What do littles look for when first meeting a DD online?

[yimi]

I've been trying to meet a little for awhile now, through omegle mainly. I usually ask the basic things: age, if she wants a long term daddy, her name, if she likes dress up. Once I get her contact, either I realize we aren't a good fit or they lose interest. I know what I'm looking for physically, but usually the ones I find attractive and connect to are the ones that end up not messaging back after a short while. I'm playful, but not overly so. I'm only sexual when I feel I know them well enough. What do you find the most interesting for DD's to ask or say when first meeting you? 

[Guest PimkiePoison]

Hi! Being in the same position as you, I think I can answer pretty well:

The first thing I notice in a DD is what does he think that is essential in a DDlg relationship. So like if he consider the sexual part as the main part of the relationship, i know he's not for me. Or if he looks for a 24/7 DDlg scening, for example. There are other factors: how time difference there is, age differents (not anybody is ok with huge age difference) if he's married or not nrl, if he prefers my "little me" more then the fully real me, things like that.

When people say "don't judge a book by it's cover" that's bullshit. If the cover isn't pretty, no one looks at the plot. 

Hope I was useful!

[yimi]

Hi! Being in the same position as you, I think I can answer pretty well:

 

The first thing I notice in a DD is what does he think that is essential in a DDlg relationship. So like if he consider the sexual part as the main part of the relationship, i know he's not for me. Or if he looks for a 24/7 DDlg scening, for example. There are other factors: how time difference there is, age differents (not anybody is ok with huge age difference) if he's married or not nrl, if he prefers my "little me" more then the fully real me, things like that.

 

When people say "don't judge a book by it's cover" that's bullshit. If the cover isn't pretty, no one looks at the plot. 

 

Hope I was useful!

 

Thanks for the reply! Is there anything specific that can make a little and DD conversation keep going and stay fun when first getting to meet each other? I feel it becomes very question heavy toward the lg, but maybe thats not a bad thing. 

[Little_Bear]

I look for a DD that is around my age, preferably one that lives near me (though I haven't had much luck yet), though I don't mind someone online. I also look for common interests and if they're the kind of Daddy that I want. If so, I think the conversation should flow naturally. If you have things in common, it's easier to break the ice and therefore, easier to make a connection with them.

[Guest starrflower]

Im glad you get to know them before anything sexual comes up.  This will definitely build trust.  It's good to find out if you are compatible.  It always helps to know if a potential partner could be your true blue friend even if it wasn't romantic at first.   Don't give up because you may have to meet a lot of littles before you find yours

[Guest PimkiePoison]

Thanks for the reply! Is there anything specific that can make a little and DD conversation keep going and stay fun when first getting to meet each other? I feel it becomes very question heavy toward the lg, but maybe thats not a bad thing. 

Well i guess if you find common instrests or if you talk about your days, the conversation will keep going. But try to be as natural as you can because, in my case at least, it's not important to be constantly communicating, but that when we are, the conversation makes me smile or i read it again because i learnt something of the other person.

[Guest]

I think what is really important is the connection, you can tell in a very short time if you "connect". I look for someone who wants the same things as me. So I think the most important thing is figuring out what YOU want and going from there

[Guest little domi]

I look for character traits that put my little side at ease (gentle humor and playfulness mostly), and his caregiving qualities need to shine through almost immediately or I don't feel comfortable at all. Age-compatibility is big too. If all that seems to flow, then I look for regular compatibility topics (interests and ideals etc.)

[Guest Jennyanydots]

I know you say you're only sexual once you get to know someone, but maybe it would be best to wait and let the little make the first move? Not saying you shouldn't leave hints that you are interested, but it's easy enough to scare a little off becoming sexual, even once you feel you know her well enough (she might not feel the same). I mean, I have no clue how your conversations go, so I'm not judging at all. . .

 

Can't say that I've ever gone looking and definitely not gone looking online, but I do have a general MO (if you will) and I have a pretty good idea of what I like or don't like, personality wise. Looks are just about the last thing I worry over. Especially if I don't expect it to go offline, cuz c'mon. . .SOME people might expect you to try to get to know them before wanting to see them. Not because they aren't attractive - even gorgeous people have a right to want you to get to know their personality, free of judgement on their physical appearance. Not that physical attraction isn't important - heck yeah it is! But, isn't it sort of the point of the internet, that we can be judged on our inner strengths rather than whatever physical traits we were lucky enough to be born with? Perhaps it would be worth your time to try getting to know someone who is a little "shy" about showing their face, and when you feel that it may be important to know what they look like, offer a photo of yourself and hope they reciprocate. Or even ask if they'd like to exchange photos. . .

 

Personally, and like I said, I've never tried to do the online dating thing or online relationship thing or online anything thing so. . .but personally, I want to get to know someone before I start answering a ton of personal questions. There are certain things that I am happy to share with the entire universe, but the rest is . . .sacred? to me. . .I have a certain reverence for my personal information and if someone becomes, in my opinion, too invasive early on, I will quickly lose interest. 

 

So all in all, I would prefer that a guy get to know me as a person, and let me get to know him. The everyday stuff. The stuff unrelated to kink or sex or anything I feel is too personal or close to my soul. If the everyday stuff is going to work out, then the rest should fall into place. I'm willing to give if he's willing to give, so that everyone's needs get met. I feel like the kink should fall into place with the other stuff, not the other way around. So, I guess what I am suggesting is that you turn it around and do things the other way? you could try it, anyway. Try getting to know about the person outside of their kinks and then get to know their kinky side. In this case, I guess get to know their adult self first and then ask about their little side, or, better yet, invite them to show you their little side. I think it's a lot better to open yourself up and invite a little in than to overwhelm a little with a ton of invasive questions. Open yourself and let them enter, don't force them to open up so that you can enter? . . make sense? anyway, that's just my two cents, for what it's worth to anyone listening! good luck!

[jellicle baby]

I would look for a sweet, caring person who is intelligent, protective, and not too eager to jump right into intimate things like calling/ being called daddy or baby, giving orders, having sexual talk/contact, and instead a person who is experienced and patient, and who is open to long communication, and respects safe words and soft/hard limits. One who also encourages and helps to be productive and happy.