How old is too old to be a daddy

[Guest SifuTheWolf]

I'm 53, my babygirl is 32. We joke about the age difference and have fun with it, but it's not like I set out to find someone so much younger than me, it just happened, my babygirl loves me being older, but that's not why she is with me. To each their own, if it's legal and both parties are consensual go for it!

[Mizgog]

Coming from someone on the exact other end of the spectrum (18) you are not too old ! If you have love in your heart and a good attitude to the lifestyle, all will go well

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Oh, so this thread popped up again. Honestly I don't think 50+ cgs should be expecting to date or dating people who are 20 or below. If your dynamic works and you have a partner who could easily be your grandparents age, sure, cool, good for you. People have their kinks? I don't have anything to back this comment up, alright, all I'm saying is the power imbalance is too great. Again, if you like that and believe you can handle yourself if something in the relationship goes wrong, go for it.

I'm probably only speaking out of bad experience here.

Not everyone interested in DDlg or who identifies as a little is 20 or below... the topic wasn't about what age limits should be put in place for a partner. It was about how old being a Daddy in general was.

 

Personally, if you're a 20yr old with a 50yr old I don't see that as a kink. I see it as them not minding the age gap and willing to be happy with a partner despite a massive age gap, societal norms and the often rude/hateful stares/comments others will give.

 

Not saying all, but I don't think most older Daddies go in with the intent of getting with a 20 year old. My husband, who is also my Daddy, will be 29 here soon. I am 23. We got together when I was 18 and he wanted absolutely no part of an 18yr old. "Too immature". Was his reasoning. His buddy got him to talk to me as friends and he fell for me very quickly, even though we literally were talking as friends. That was not the plan going in from either of us. Now I'm a little around him and it doesn't bother him at all....

 

I truthfully don't think there's an age limit on being a Daddy. Massive age gaps aren't my thing, two years older use to be a "limit" for me... then I met Daddy.

[AGentleman]

Not everyone interested in DDlg or who identifies as a little is 20 or below... the topic wasn't about what age limits should be put in place for a partner. It was about how old being a Daddy in general was.

 

Personally, if you're a 20yr old with a 50yr old I don't see that as a kink. I see it as them not minding the age gap and willing to be happy with a partner despite a massive age gap, societal norms and the often rude/hateful stares/comments others will give.

 

Not saying all, but I don't think most older Daddies go in with the intent of getting with a 20 year old. My husband, who is also my Daddy, will be 29 here soon. I am 23. We got together when I was 18 and he wanted absolutely no part of an 18yr old. "Too immature". Was his reasoning. His buddy got him to talk to me as friends and he fell for me very quickly, even though we literally were talking as friends. That was not the plan going in from either of us. Now I'm a little around him and it doesn't bother him at all....

 

I truthfully don't think there's an age limit on being a Daddy. Massive age gaps aren't my thing, two years older use to be a "limit" for me... then I met Daddy.

 

for me the age gap is never about what society thinks... but the actual gap in life experience... someone in their 20s and someone in their 50s are in very different points of their life, Now the DDlg dynamic has the interesting aspect that exactly that gap is wanted for atleast parts of the relationship.

[Drmagister]

This Daddy is 13 years older than his dedicated little. I'm 45. In my opinion, and my limited experience, no physical age is out of the question, as long as we're all at least 18.. my little had a Daddy 21+ older than her, and it worked... At 50+ I would consider a middle maybe, but only if nothing else works.slainte!

[DeepSpaceDaddy]

I give advice, a sympathetic ear, guidance, etc. A long time ago I felt bad for having feelings for some of them, until I discovered DDlg. I don't plan to have children but it would be nice to be a daddy.

 

This is me exactly, from teenage years on.  I always wanted children but not sure that's realistic now. As for getting married, I kind of want a duel role I think. An equal partner, mature and responsible, someone I can trust to make good, adult decisions, but also someone young, that I can mentor in some ways, teach, guide, and enjoy the journey, someone  that helps me remember to be fun, spontaneous, innocent and carefree. Is this combo realistic?

