My maybe New Daddy says He would want to see my Big me not just my little me. I don't know what to do

[Guest Teagan (means little poet)]

My Daddy is going to be leaving soon and is helping me try and find a new Daddy on here. The Daddy we like best for being my New Daddy says he would want to see my Big me as well as my little me. My current Daddy says it is up to me, but for me I am a little because I don't like being Big its dangerous, and scary, and people are mean to you and hurt you, and there is no one to go to who can make things better. When I am Big i sometimes just feel like I want to cry and cry and cry because being trying to live  in the Big world hurts to much; I never feel like that in little space. I've had 2 Daddys and 1 mommy in my life time and none of the I ever told me Big name to.  Does anyone else have a Daddy or Mommy who wants to see their Big them and their little them? What is it Like? Thank you.

[Guest Sun]

I can tell you my input on the subject and how I personally feel about it.

 

I don't think there are any bad intentions there. I think it's a need for a deeper connection. Get to know every aspect of someone to understand them as a whole and be a support for them in any situation. It's also easy to understand your fear of opening up the Big side towards people, because then they treat it as it is; but the key here is to find someone who is comfortable and understanding with both the little and Big aspects.

 

If I think of anything else I'll post it! Again, personal opinion; not saying you should go do this and that!

[sunchaser]

I'm Big and little with my Daddy. Recently I've been more Big than little but that wasn't the case at first. At first I was exclusively little around him because it was new and my Big world was awful. I knew he wanted to see my Big side and as we spent more time together it got easier.

 

I don't think you're potential new Daddy is trying to limit you're littleness but like Sun said he probably wants to know all of you so the connection is deeper. Caregiver types often want to help their Littles deal with all the hard things in their life. Maybe for your new Daddy it's not just about playing with you but it's also about you facing the world exactly how you are.

 

It's not easy and it's scary but you'll have a Daddy to protect you.

[Princess-P]

I don't personally define my big and little times as two seoerate things. I'm always both at the same time, just sometimes a bit more than the other.

 

However to me it sounds like this potential Daddy believes in a deeper connection. Knowing only your little side is like only knowing a part of you rather than the whole thing which, in my opinion, makes for a shallow relationship. Most caregivers will want to know the whole you. But really its what your comfortable with.

 

If you feel like being big is scary, or dangerous.. Well then maybe you would benefit from a Caregiver who would help you with that. Not to call your other caregivers bad, if your happy with those relationships then good for you, but I believe that a caregiver who wants all of you, not just the happy sweet playful little, is one of the best feelings in the world.

[littlelili]

I agree with Sun, Sunchaser and Princess P. Give him a chance to know more aspects of yourself. Being a little is awesome, and adulting is hard sometimes, but the more a person gets to know you (with good intentions of course ) the more that person will be able to help you and care for you through difficult times.

[Guest Teagan (means little poet)]

Thank you so much everyone for your advice. I thing maybe if I see hime and I'm there to work on a grad paper or something that would show him who I am academically which is pert of my adult side. And maybe if I explain how physically difficult to stay in my Big me. Most of my life is living as as conglomeration of Little Big Teagan. 

 

I understand about the deeper connection part, wanting to know and spend time with all of me not just my little parts. It sounds reasonable and so sweet I just have no idea how to do it. 

 

Thank all again so much for helping me

 

I can tell you my input on the subject and how I personally feel about it.

 

I don't think there are any bad intentions there. I think it's a need for a deeper connection. Get to know every aspect of someone to understand them as a whole and be a support for them in any situation. It's also easy to understand your fear of opening up the Big side towards people, because then they treat it as it is; but the key here is to find someone who is comfortable and understanding with both the little and Big aspects.

 

If I think of anything else I'll post it! Again, personal opinion; not saying you should go do this and that!

 

 

I'm Big and little with my Daddy. Recently I've been more Big than little but that wasn't the case at first. At first I was exclusively little around him because it was new and my Big world was awful. I knew he wanted to see my Big side and as we spent more time together it got easier.

I don't think you're potential new Daddy is trying to limit you're littleness but like Sun said he probably wants to know all of you so the connection is deeper. Caregiver types often want to help their Littles deal with all the hard things in their life. Maybe for your new Daddy it's not just about playing with you but it's also about you facing the world exactly how you are.

It's not easy and it's scary but you'll have a Daddy to protect you.

 

I don't personally define my big and little times as two seoerate things. I'm always both at the same time, just sometimes a bit more than the other.

However to me it sounds like this potential Daddy believes in a deeper connection. Knowing only your little side is like only knowing a part of you rather than the whole thing which, in my opinion, makes for a shallow relationship. Most caregivers will want to know the whole you. But really its what your comfortable with.

If you feel like being big is scary, or dangerous.. Well then maybe you would benefit from a Caregiver who would help you with that. Not to call your other caregivers bad, if your happy with those relationships then good for you, but I believe that a caregiver who wants all of you, not just the happy sweet playful little, is one of the best feelings in the world.

 

I agree with Sun, Sunchaser and Princess P. Give him a chance to know more aspects of yourself. Being a little is awesome, and adulting is hard sometimes, but the more a person gets to know you (with good intentions of course ) the more that person will be able to help you and care for you through difficult times.

[DaddysLittleRose]

With my Daddy, sometimes he loves to see the Big me, and sometimes he loves to see the little me. He lets me choose when I want to be either, although I prefer being little.. but will be Big for him when he wants even if I don't want to. 

 

Some situations require me to be Big, when it comes to having to deal with Big world issues, but when I'm really stressed I find it hard to be Big so I start regressing into being little even when the situation doesn't warrant it.

[Guest Daddyseeksgirl]

Maybe the potential Daddy's way of looking at this is if a little is always in the little frame of mind, is she capable of giving consent or would the potential Daddy possibly be taking advantage of a situation.

[quietkitten]

I live with my daddy and he sees both big me and little me and we work just fine he will even take care of me when i have to be big just so the world doesnt seem so scary all the time and he is the reason im comfortable with little me - hope this helped

[Guest annemarie]

what i think is going on here is what is going on with me when my daddy says that he wants to see Big me:

 

he wants to see me grow into my Big self. he wants to see me grow up and be able to do the things i currently can't and use littlespace to cope with. he wants to see me become a happier and healthier person than i am right now. 

 

i think that's what this daddy means as well. i could be wrong, but that's what it sounds like to me.