stickers on it to use while you go to class. Make littlespace meals if you can, or healthy little snacks when you have snack breaks. There's a ton of ways to do it. Just consider your daily activities, and then how you could little-ify it!

2) Have you thought of making little friends online or around you? You could join Facebook groups, Discord servers, get on this site, or more! Sometimes having other people around us in the lifestyle makes us feel the urge to be little, or at least that's my personal experience

3) This one might be hard, but maybe try having designated weekly or daily little time. For example, every Sunday from 4-6, you put on a Disney movie, color, or whatever! This one might be harder since you are busy, but penciling it in might make you more inclined to do it. Don't force it if it doesn't happen right away. Sometimes getting into a routine is hard for every aspect of your life, but the thing about habits is, once you do it, it becomes ingrained in you and is much easier! 
 

Knowing your little age and interests might make it a little easier to suggest more things too, but if you don't want to share I understand! I'm very lucky and get to be little regularly, but I had to hide it for a very long time so I understand how hard it is when you can't be yourself and just chill. I've become a bit of a master of subtle littlespace, haha! Anyway, I hope this helped, and feel free to ask any questions! 

[PennyGoodfellow]

6 hours ago, clumsy_little said:

I'd love to get some advice on this problem of mine. It's been more than a year since I fell in little space and stayed in it for hardly 15 mins. Last year, I was preparing for entrance exams so it's understandable to get in little space when you are studying or stressed 24/7. Fortunately, I got in a good medical university, no need to worry about my parents walking in on me or find out about my lifestyle. I was blessed to have a roommate who's not there in the room till 10pm (our hostel in-time) since she's either busy studying in library or with her boyfriend but I still find it hard to slip in little space. I'm either too exhausted after college hours (after 5 pm), busy with assignments or prepping for seminars, being called by seniors related to academic/non-academic related stuff or find myself studying in library till 11pm. Things been hard after we got n number of exams and tests, which has taken a toll on me to the extent that I was admitted for 5 days, 2 weeks ago. Anyone has any tips on how to balance your college life and also manage to take out time for being a little?

This is so much to balance - I am proud of you! 

Princess Bambi had some really great advice and I'm seconding the idea of interwining big and little space, as much as you're able to, and also to just making your space feel more Little, in whatever way that means to you. For example, for me, it can be as something as simple as having pink curtains on the windows. I have little strawberries hanging from my mirror in my car. I have a fluffy pen in my holder at work.
See if you can find subtle ways to have your Littlespace reflected back to you that others might not recognize. Can you incorporate some of your favorite colors into your school supplies? 

Since your Big life is so busy and is taking such priority I would make sure that you try to take some time for Little space, just like Princess Bambi mentions - making a playlist, watching a movie, and having designated relaxation time will also be important for your mental health long term. University is busy and important, but not more important than your well-being! 

[clumsy_little]

On 9/20/2023 at 5:46 AM, Princette Bambi said:

Wow, that sounds like a lot! First off, let me start by saying that congrats! University can be very difficult, and you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. You should be proud of all you've accomplished! 

Unfortunately, sometimes as adults we do get super busy. And you're obviously stressed, so I think it's a great idea to try and incorporate more stress-relieving time in your days.  Here's my suggestions!

1) Have you considered "multitasking" with your littlespace? By that I mean involving more "little" stuff with your adult stuff, subtly of course. I know it can be really hard to set specific time aside just for little stuff, but maybe you would benefit from more casual littlespace aspects. Here's some examples. When you study, make it a game, or have a sticker chart or small treats for getting it done. You can set up a rewards system for yourself, like if you ace a test you can get a stuffie! Or listen to "littlespace music" (whatever that means for you specifically) during study time. Have a sippy cup and put stickers on it to use while you go to class. Make littlespace meals if you can, or healthy little snacks when you have snack breaks. There's a ton of ways to do it. Just consider your daily activities, and then how you could little-ify it!

2) Have you thought of making little friends online or around you? You could join Facebook groups, Discord servers, get on this site, or more! Sometimes having other people around us in the lifestyle makes us feel the urge to be little, or at least that's my personal experience

3) This one might be hard, but maybe try having designated weekly or daily little time. For example, every Sunday from 4-6, you put on a Disney movie, color, or whatever! This one might be harder since you are busy, but penciling it in might make you more inclined to do it. Don't force it if it doesn't happen right away. Sometimes getting into a routine is hard for every aspect of your life, but the thing about habits is, once you do it, it becomes ingrained in you and is much easier! 
 

Knowing your little age and interests might make it a little easier to suggest more things too, but if you don't want to share I understand! I'm very lucky and get to be little regularly, but I had to hide it for a very long time so I understand how hard it is when you can't be yourself and just chill. I've become a bit of a master of subtle littlespace, haha! Anyway, I hope this helped, and feel free to ask any questions! 

I think this might work out. It'll of course take time to incorporate it in my life style and schedule but I can at least start with small baby steps. Thank you so much Princette Bambi!!

[Guest LittleBe]

Hi, first congratulations!! 🥰

I'm not sure how it works there where you live but I hope that some of my suggestions can help you 😊

Try to incorporate little things that make you feel a little like your lanyard or ID holder, pens, a little notebook, etc, and if you don't have a restriction with colors or prints you can buy cute scrubs (like a colorful or one with your favorite cartoon), same for your stethoscope if you're allowed you can buy your favorite color and add a cute name tag. 

Conclusion: try to add small things to your daily life

When you're at home you can change your clothes to your little ones or your PJs or do your hair quickly when you arrive home. Or take 15 minutes of rest and spend it doing something that you like to do when you're in your little space (for example painting writing or dancing). 

I think the key is to distribute your free time wisely and not feel guilty when life is so hard that is hard to connect completely with your little side. 

And if you want to talk to somebody you can talk to me (Similar experience but different country) or this forum is full of people willing to help and listen/read you

Congratulations again! 😄 

[clumsy_little]

On 11/3/2023 at 8:48 PM, LittleBe said:

Hi, first congratulations!! 🥰

I'm not sure how it works there where you live but I hope that some of my suggestions can help you 😊

Try to incorporate little things that make you feel a little like your lanyard or ID holder, pens, a little notebook, etc, and if you don't have a restriction with colors or prints you can buy cute scrubs (like a colorful or one with your favorite cartoon), same for your stethoscope if you're allowed you can buy your favorite color and add a cute name tag. 

Conclusion: try to add small things to your daily life

When you're at home you can change your clothes to your little ones or your PJs or do your hair quickly when you arrive home. Or take 15 minutes of rest and spend it doing something that you like to do when you're in your little space (for example painting writing or dancing). 

I think the key is to distribute your free time wisely and not feel guilty when life is so hard that is hard to connect completely with your little side. 

And if you want to talk to somebody you can talk to me (Similar experience but different country) or this forum is full of people willing to help and listen/read you

Congratulations again! 😄 

Well, we are allowed to write our notes in colorful pens, even doodle!! This is a great idea and it won't make me feel down reading my notes and revising them!🥰