[DeepSpaceDaddy]

... I'm 48 but still feel like i'm about 28, and have the pleasure of caring for a very special girl in her twenties. We click together in so many ways, and it works because we are each genuinely interested in learning from each other. And that never gets old.

 

This, is what I truly want, wish for, and think about. 

[Frog]

This is me exactly, from teenage years on.  I always wanted children but not sure that's realistic now. As for getting married, I kind of want a duel role I think. An equal partner, mature and responsible, someone I can trust to make good, adult decisions, but also someone young, that I can mentor in some ways, teach, guide, and enjoy the journey, someone  that helps me remember to be fun, spontaneous, innocent and carefree. Is this combo realistic?

I'm with you on the part about having kids. My father was older than most of my friends' fathers, and at times I feel like my younger sister and I lost him early. Definitely earlier than most of my friends. Like you, many have told me I would be (or would have been) a great dad. But for me, I feel like I'm past the age of having kids.

 

Now, onto the other part. "Being equal" to me is often misunderstood. Since you and I are close in age, you probably know the next part. I'll say it anyway, and maybe we'll pass on some wisdom to the younger crowd.

 

(My opinion) To me being equal is about value, respect, and energy. It's not about doing everything equally or anything like that. An example is that--maybe I'm bragging--I've cooked better than all my girlfriends. One almost got herself banned from my kitchen! Because of that, if it was a simple pop-it-in-the-oven meal she could do it, but if it involved actual food prep and so on, she just helped out. Were we equal? You could debate yes or no, but we were still equal in the sense that the food she heated up was just as helpful and valuable as what I cooked from scratch. Were she and I equal in cooking skill? Hell no. She was a horrible cook, and she knew it.

 

Another girlfriend and I had an age gap. So she'd ask me for advice and ideas a lot. And I asked her for her help on things I knew she was best at. To some, me helping her get her college classes ready was nowhere close to her helping me shop for new shirts. But it was respect. I was better at certain things, and she was better at others. We were equal, but she's horrible at organizing and planning. 

 

In both cases, it didn't work out because of the energy. Eventually I was putting more energy into it than they were, so they ended. Again, it was never a question of being equal. So yeah you can have an equal relationship and you do a huge amount of mentoring, guidance, and teaching. As long as you include her on major decisions, you're valuing her input. I've known couples where the husband made all of the financial decisions (even if he did ask her), and I've known couples where she made all of the major financial decisions. And I've known some who have submitted to another and only one made all the major decisions. With that in mind, they always consider how it affects the other one. 

 

So, yeah, you can be equal and still do most if not all of something specific.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

This is me exactly, from teenage years on. I always wanted children but not sure that's realistic now. As for getting married, I kind of want a duel role I think. An equal partner, mature and responsible, someone I can trust to make good, adult decisions, but also someone young, that I can mentor in some ways, teach, guide, and enjoy the journey, someone that helps me remember to be fun, spontaneous, innocent and carefree. Is this combo realistic?

I consider myself quiet mature, and it must be true to some extent. I'm 23, my Daddy and husband is nearly 29. I approached him first through an online dating website. He wanted to part of it at the time as I was 18, and he didn't want to deal with"immature 18yr old drama". His friend convinced him to give me a shot and we've been together ever since. I'm also a mother. I stepped up and began raising his son as mine when we got together because his mother chose not to. I've since adopted his son. We have an almost 3yr old together now, too.

 

Meanwhile we've bought a house and have been married for a few years. I'm a manager where I work and have had a career there for going on 6yrs. I've never worked a day in my life anywhere else.

 

I'm also very child-like and free spirited. I love all things fun. Little does not mean immature.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I'm with you on the part about having kids. My father was older than most of my friends' fathers, and at times I feel like my younger sister and I lost him early. Definitely earlier than most of my friends. Like you, many have told me I would be (or would have been) a great dad. But for me, I feel like I'm past the age of having kids.

