Question for littles

[Bearded Daddy]

Hello, what’s the best way for a daddy to separate little space from the adult world without ruining the dynamic? How do you prefer your daddy to interact with you when he needs to discuss boring adult topics? Let’s say you were between 8-12?

What if it was a new daddy and you and he wanted to get to know each other outside of your daddy/little relationship?

My situation is long distance at this point.

Thanks little ones!

 

 

Edited January 14, 2024 by Bearded Daddy

[Kaz05]

This is just me personally but I always appreciate it when the CG asks the little something like "the next time you come out of little space would you be willing to talk to me about some adult topics?" This way you put the ball in their court and they can come to you when they are comfortable and in an adult headspace ready to have that conversation. Just be sure to let them know that what you want to talk about isn't anything bad or scary, you just want them to be an adult with you for a quick chat.

I hope that helps and I wish you the best of luck between you and your little!

[lilangel21]

Hmm I find code words are good, like "Hey i have a blueberry thing to chat to you about, let me know when you can, ok?" but deffo make sure they know its not bad, like let them know the general topic?

[LittleOceans]

100% depends on the little and how easy it is for them to bounce between headspaces. 

For me, being a mother, I am required to be able to jump out of little headspace in an instant to take care of my child. I gained the skill to bounce between headspaces with a blink. 

So, if Daddy were to set a code word for when he needs me to be big and have full-fledged thinking, that could work for me.

Other littles struggle with getting into little head space to start with, so IMO, It needs to be a question you ask your little. Would you consider it a need of yours? I guess my advice is to analyze what your needs are and express them as such to your partner. 

I hope this helps.

[Bearded Daddy]

This is all very good advice so far. It helps to understand the other perspective because my role as the daddy is a much smaller leap to jump backthan my little. We do role play rather than her regressing. A safe word will be helpful. I’m thinking of offering her a few choices to pick from. The other suggestion about giving them notice that we need to switch and talk about adult topics is an idea I did not think of. I would like to use that as well.