To all our members. This is the first Christmas our little club has been open, and I just wanted to say I hope everyone has a lovely time, and that all your wishes come true. If there was one thing I would like, is that the members become more active here and that we could start to grow this little community within the forums. Wishing you all the best and for a great 2025!

Alright friends its official we are taking this week off! No new chapters and questions for the last ones will be put in a few days as Christmas delayed me. Thank you friends 💚

I can happily keep reading - just not sure if I will have time to answer questions this week. ♥️🎄

@MissNMTX @RoseyLittle @kimmybunny @Zina @SquirtleSquad @DaddysCosmicBunny Hello all Pigtail here. I know its a bit late but it occurred to me that yall might want a week off for Christmas sooooo here is a quick pile before I assign chapters tomorrow. Please try to vote today if yall can.

As the holidays approach a lot of people experience higher levels of stress or other issues and need someone to talk to. And a lot of people would rather not verbalize what they are feeling or going through. You can text HOME any time day or night 365 days a year and someone will text you back to talk. From their site: "How it Works Text HOME to 741741 from anywhere in the United States – 24/7, free, confidential. Crisis Text Line is here for you. A live, trained volunteer Crisis Counselor will receive your text and respond with care and compassion. They’re here to listen, support you, and help you move from a hot moment to a cool calm." https://www.crisistextline.org/ I also read if you text HOLA the counselor will be fluent in Spanish. If there are other services like this where you live please let me know so we can share them. US: Text 741741 CA: Text 686868 UK: Text 85258 Ireland: 50808

I think kinda like anything else in the lifestyle, you'll probably find it through a mix of self-reflection and some research! :3 For example, the most common pet types are Bunny, Kitty, and Puppy. Many Bunnies gravitate towards bratty, stubborn, mischievous. Many Kitties are naughty as well, but some have a sweeter exterior. Many Puppies are very submissive and sweet. Knowing that information may help you find what sort of headspace you want to achieve. That's the goal - what feelings do you want to evoke? What imagery, toys, accessories, titles, play styles and so forth help you (and/or partner) get that result? But don't let the typical steer you! I am a non-bratty, Princessy, service sub Kitty. Some Puppies are feral and naughty. Playing around with it makes it fun and the most YOU it can be! And you can be ANY sort of pet - fox, raccoon, panda, axolotl, bat, wolf, dragon, sheep, cow, mermaid, dinosaur, catdog, mer-fox - the only limit is your imagination! Finding gear to go with more uncommon pet styles may be harder but don't let that deter you. Get creative, research, and make it yourself if you can! Soooo much of this community has made some of the coolest gear ever that started as a person with hot glue and a dream haha. And while this is admittedly not my area of expertise, but D-types can be pets too! Again, research, and safely play around. I love Evie Lupine on Youtube as my go to for research, especially since she's a pet, but to each their own. There are also tons of online quizzes for what kind of pet or animal you are, some might just not be under a petplay label haha. There's also a whole bunch of communities who are non-petplayers that have their own animal versions of themselves - like furries and so forth! I wish you the best of luck!! 💗

@Andriel_Isilien that's so awesome, thank you! I have about a dozen old bags of popcorn that I have for my popcorn machine! And I was thinking the other day I probably needed to throw them out but stop myself from doing it! lol

Update on this recipe with a tip I read about. If your popcorn kernels are old and dry, try soaking them in water for about 15-20. That can help revive them a bit for popping and being fluffy.

I know this is a couple of months old, but this time of year it can be really difficult. I have dealt with my tiny humans fathers and trauma from both of those relationships. It is very painful and therapy can help, but can also hurt. Please know you are not alone. I really related to these comments: Once I allowed myself to feel all the pain, anger and hurt, I was able to start healing. I had to get it out begore i could "forgive" or let go. Then I could start to let go of the revenge feelings I had toward them. As I walked through this path, I discovered that it was so much bigger than just my feelings. My whole body remembers trauma and it takes many different strategies working together to bring wholeness. I'll list a few examples that helped me in the beginning, but please know that if they don't work for you, it is ok. Some of these worked for my tiny humans, too, just in case yours needs help. - Cardboard box and a screwdriver - pound on the box til you are exhausted and your feelings are out. - Tearing old paper into tiny bits, crumbling up old grocery adds or newspaper, tearing apart free magazines and junk mail - destroying things helps. - Crumpled paper balls and throwing them as hard as you can at a target. - Stuffing grocery bags (Walmart or similar) - the plastic ones if you still get them, into a trash bag and using it as a "beating bag". When the bag gets a hole, add another trash bag. When it gets low add more bags. - you can use pillows or blankets in the bag too, but they are almost too firm. - There are places to go where you can break things... I have some dishes in my trunk waiting for the time to go break them... - Screaming pillow... or giant squishmallow... in a screaming corner. - Pounding fists and kicking feet on your mattress... - Play-doh... punching, slapping, rolling, smashing... - Scrubbing everything (I didn't think i liked this but it helps). - Foam bats.... they are fabulous! - Piñata... - Gardening - Beating rugs I used a lot of different strategies. Currently I do morning exercises to focus me and stretches throughout the day. Some days it still hits me hard and I need to ask for support. Or just sit and cry with my paci, holding my stuffies. It's been huge that I can now ask for support more appropriately and get my needs met in a safe way instead of finding myself in unsafe situations. Feeling my anger, fear and sadness has allowed me to grow through the pain of my trauma. What he did to you was not right, but getting help and working through this is such a big step! Remember it is a process. What happened to you was painful and finding peace after is your journey. Going at your pace is the best way to proceed. If forgiveness is your end goal, it is possible, but first comes working through the feelings. Big hugs and please know you are not alone.

