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    #21 The Phantom

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    Posted 30 October 2017 - 09:32 PM

    They need to make a banner of this post and hang it up for all to see.


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    Open up your mind, let your fantasies unwind In this darkness that you know you cannot fight

    The darkness of the music of the night


    #22 ChrisG

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    Posted 30 October 2017 - 11:43 PM

    Thank you! Really beautiful thoughts, and I agree with everything you wrote. It's terrible that we criticize ourselves,when society is already doing that to us every day. I just found out about this community today, and very grateful to find out there are compassionate people here.
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    #23 shadowrider

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    Posted 31 October 2017 - 12:13 AM

    Leesh, Brokenporcelain, ChrisG

    Thank you all for your kind words. 

     

     We are all too often judged by a standard that we did not set for ourselves. A standard that I honestly have no care to live up to. I hope each of us can look in the mirror and see the beauty we possess. Then I hope we can begin to look at others with those same eyes and help them see their beauty. 


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    Most of my deepest darkest secrets are a result of what I would do for a Klondike bar.


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    Posted 19 November 2017 - 05:37 AM

    As bodyshaming is working both ways and I have actually been shamed for being so thin without a reason ( I eat A LOT, like...A LOT....sometimes even two warm dishes a day with several sweets in between and ofc breakfast and I don't gain any weight....) Tbh, I don't WANT to gain weight...I feel absolutely happy and satisfied when I look into the mirror myself......but then, there are people telling you that you probably don't eat more than a salad a day and that you need to gain weight and "look, I can even see your knee through your pants and you have this gap between the legs!" ( barely, actually...there are a lot of ppl that have a wider gap and I'm still having the "it's still healthy" weight) and so on....at the same time, the same person (""normal"" weighed) told a chubbier person she should love herself and it's beautiful...... can't we just all.....stop caring so much about another persons weight....? If it's still healthy but it just leans more towards one or the other side, what's wrong with it...? What's wrong with being thinner or chubbier than many others...? I really like my body but whenever someone else bodyshames me, I start to feel that people look at my legs when I walk even tho they probably don't.......

    we are all beautiful in our own ways just as much as we are all special and wonderful and we should never forget that the only opinion you need to care about is yours <3 Don't let anyone plant this seed in your mind that you are too " small/big/fat/thin/dark/light-skinned like a zombie/weird or just plain ugly....beauty comes from within after all <3 :)

    Thank you for this post, really! I hope it made others smile and gain even a little bit of self-confidence <3
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    #25 ladybug°rain

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    Posted 27 December 2017 - 11:28 PM

    Sixx:A.M. Skin

    Paint yourself a picture
    Of what you wish you looked like
    Maybe then they just might
    Feel an ounce of your pain

    Come into focus
    Step out of the shadows
    It's a losing battle
    There's no need to be ashamed

    Cause they don't even know you
    All they see is scars
    They don't see the angel
    Living in your heart

    Let them find the real you
    Buried deep within
    Let them know with all you've got
    That you are not your skin

    Ohhhh
    Ohhhh

    When they start to judge you
    Show them your true colors
    And do onto others
    As you'd have done to you

    Just rise above this
    Kill them with your kindness
    Ignorance is blindness
    They're the ones that stand to lose

    Cause they don't even know you
    All they see is scars
    They don't see the angel
    Living in your heart

    Let them find the real you
    Buried deep within
    Let them know with all you got
    That you are not your skin

    Oooooooohhhhhhhooooohhhhh

    Well they don't even know you
    All they see is scars
    They don't see the angel
    Living in your heart

    So let them find the real you
    Buried deep within
    Let them know with all you've got
    That you are not
    That you are not your skin

    Ohhhh
    Ohhhh
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    Posted 05 March 2018 - 03:56 AM

    I don't know how I stumbled across this, but it couldn't have been better timing. Thank you Shadowrider, for posting this; I now know where to look for motivation to keep being healthy when I start to slip into old bad habits due to body image.
    I know this will continue to help me and others.
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    #27 shadowrider

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    Posted 18 March 2018 - 01:31 PM

    Thank you for your kind words lk. I am glad my words could be of some inspiration.


    Most of my deepest darkest secrets are a result of what I would do for a Klondike bar.


    #28 Siniwit

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    Posted 05 June 2018 - 11:49 AM


     

    Colbie Caillat - Try

     

    Put your make-up on
    ​Get your nails done, curl your hair
    ​Run the extra mile, keep it slim
    ​So they like you, do they like you?

