JoeltheBrewer Posted December 7, 2015 Report Share Posted December 7, 2015 Hi Folks,I am very new to this community, like just starting today. I only became vaguely aware of the dd/lg, or as I prefer to think of it, CG/L dynamic, a couple of days ago. This was very surprising and exciting for me, as I have completely independent of all of this, been engaging in at least a variation of this dynamic with my little for just about a year and a half. And, I desperately need some peers in the community to discuss my situation, and ways that I might be able to further enrich and develop our relationship. I really like the term "nurture", in the context of my relationship. We have a great support based relationship, with a lot of related mentoring, and life coaching. I suspect I am not alone here in facing some special challenges with my little. I live in the San Francisco Bay area (California), and she lives in a fairly remote and isolated part of Alaska. We are in very frequent communication, but only get to see each other a couple of weeks at most through the year. Other juicy tidbits about me, and definitely things I am interested hearing about from others: I am happily married, but not to my little. Both women know each other, and are friends, but outside of the CG/L dynamic. My wife is a bit jealous of me "crushing" on my little, and some of the attention that I give my little, and I am trying to figure out ways to keep both people happy in their own relationship space. I do *not* have a sexual relationship with my little, and have no intention to do initiate one, even though the general concept is extremely appealing, I am not Poly, and not in an open relationship. And just to keep everything *exciting*, my little is just starting a divorce, and is herself crushing on a very serious fellow, across the county in New York. He knows about me, and my relationship with the Little, but hasn't said much about it. He is also getting divorced himself, so there are a lot of balls in the air... We all talk a lot. So, Communication is good, but I will hopefully show some situations where I need some help and advice on next steps, or better ways to work towards a desired outcome.I have been very active in lots of digital communities over the years, but I have to admit I am more than a little excited to have discovered this one, as it clearly aligns with the passions that I share about my Little!I am brand new here, so I welcome any suggestions anyone would like to share with me. *Big hugs* to all... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarthJT Posted December 7, 2015 Report Share Posted December 7, 2015 Honestly, I don't even know how to respond to this. It sounds like one big mess. You are married and not in an open relationship. I can understand giving your little guidance and support, but that is all you should give and you should give your wife every bit as much attention if not more as your little. This is my view and others may have a different view, but when you give your vows and become married to someone, that is who you should be devoted to. Again, just my opinion Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeltheBrewer Posted December 7, 2015 Author Report Share Posted December 7, 2015 oh, I agree it's messy, but having it "above board" definitely makes it that much more manageable. Everyone knows the roles for everyone else. It's a bit easier than it might sound, since my wife and I live together in a fairly traditional setup, and the Little is in Alaska, so even if there was interest in taking things towards a sexual direction, the distance keeps that from ever being likely. So, we talk; a lot. I am new here, so let me shut up and listen more than I talk for a while. I came to drink tea, hopefully with a mostly empty cup... I can only say, it is more functional and healthy at this point than it ever was when it started... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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