Bratting vs. Plain Bad Behavior

[EllaDawn]

Do you see a difference between bratting and basically being a jerk? Where do you think the line is? I know I deal a lot with people assuming I will be awful, because I claim the title of brat, but I feel strongly that there is a difference. Maybe a very small one in some cases, but a definite difference. I guess before I add my opinion, because I have a tendency to be a bit tl:dr in my responses, I'd like to hear some other thoughts.

[Guest]

I am flat out a brat and both my daddies thinks it cute AF. I dont do it to be bad or break rules , for me its more just like funny and cute kind of bratty 

[Guest Isabelle]

To me, bratty is like refusing to go to bed, whining, dragging out things, being a bit dramatic or grumpy, annoying stuff. Being a jerk is calling someone cuss words and flipping them the finger and being insulting/shaming/name calling. Someone who is just being a bit temperamental versus someone who is trying to hurt you on purpose.

[EllaDawn]

I see folks out in our community who say they're brats but interfere in events and people's scenes and try to excuse it by "I'm a little" or "I'm a brat". I think that's using it as an excuse to be an ass. I like to push boundaries, stick my tongue out, tease, etc. I roll my eyes at Daddy sometimes, whine, etc. I also know when to STOP and when it's appropriate or not - I mean, only the MILDEST bratting in public, because 1) no one else consented to deal with it and 2) it reflects negatively on my Daddy.

[Guest]

When I said I dont do it to be bad or break rules I meant I am not actually doing those things. I am just being a goof ball mainly. Being pouty and so on. But yeah knowing when you be a goof and when to be good is important for sure !

Edited March 8, 2017 by Guest

[CurlyBear]

Being a brat by what I am and what I've seen in others is being difficult or a smart butt. Saying no, being a little defiant. Or a lot of what others here have described.

And to me there is a time and place to be bratty, like what has been said. It's better to act out if you wanted to at home than to do it in public. Or if you wanted to be a brat in public, just do subtle stuff.

 

I've also heard of littles who say they are brats use that excuse for breaking rules, rules which are important. Which isn't right because there are rules that a Daddy will give that is just silly to break and there are others that are important and would be foolish to break.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I'm a brat....

Sometimes I like to poke poke poke Daddy while he's playing a game on his phone then as soon as he gets done take off running.

I stick my tongue out a lot.

I tease/joke around.

I have my whiny days.

 

Being a jerk or butthole is inexcusable with "I'm a brat" or "I'm a little", in my opinion. How I act in public is a reflection of my husband as a Dom so I make it a point to try and always be good in public.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

A true Brat is playful, sassy, over the top, and a bit hand to handle at times, but they respect and care about their friends and loved one. They don't actually want to cause problems or issues or be bad or misbehaved for their caregivers, they are just overly playful, or tend to have issues with being able to control their emotions properly.

 

A Jerk is a person who uses the term "Brat" to try to get away with being disrespectful and rude to people. They try to use it to get away with being selfish and self-centered. They think they can use "being a Brat" to get their way, everything they want, without careing about the effect on the people around them.

 

A true Brat knows they can be a handful and tries to be respectful and loving to their caregivers and friends, they will even try hard to be on their best behavior to give someone they love a well needed break when they need it. A Jerk, just tries to use the Brat personality to get away with everything and anything...

[SharkPrince]

In public I do not act up nor do I refuse to do anything I am told, if I am in a little space. Other people are generally just trying to go about their day, and don't really need a 23 year old manchild yelling about being told off for saying "damnit" nor did they consent to be involved in our relationship dynamic. When we are in private I would definitely say that in little space I'll act a brat as I very often push every possibly rule and boundry just to test how far I can take it. Rebelling against bed/nap time and repeating bad words of the tv in sign song voices are my favourite passtimes.

There is a very fine because being a brat and just plain being mean but often while in little space the thought process isn't "I'm going to be a brat now" so I doubt people consciously act a dick, they just end up doing things that get percieved that way.

 

It also does in some way reflect on the care giver too, because yes I am a brat when little and I wil repeat bad words and I'll occasionally throw things or have a strop but I'll always get punished, generally by time out. Half of the problem with littles that use "I am a brat" as an excuse to break rules is that the caregiver will neglect to actually follow through with punishment when a rule is broken because they either just don't care for the rules in which case there's a obvious problem or because the little is too cute and it gets them out of trouble, which is a deeper rooted problem anyway.

[BigCityLittleGirl]

Being bratty to me is more like teasing, and the line would be crossed if you are upsetting the other person. My daddy gets turned on by me being spoiled and bratty, if he gets mad it's probably bc I've been just plain rude or disrespectful.

[EllaDawn]

Being bratty to me is more like teasing, and the line would be crossed if you are upsetting the other person. My daddy gets turned on by me being spoiled and bratty, if he gets mad it's probably bc I've been just plain rude or disrespectful.

My Daddy loves bratting too, and even instigates, but if I pull that shit in public, I know I'm in BIG trouble. It's nice that so many folks here get it. <3

[Sparklefrosting]

My brat side only comes out with people I'm very close to and if I do accidentally cross a line I apologize. I would never offend someone and then be like well deal with it cuz I'm just being me. 

[PrincessVirgo]

My bratty behavior comes from a place of "goodness" in my heart... jerky behaviour is just "bad form"!

[LittleBlackRose]

Bratting seems to be a interesting fine line and what is acceptable seems to vary based on the caregiver. With my last Big it was all about fun and just a little bit snarky. I would joke about accepting challenges to be defiant but we both knew that in the end I would be a good girl. I never pushed it the point that I needed punishment beyond getting "The Look" so it never offended. The Big I previously mentioned also liked it when I was a little more brazen in public without actually encroaching on anyone or being inappropriate for the situation.

 

That said, I have read about bratting in various places that really makes it seem like a free-for-all pass to being rude and spiteful. I would say that crosses the line in most places and with most people.

[submissiveboyjimmy]

I've been a bit bratty with a caregiver and she responded by punishing me, she knows I do it for attention but I like that she takes charge and is firm.  I do it fun, to see what I can get away with, to test the person/caregiver/domme.  I definitely see a difference between being bratty and bad behavior even though the words can be interchangeable.  I would never do something to intentionally hurt my caregiver, if I have a real problem I talk to them seriously and try to be aware so I'm not being passive aggressive, their happiness is important to me!

Edited April 2, 2017 by submissiveboyjimmy