    Get your sexy on
    ​Don't be shy, girl, take it off
    ​This is what you want, to belong
    ​So they like you, do you like you?

    You don't have to try so hard

    ​You don't have to, give it all away

    ​You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up

    You don't have to change a single thing

    You don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try

    You-oo-oo-oo-ou don't have to try


    ​Get your shopping on
    ​At the mall, max your credit cards
    ​You don't have to choose, buy it all
    ​So they like you, do they like you?

    ​Wait a second
    ​Why should you care ​what they think of you?
    ​When you're all alone, by yourself
    ​Do you like you? Do you like you?

    You don't have to try so hard
    ​You don't have to, give it all away
    ​You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
    You don't have to change a single thing

    ​You don't have to try so hard
    You don't have to, bend until you break

    You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
    You don't have to change a single thing

    You don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try

    No, you don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try

    You-oo-oo-oo-ou don't have to try


    You don't have to try so hard
    ​You don't have to, give it all away
    ​You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
    You don't have to change a single thing

    You don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try, try, try, try-y-y
    ​You don't have to try
    ​You don't have to try

    Take your make-up off
    Let your hair down, take a breath
    ​Look into the mirror, at yourself
    Don't you like you? 'Cos I like you.


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    That's the way it is... That's the way it is...
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    #29 SmartAssLittle

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    Posted 19 September 2018 - 12:39 PM

    I think you are beautiful.

    thanks! i know i am, but i like to hear it again and again.

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    Right on the edge of fear was where trust could grow

    #30 Avi

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    Posted 07 December 2018 - 12:56 PM

    Thank you for your kind words lk. I am glad my words could be of some inspiration.



    the way you talk reminds me so much of this gut on social media called Syattfitness. very inspirational and genuine and not afraid to acknowledge the human flaws we all have and can own if we want to. awesome attitude!

    #31 shadowrider

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    Posted 07 December 2018 - 03:40 PM

    I am unfamiliar with Syattfitness but will be checking them out.

    Also thanks for the positive feedback, it means a lot.


    Most of my deepest darkest secrets are a result of what I would do for a Klondike bar.


    #32 Lil me

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    Posted 24 April 2019 - 08:07 AM

    Thank you for this! Beautiful song, words, meaning & video!

    I was bullied as a child. I'd like to say I'm over it, but w tears in my eyes, I know that is not true.

    How is it I'm still looking for this affirmation (even if it's from the same or different people), after more than 20 years?
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    #33 shadowrider

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    Posted 24 April 2019 - 02:08 PM

    Thank you for this! Beautiful song, words, meaning & video!

    I was bullied as a child. I'd like to say I'm over it, but w tears in my eyes, I know that is not true.

    How is it I'm still looking for this affirmation (even if it's from the same or different people), after more than 20 years?

    You don't get over it, you get used to it.

    Take a look in the mirror, the approval of that person is what you need to be concerned with. Anyone else' is icing on the cake once you are happy with the person you have become.


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    #34 Lil me

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    Posted 25 April 2019 - 06:59 AM

    Thank u again!!!

    #35 TokidokiHelloKitty

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    Posted 15 May 2019 - 02:31 AM

    TBH alot of modern celebrities don't even look half as good as their pictures suggest, and don't look even all that good for real. B/c despite them having literally access to EVERYTHING in the world that could make them pretty, they mostly neglect the most IMPORTANT factor when it comes to looks. Basic health. How many modern celebs do you see eating crap food all the time? And alot of these instamodels have bad hygiene and/or eating habits too!

     

    Honestly, if one eats only natural food and uses natural skincare products, and partakes in exercise, you'll be AMAZED at how far you'll get and how beautiful you'll be.



    #36 TokidokiHelloKitty

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    Posted 15 May 2019 - 02:56 AM

