Losing my little side.

[BabygirlsShadow]

Ever since Daddy and I broke up, it seems as if I've lost my little side. I havent touched my stuffies or my colouring books in weeks, and I seem to be in a big headspace all the time. I dont know if its just because my little side reminds me so much of him or what.. Is there anyone else who's gone through this and/or could help me out?

[M-Felicity]

Um... yesh... I kinda did go through same stuff everytime I broke up...

It is because our little side is naive and needy, but if someone violates your trust and abandons you makes you to grow up =_= 

So I am weaaallyyy sowey you r going fru dis... 

Sleepies help, dancing w funny music, and favourite cartoons! Then u wanna colour more! (esp. if u meet a daddy, and wants u to colour for him) hehe

 

So for now *hugs* and come to chat room ^__^ (there are amazing people that gave me attention when I was sad!)

[LoralieHaze]

I think a lot of us go through this, probably for the reason Mia mentioned, but also because we associate being little with our caregivers. This is why I strongly advocate knowing your Little self before having a caregiver and being able to go into little space on your own. Daddies or mommies may come and go but being a Little is who we are inside. If someone doesn't want to be in a relationship with us anymore, we can't let them have the power over us to change our little side or take away the fun of little space.

 

I know it might seem hard now but please try to do the things you loved before. Talk to your stuffies, cuddle them, have a tea party. Pick out one page in your coloring book and just start doing it. Even if it doesn't seem fun at first or if you're stuck in a big headspace, this will ease you back into it. In no time, you will be having fun again and you will be able to enjoy your little side.

 

When you find a new daddy, remind yourself that you were a little girl before he was in your life and you'll still be a little girl if he decides to leave. I'm sure you want your next daddy to be with you forever, like we all want, but that's not always the case and it's better to be prepared.