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I recently discovered that I'm a little, but I'm having some doubts. I'm hoping there are other littles like me - single and raising children without a DD. How are you balancing little space and raising children without a daddy's support? Fortunately or unfortunately, my family thinks I'm a bit unique already. They either enable me by giving me gifts or not mentioning my behavior, if someone does my usual response is 'I'm an adult" in a very child like bragging voice. On a typical day I am in little space more than 50% of the time and only break for some chores, meal time, the minimal amount of schooling and going to work. Typically, I make a quick breakfast, we watch movies together (like the Wild Kratts and goosebumps), play with Legos, I chase them through the house and I read, read, read.

 

All this is to say, I'm very conflicted because what I mentioned is me on any given day before I realized I am a little. Now, knowing what I am I want to indulge my little more. On the other hand I i'll be I am pushing the limits, especially considering that I'm the only adult in the household. Should reign myself in or give my little a bit more freedom, how are other littles make their situation work?  

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Hey squirrel, sorry to hear about that tough problem, because that it is. Having a little kid walking around here makes me understand the problem, though we're lucky enough to be with a little and a Daddy :)

It's hard to balance your life like that, when to be the adult, when to indulge your little. I would suggest (though from what I read I think you already do this) to just join the kids with playtime, be a little with them, and only break out when they need an adult around (when they're afraid, when they're hurt, when they're doing something they're not allowed to, etc).

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I have the same obstacles and I really regret not allowing myself to be little during times my kids would benefit from it. My best memories are watching cartoons and playing pc games with them. I have so many games!

 

More often now I don't know how to pull out of little space when my kids need a mom. It's really frustrating. So I am just trying to stay mindful of where my kids are at and what they need. And just let them know I love them regardless of where I am at in my mind.

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Thank youz for the  replies. I guess I should clarify that my children aren't little - they're tweens -very much nearing puberty :o . I also don't get much alone time because I homeschool. I tried introducing them into come community events, but they are staunchly against them.  So, they are always about, I love them dearly, but gaaahhh. I think once they hit puberty I will hide in the bathroom, I have nohow to deal with this. The bathroom is the only place I get privacy, except our kiddy cat usually bust down the door if I stay too long.  :rolleyes:

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Guest Don Pablo

I am a daddy from Bartlesville Oklahoma looking for a little someone I can care for and love and spoil and spend the rest of my life with it was in this for the Long Haul. I have a big heart and i love caring and helping and feeling need like the truat i have I want someone to trust me like that to. I hope to hear from you God Bless You And have a Blessed Day

 

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My Daddy has two kids from a previous relationship and when he has his visitation, I watch them while he is at work (I work in the school system and their visitations happen during school breaks). We are also trying for our own baby (though we've been trying for going on a year and a half so we have started seeing a fertility doctor), so i know that I don't complrtely fit into your situation, I have some comments and can relate. I love when the kids are here and I watch them while Daddy is at work as it allows me to be in LittleSpace- i play on the playground with them and eat canned orangies for snacks and watch cartoons. But I can see where it would be hard to also parent as a little without having a Dom there. Right now the kids see me as the fun one and Daddy as the strict one, which i am OK with. I also struggle with the change of routine while they're here as it changes my bath time and our bedtime routine.
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I am 29 and have a 7 year old. I've only come to terms with the label in the last 2 years or so (I just thought I was very immature or had childish expectations of my relationships). It's rough not having a guiding steady male influence around daily... very rough on me anyway. I'd always lived with a man from the time I left my Dad's house at 17. My pregnancy was my wakeup call from an abusive marriage to an alcoholic that was basically a poor manifestation of my suppressed need to be someone's babygirl. Long story short, I've been "single" since 2009 (but only aware of my little side since 2014). I like to think I do a good job of pretending to have it together enough to cover both parental roles without completely neglecting my inner little, but I do cringe a bit when my son takes on a concerned tone or caregiver mindset in regards to me. It makes me feel like I'm failing at pretending to be a well rounded adult. Don't be hard on yourself would be my advice. I'm pretty sure my Mother is/was a little but was so selfish she refused to even attempt to be a stable influence on myself or my younger sister. Hope your Daddy finds you soon. I feel like Mommies who are also littles have a unique position in life.

 

Cheers (=

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Aww thanks for your replies. I'm still in the same situation. Super happy for everyone's input and advice. I appreciate it so very much.

 

Tao. I knoe how you feel. I showed my son a pretty picture I made from sand and food coloring. I built it on my table. He stared at me and said in a stern voice...'you know you are picking that up yourself'.

I told him "I know that! Ack! Just look at da picture'. He did end up telling me it was very pretty afterwards.

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