    It seems like every time I turn around lately I'm hearing or seeing someone shaming themselves because they do not fit today's idealistic image of airbrushed perfection.
    First of all, that image has more flaws below the surface than most of us have total. Yet we still listen to the hype and garbage that these companies try to tell us about what WE should look like or how WE should dress or even act. The fact that we let someone else decide what makes us feel good is total bullsh#@ in my eyes and I am tired of it.
      I say we because I too fall into the category of not being satisfied or happy with my current self. I however do not need other people that do not know me saying that I am not beautiful because I don't look like Magic Mike. I am working on myself day by day to get in better shape and better over all health. But the damage has already been done to my psyche that exercise and eating right cannot heal. I used to be ok with myself until social media came along. I mean I wasn't a ripped abs model type but I at least didn't hate myself. Now I don't like mirrors, or taking pictures, or going swimming. Because I know I will be judged not for who I am but for how I look in swim trunks, or by how much bigger I may be than the people in the pic next to me. These things slowly eat at you until you are no longer the person you were meant to be. It is a shame that we cannot look at one another and see the amazing beauty inside each other and openly say something about it. I have seen and felt more love here than any where else I have been online and I thank each of you for that.
      I know I am not the only one here that needs to hear a positive word of praise every now and then. Just someone saying "Hey you look good today" is all it takes to change a person's day and perhaps their life. So I am posting this to tell everyone here that reads this.
      I think you are beautiful. I think the person you are is amazing and you should let that light inside you shine as brightly as I know it can.
      If you want to change yourself for the sake of yourself, then do so. But to hell with hollywood and the superficial arse monkeys that have personal trainers and starve themselves to be a size 0. Their opinion of us does not matter. Strive daily to be the best you that you can possibly be and let the world take it's opinion and shove it.
     
      I live through music so I am going to post the lyrics to a song and a link so you can listen to it. I ask that anyone of you that has a song that is an inspiration to you and may touch someone else. Please post the lyrics so we can all see that we are all beautiful in our own way.
     Thank you for reading and sharing,
    with love, honor and respect
    Rob
     
     
     
    ALESSIA CARA
    "Scars To Your Beautiful"

    She just wants to be beautiful
    She goes unnoticed, she knows no limits,
    She craves attention, she praises an image,
    She prays to be sculpted by the sculptor
    Oh she don't see the light that's shining
    Deeper than the eyes can find it
    Maybe we have made her blind
    So she tries to cover up her pain, and cut her woes away
    'Cause covergirls don't cry after their face is made

    But there's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark
    You should know you're beautiful just the way you are
    And you don't have to change a thing
    The world could change its heart
    No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
    Oh-oh, oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh
    And you don't have to change a thing
    The world could change its heart
    No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful

    She has dreams to be an envy, so she's starving
    You know, "Covergirls eat nothing."
    She says, "Beauty is pain and there's beauty in everything."
    "What's a little bit of hunger?"
    "I could go a little while longer," she fades away
    She don't see her perfect, she don't understand she's worth it
    Or that beauty goes deeper than the surface
    Ah oh, ah ah oh,
    So to all the girls that's hurting
    Let me be your mirror, help you see a little bit clearer
    The light that shines within

    There's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark
    You should know you're beautiful just the way you are
    And you don't have to change a thing
    The world could change its heart
    No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
    Oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
    And you don't have to change a thing
    The world could change its heart
    No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful

    No better you than the you that you are
    (no better you than the you that you are)
    No better life than the life we're living
    (no better life than the life we're living)
    No better time for your shine, you're a star
    (no better time for your shine, you're a star)
    Oh, you're beautiful, oh, you're beautiful

    There's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark
    You should know you're beautiful just the way you are
    And you don't have to change a thing
    The world could change its heart
    No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
    Whoa-oh-oh-oh, whoa-oh-oh-oh, whoa-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
    And you don't have to change a thing
    The world could change its heart
    No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
     

     
     
    Also, OP, I notices you mentioned not looking like Magic Mike and being bigger and all that.
     
    Let me tell you, I as a female who is attracted to men will say this:
     
    AINT. NOTHING. WRONG. WITH. A. CHUBBIER. MAN.  And if he has stretch marks, loose skin, or even cellulite (yes men can get it, although rare), idgaf to be honest. Also, having a bit of a belly is cutee <3
     
    Same to all you other dudes reading this.
     
    Besides, IMO fit men...actually don't appeal to me that much? Like, they're hot an all, but it's always the men on both opposites of the spectrum that get me going. EIther rail thin ones, or chubby ones. just throwin that out there to say, we don't all like the same thing.
     
    Why be a Magic Mike with abs...
     
    when you can be this instead? 
     
    Tagged: NSFW shirtless man (not anything inappropriate, but you might not want people at work seeing you look at a shirtless dude...idk)
     

    Spoiler

     

    That's Joji Miller, and, not lying, I find him attractive af. 


    Edited by TokidokiHelloKitty, 15 May 2019 - 02:57 AM.

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    #37 Daddy-Tom

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    Posted 01 August 2019 - 09:10 AM

    Thanks for shaming us fit men with abs. Rude.




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