Why do guys not read profiles or personal ads?

[BigCityLittleGirl]

I really enjoy this site and have met some cool people! I specifically have written in both my profile and personal ad that I am looking for Little friends only, no Daddys and even state that I already have a daddy. Yet I continuously receive messages here and on KIK from guys saying they have read my personal ad and profile and think we'd be a good match. Meaning they did not read it, or in fact disrespect the fact that I already have a daddy. This makes me want to quit finding others in the community. How can you call yourself a daddy if you A) do not have basic reading comprehension skills and do not respect people's preferences. Honestly...

 

Is this a common occurrence? How do you deal with this? I've been blocking most without replying but I get so fed up I feel like telling these idiots off.

[Little.Wolf]

It is, and a lot of the time it's a good hint to "fake" daddies. Sadly, it's normal here and on fet. But you'll find the right friends for you! Keep your head up!

[Guest Loki]

Yeah I don't know why they don't bother reading it. I've had bad experiences where the guy says he's read my profile but then doesn't understand why I can't carry a conversation :/

[BigCityLittleGirl]

Oh yea I've had a terrible experience on FetLife where this guy demanded I tell him if I was single or not. When I told him to READ my profile as everything he needs to know is there he said "Don't be silly Real men don't read that" and basically went on to say since I'm a little I should be 'good' and answer his questions. Like eat 10 dicks you loser.

[Eraser70]

Your situation is all too common.

Another is when information is omitted.

If someone's Little space, Petspace, etc, is NON-sexual, please state that in BIG prin.

 

I've had way too many "misunderstandings" due to that issue.

[Little.Wolf]

It's part of why I am so distrusting of real life encounters right now. I had a guy that did and said all the right things but then when it was actual physical engagement with one another he was clueless and didn't understand a safeword.

[BigCityLittleGirl]

I think guys in general for the most part just think their pee pee is sent from heaven and will change any girls mind LOL

 

I have met some cool daddy's here who have friended me and messaged me just fine with no mention of trying to get with me at all and I super appreciate that.

[Little.Wolf]

Those are the best ones. It's when they disregard your wants, desires, ad, and profile that make it unnerving

[BigCityLittleGirl]

Yep. In real life the majority of my buds are male. But when I ask about these things they just go "...Well... " and shrug lol they'll say it's cuz you're cute so expect it to happen but I don't have my face posted anywhere here lol

[Frog]

It's a common problem not limited to males. I have always had something on my profile (here and everywhere else) that specifically states I am not looking for anyone. Yet I always gets requests that nearly always start with something like, "Will you be my daddy?" or "Can I be your little?" or "I can be your girlfriend." 

 

As I've said, it just shows most people have the attention span of rice. Most don't respect profiles, and those that read them think somehow they'll be the ones to change your mind.

[Little.Wolf]

Agreed, not just men. I have had women contact me too because I am a switch and they assume it's what I am good for.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

you just have to take the bad with the good here in my experience. 

[Guest Ginger]

I have a couple Daddies on here I'll talk to, simply because they've demonstrated that they have no ill intentions. It's all friendly. I'll ask for their opinions occasionally on a situation, they're really helpful.

 

Here lately though I've had a slew of friend requests from Doms and Littles, people I've never spoken to. I specifically state in my profile to not send friend requests if we haven't spoken somewhere on the site or if they're only looking for something sexual/romantic. It's even my status update currently. It's extremely frustrating. I deny the requests but I always feel conflicted. Like one half of me wants to ring their necks, the other feels bad about denying it (and considers sending a request in return). I just get offline if I get one because I know I'm gonna have anger problems and then probably anxiety. It sounds stupid, but it's just how my mind works.

[secret base]

Men are dumb sorry.

[IchigoHime]

This is very much a common occurrence! I mostly get messages and friend requests on Fet, with the occassional request here. On here I delete them straight away if they are a "Daddy". On Fet though I have my protector read over their profile and groups to see if maybe they found me somewhere and just didn't think it would be a big deal. Most of the time though people message him first to ask permission to contact me. Which I have written at the very top of my profile on there and in giant letters lol. Maybe you could do something similar on here?

[ButterscotchBunny]

When I was looking for a daddy I had a bunch of people talk to me, and flipped out once they found out I was trans even though it's no secret, was mentioned in my personal ad and on my profile. It really makes me feel like trash when someone seems nice and completely loses interested in even talking to me because I'm MtF. :/ and even worse when they start using the wrong pronouns after finding out and call me a boy.

[BigCityLittleGirl]

That sucks butterscotch!! I'm sorry you have to deal with that!

 

Ichigohime hmmm not a bad idea!

[Hurndauke]

Common experience on any website to be honest, that includes an option for "looking for a certain someone" to be honest, haha.

[Guest DaddyDean]

This has been a common theme for a lot of years.  The "internet" allows for lies, deceit, and gives someone the ability to pretend to be something or someone they are not.  It is always best to keep your head and practice discernment when talking to anyone on here.  You will find that a lot of the guys on this site are really not in it for the DDlg experience.  They can talk a good game but really have no idea the complexity of the relationship. 

[MisterMomo]

Oh wow !

 

Lots of people dont bother to read...  But it is not only on internet ...  

 

At work, we ask people to enter the office without ringing the Door Bell ... my assistant tells them when booking appointment (enter.. do not ring the door bell)  ... we send an email saying "dont ring the door bell" ... On the door it is written "Enter - do not Ring the Bell" .... On the Door Bell, it is written "DO NOT RING" ...  AND 4 out of 5 people RING THE ******  BELL !!   lol ....  THey did it so many times that I finally Cut the wires ... so .. now I dont hear it anymore! haha ...

 

Frog said people have the attention span of Rice ... I think the same!  

 

Maybe you can See it as a great way to know from the beginning the Level of interest and attention the person is giving you...  

[Michael]

I really enjoy this site and have met some cool people! I specifically have written in both my profile and personal ad that I am looking for Little friends only, no Daddys and even state that I already have a daddy. Yet I continuously receive messages here and on KIK from guys saying they have read my personal ad and profile and think we'd be a good match.

 

If you don't accept friend requests from randoms, then you should never get any messages.

 

On here, accepting a friend request is interpreted as "I want to talk to you", since that's primarily what the friend feature is used for. It's better to never accept any friend requests, unless the person has a good profile, lots of posts, and seems like a well established member of the community (and you've had positive interactions with them).

[BigCityLittleGirl]

Yea I only accept requests here from guys I have seen in the forums or chat room. However I made the mistake of putting my KIK in my profile and got a ton of messages there. So I'm unsure if these guys are the same ones I friended or just strangers. I took my kik out though.

[SkunkPrincess]

Oh my gosh, that is soooo annoying!

[EllaDawn]

Brand new here and have had a bunch of friend requests from people I have never even interacted with. I don't get it, because hey, I might be a total bitch or someone you absolutely DON'T want to know; I've never understood adding someone, or even requesting, without having any interaction.

[ThePrincessMinMin]

Yeah, it sucks and can totes relate with you on this subject. I even put in all caps (in hopes they would at least read) on my fet profile and here and still gotten nothing but questionable messages from these so called "daddys". It appears that most do not bother to read little's bios and its sad since one can save alot of time by taking a few minutes to read, as it may contain some information that they should know! i.e. I have social anxiety, so I clarly state in mine that I am VERY shy and prefer to take things slow, but unfortunately many have ignored this, and have ruined their chances within the first message, haha (^¬^)