 

Now, onto the other part. "Being equal" to me is often misunderstood. Since you and I are close in age, you probably know the next part. I'll say it anyway, and maybe we'll pass on some wisdom to the younger crowd.

 

(My opinion) To me being equal is about value, respect, and energy. It's not about doing everything equally or anything like that. An example is that--maybe I'm bragging--I've cooked better than all my girlfriends. One almost got herself banned from my kitchen! Because of that, if it was a simple pop-it-in-the-oven meal she could do it, but if it involved actual food prep and so on, she just helped out. Were we equal? You could debate yes or no, but we were still equal in the sense that the food she heated up was just as helpful and valuable as what I cooked from scratch. Were she and I equal in cooking skill? Hell no. She was a horrible cook, and she knew it.

 

Another girlfriend and I had an age gap. So she'd ask me for advice and ideas a lot. And I asked her for her help on things I knew she was best at. To some, me helping her get her college classes ready was nowhere close to her helping me shop for new shirts. But it was respect. I was better at certain things, and she was better at others. We were equal, but she's horrible at organizing and planning.

 

In both cases, it didn't work out because of the energy. Eventually I was putting more energy into it than they were, so they ended. Again, it was never a question of being equal. So yeah you can have an equal relationship and you do a huge amount of mentoring, guidance, and teaching. As long as you include her on major decisions, you're valuing her input. I've known couples where the husband made all of the financial decisions (even if he did ask her), and I've known couples where she made all of the major financial decisions. And I've known some who have submitted to another and only one made all the major decisions. With that in mind, they always consider how it affects the other one.

 

So, yeah, you can be equal and still do most if not all of something specific.

This. Especially the last paragraph, perfectly describes my husband and I. He cooks. I'm a decent cook and I make from scratch my lunches for myself and 1-3 other co-workers for the whole week. He makes all of our dinners, and usually breakfast at least one day of the weekend. He loves to cook, and for the first 3.5yrs of our relationship he worked second shift and I day shift. I cooked for myself and the kids and he warmed up food. Now he cooks.

 

He handles our finances. Again, I managed them for a very long time. I am NOT a numbers person. Let's be honest, I thought if I saved $10 for a year I would have 5,200. Our bills got paid and all but I was beyond stressed out. I begged him to take over and he did.

 

He makes our major decisions, though we heavily discuss them together. He is dream-oriented, I am I want it and I want it now oriented. I struggle with seeing where we will end up through our struggles now. He does not. My anxiety also makes me question any choice I make. He doesn't have that problem. So, he makes decisions after talking with me.

 

We are equals in that... any form of submission he has from me, I freely give. He said something the other day. People generally think that the Dom has all the power... but truthfully, it's the sub who has the power. They have the power to give and take their submission however they want. I submit to him Dominating me in every sense. Once the consent of my submission is gone though, if he still chooses to Dominate me, it isn't Dominance any more, it's abuse. The power in our dynamic rests with me, as much if not more than it does him.

 

Yes, we are equal, but not in the traditional sense. I ask him before I spend any money at all. We make close to the same amount weekly, the money is as much mine as it is his. But I've given our finances to him to manage, and it seems kind of wrong to do so and then go spend money so he doesn't know what he's working with in terms of our finances.

[Guest London Daddy]

I don't think you're ever too old to love and advise a little

[Leo_Ascendent]

Never too old, and never too young as long as parties involved are, of course, of age. It's a frame of mind.

 

EDIT: Fixed

Edited April 21, 2017 by Leo_Ascendent

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

Never too old, and never too young. It's a frame of mind.

Careful with the 'never too young' thing. This dynamic is for adults and anyone under 18 is too young for this lifestyle.