Movie night is in one hour! https://hyperbeam.com/i/d48Gbgz5

I love your amulet! Fuzzy AND Hogwarts - yes please. Guide - okay get ready for some next level cheesiness (but cheese is delicious and you can’t have too much right?) but this community is one of my guides. Everyone’s voices here (like great big hive mind 🤣), the general spirit of the place. I’m able to come here for connection, fun, guidance, witnessing, support.

There’s no words I can add to the group wisdom here which is so beautiful - so I just wanted to take a moment and just let you know what a gladiator you are. And not from a place of toughing it out, we are sometimes our most courageous when we our vulnerable and when we allow ourselves grace and compassion. You are being so brave and kind to yourself. A colleague once showed a spoken word poem about anxiety group by Catalina Ferro (hilariously in our group therapy program) and it always stuck with me even years and years later. The reminder that the crushing driving force behind anxiety is the desire to be okay, to live, to be accepted, to do a good job, to be safe. And the way those who walk with it in their every single day are such warriors. I’ve put it in a spoiler box because it has swear words in it, and dark humour in terms of anxiety, therapy, and other various mental health struggles. So I wanted folks to have trigger warning on that. But it’s also powerful at the end. ♥️

I’m still here and caught up - and loving the delicious tension between them! I’m glad we increased chapters because it’s hard to stop reading now 💕

Movie Night starts in 5 hours, hope you can make it

Movie Night begins in 9 hours!

Welcome to the club! It's pretty nice here. Feels like a safe place to be myself and I hope you find that too while you're here. 😊

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@marshmalloww Thank you so much for sharing this, it takes a lot of courage to put words to something that feels so heavy and confusing. What you’re describing makes so much sense, and you’re definitely not alone in this. That moment of realizing “oh… this isn’t how everyone feels” can be both relieving and deeply painful. Feeling calm for the first time and grieving the years you didn’t have that is a very real and valid response. Nothing about that makes you crazy, it makes you human and aware. It’s also incredibly common for anxiety to spike when you start therapy and begin working through trauma. You’re loosening long-held coping mechanisms and your nervous system is learning new ways to exist, which can feel overwhelming and exhausting. The shoulders-up-to-your-ears feeling is such a familiar sign of how much your body has been carrying for so long. Being competent, decisive, and high-functioning at work while feeling undone by “small” things at home is something so many people with GAD experience. It doesn’t mean you’re weak or inconsistent, it means you’re using a tremendous amount of energy to hold things together during the day. Decision fatigue is real, and it’s okay to need softness and simplicity when you get home. Accepting the label can feel frustrating, enlightening, and grief-filled all at once. That tension you’re feeling around acceptance is part of the process, not a failure of it. You’re learning how to meet yourself with more honesty than you ever had space to before. As for “toughing it out,” many people find that the real shift comes when they stop trying to be tough and start practicing gentleness instead, letting rest be productive, letting emotions exist without fixing them, and speaking to themselves the way they would to someone they love. Progress isn’t linear, and the days that feel harder don’t erase the work you’re doing. You’re doing something incredibly hard, and you’re doing it thoughtfully and bravely. Please know that many of us have walked this path and recognize exactly what you’re describing. Be patient with yourself, healing is slow because it’s deep. And you’re already moving forward, even on the days it doesn’t feel like it. Keep up the good work and best wishes!💛

Such a great thing to remember! Amulet I find fuzzy blankets comforting. I just got a new hogwarts 1 for Christmas from a family member. I love curling up under them or even snuggling close to it. Only downside is my dog loves them too and steals them 😂😂

No worries I know you always catch up friend!

Yay always happy to have you friend