Edited April 21, 2017 by Candy Minx ♡

[Leo_Ascendent]

Careful with the 'never too young' thing. This dynamic is for adults and anyone under 18 is too young for this lifestyle.

Fixed that.

[Guest Barefootgirl]

My daddies have always been younger than me (I'm 51) by 10 - 13 years. When I was younger, I was always interested in older men. Now, I am not concerned at all about age, because I still feel younger than them. Would I consider and older Daddy? Of course. It's all about connection and (his) maturity.

[Guest London papa]

I found this discussion very useful being an older daddy. I don't consider myself to be old I consider myself experienced

[binky-bun]

I am 52 and I will always always be a little. I have always been attracted to older men my entire life (for their nurturing ways and maturity) and the only thing that ever got me off track as a little was when I didnt feel cherished or the man was selfish, or the mechanics didnt work. The first two are insurmountable, the last one isnt.

 

I attract 28-30 year olds often when I am out in social circles, and what most of them dont understand is that a shallow perspective on sex is quite boring to me.  Many times if a man's life experiences are not deep enough for my tastes, he can always make up for that by being nurturing and caring and by being a great listener and learner. That in itself is sexy.

 

"I am 52 and I will always always be a little."

 

Sorry but this just made me really happy. I'm a lot older than a lot of my little friends, and I worry I'm going to be to old to be a little soon, but this is really encouraging.

[Guest Mittens]

Never too old, I know a lot of littles on here who like 45 and up and some as low as 35 and up. It helps them get into the role.

[Guest Sweetkittenbj]

My last, honest to goodness Daddy, was 77 years old. Yes, you read that right, 77. He didn't look his age and he certainly didn't act like it. No age limits on Daddies or littles.

[Guest Stinkin'ol'Fred]

My ex Daddy was 54

I'm 24. His age made me feel safer.

[Mr.Hoolig4n D@ddy]

Your not too old to be a Daddy, its something that's just in you.

However if your expectations are a very young little then you may run into a few bumps.

CG/l has become rather mainstream. Therefor you run into a lot of people who are just jumping on the bandwagon. These people are more interested in the superficial aspects. For someone who has been a member of the community for so long it will be a grueling task to pick your way through the mainstreamers.

Its not impossible, far from it. My suggestion is to take older littles into consideration as they often take the dynamic more seriously. This is just a general statement of course as there are exceptions on both sides.

I don't think the mainstream thing affects only Ddlg. Speaking as a daddy who's new to the whole thing, I think BDSM as a whole went more mainstream since a certain collection of books exploded all over everything. Since i started becoming romantically involved with girls i knew i wanted something different. Then those books arrived and i had terminology to go with the feels... Did further research and here I am today! As for the age thing i don't really have an opinion on too old. Too young yes obviously but as long as it's safe and consensual i don't see why you can't still live the lifestyle as long as you want to... Hell if you're 80 and your partner is 20 let her call you granddaddy

[Untwisted]

I think the general consensus is there is no "too old" but people may have preferences about how big an age gap they are comfortable with, but that's an individual thing.

The one that causes more debate I think is how young is too young; is say 18 too young to be a daddy?

Me, I'm 49.  I'll never be too old to be me.

[BonBeau]

I'm really glad to find this thread. It's hard to find care givers and bigs over 30. I also haven't seen many littles that 1) are over 30 and 2) seek a 30+ big. It's nice to see both older bigs and older littles here.

 

I'm 33 and I only want someone that is much older than me. In my experience, there are things you can't find in a person unless they are older. Those qualities makes me feel safe and cared for. Plus, for me older CG are more likely to be interesting to talk to. Obviously, it comes down to the individual but if we are talking about trends if found it to be true.

[Guest DaddyBuddha]

Age is nothing but a number and like Brian Adam said "18 till i die". There's nothing called too old if the soul is still young =)

[Guest SUeB]

My Daddy is 69 years old. He is an incredible one. There is no such thing as too old for either side - Daddy or LG