When you're a princess but you get no attention!

[Guest Little_Miss]

What do you do?!     

 

Seems like littles survive off attention but what happens when you don't get any? How do you not be sad? 

 

 

*Edit: Might help to clarify that I don't have a caregiver >.< but responses are still helpful! Single littles still want attention :3

Edited April 28, 2017 by Little_Miss

[Himedere-Chan]

Maybe they were really really busy when you wanted attention. Anywho, I just play games or go on here and talk to the friends I made on here.

[Guest]

I just be my own daddy. I reward myself for being good. I am kind to myself, I know what's best for me so I do what's best for me. :3 you too can be your own daddy

[Spooky]

THROW A FIT!!!

 

jkjkjkjk

 

I just give myself some attention; bubble bath, read a book, colour something. 

It's important to understand that as annoying as it may be, CG's can't always give us 100000% of their attention 24/7 and that is okay! 

Independence is very important in any relationship!

[alotalittle]

I agree with the "be your own CG" sentiment. You are your little side's number one protector and nurturer! Hone in those skills! Learn how to do lots of good self-care for your little side. It takes some time to figure out the best ways to care for your little side on your own, but it's well worth it. I often plan a "little day" for myself a little bit in advance and get everything I need for it beforehand. Then, I get to enjoy it in all my little space glory. Having a CG pay attention to you and treat you like a princess feels wonderful, but treating yourself just as wonderfully and loving your little side just as fully as a CG would feels pretty amazing too

 

Some independence is important in anyone's life. You can't always be the center of attention and it can't be your CG's responsibility to care for you at all times with no breaks or care for themselves. Caring for yourself is super important and it eases the pain of not getting all the attention that you want. I'm definitely clingy (and potentially needy?), so this is something that I work on a lot. 

[Guest Barefootgirl]

Self care! These are all wonderful suggestions! Pamper yourself... have little snacks and a little pedicure, call little friends. Most of all, try to be patient with your Daddy.

[Guest Little_Miss]

Thanks everyone! I have since made a clarification to this post to say that I actually don't have a caregiver but responses have been helpful!

 

In particular @Satan & @alotalittle responses. I am curious and want to try to be a daddy for my little side for myself....any more tips from anyone would be appreciated :3

 

Lately I have been thinking about making a list of rules for my little self to follow everyday and see how that works. For self-care and chores and stuff just like something a caregiver might give me. I'm not sure it will work but it might be good for me... >.<

 

I have been neglecting my little side and haven't been spending much time doing little stuff or giving myself space to happily regress..   

 

Kinda weird feeling like I can be my own daddy/ caregiver but thinking it would probably be good for my little side and something to try! 

   

Edited April 28, 2017 by Little_Miss

[alotalittle]

A list of rules is a great place to start! If you like sticker charts, they're awesome for helping you keep up with daily chores and self-care routines.

 

I have an awesome relationship that I wouldn't trade for anything, but my partner is not my CG and I do not have a CG. My partner knows about my little side, and is completely comfortable and cool with me being little, but he isn't my Daddy. I totally understand the desire for a CG sometimes, and that wanting that sort of attention can make you feel lonely/sad, but reaching a point where you can also provide some of those little space things for yourself is really healthy and satisfying. 

 

For me, I typically want a whole day reserved for being little. Unfortunately, this means that I rarely get to go into my little space. But when I do, I plan ahead. The day before I'll go to the store and pick up any snacks I like, possibly a new little toy or game, maybe even some fun craft/art supplies. The day of, I set up my space (usually in the living room or bedroom) with lots of blankies and all my stuffies. I watch cartoons, play, snack, and be little all day.

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

can't say littles really survive off of the attention of their caregivers, imho.

'specially since not all littles have caregivers, can be unhealthy to think that way.

 

a way to not be sad about it though would be to learn to do for yourself. 

there are a butt ton of threads and posts here about being little without a 

caregiver that i'd give a go. always a safe bet to learn how to be you and

little you without being under the care of another.

[IchigoHime]

I really got familiar with my little self while with a Daddy, so now that it is just me I am feeling pretty lonely with not getting constant attention. I've been having a hard time with my depression lately too, so that doesn't help. I live in a house where I have to hide my little stuff, so taking time to myself is a rare treat - but when I do get time I like to colour or write in my "little space journal". And if I can I snuggle my stuffies and use my paci. 

 

I seriously miss getting attention though. 

[Guest Little_Miss]

 

can't say littles really survive off of the attention of their caregivers, imho.

'specially since not all littles have caregivers, can be unhealthy to think that way.

 

a way to not be sad about it though would be to learn to do for yourself. 

there are a butt ton of threads and posts here about being little without a 

caregiver that i'd give a go. always a safe bet to learn how to be you and

little you without being under the care of another.

 

Well it was figurative speak of a little haha. Yes I have been checking them out! Thanks

[Guest Little_Miss]

I really got familiar with my little self while with a Daddy, so now that it is just me I am feeling pretty lonely with not getting constant attention. I've been having a hard time with my depression lately too, so that doesn't help. I live in a house where I have to hide my little stuff, so taking time to myself is a rare treat - but when I do get time I like to colour or write in my "little space journal". And if I can I snuggle my stuffies and use my paci. 

 

I seriously miss getting attention though. 

It's a whole different dynamic isn't it. I never really had a real daddy but talked to a ''daddy'' just online type of thing only for a while and I learnt a lot about my little side when talking to them. As in they brought out things in me that are a bit tricky to bring out in yourself by yourself.. but maybe it just takes practice like practicing being your own caregiver too. Loneliness, depression and not having privacy to be little is a pain! I can relate to that a lot! Glad someone else gets it. Imma try make more time for myself to be little.. thanks 

[SugarpopPrincess]

This is just how I feel! I've been little for a long time but I've never had a CG! It's so hard when I just want cuddles and attention and playtime >.<

 

I get really sad about it sometimes, but something that almost instantly soothes me is sucking on my thumb or a paci. Then I put on a cute movie and look online for cute things I want to buy myself and save them in my bookmarks. When I'm extra sad about it I buy myself something off the list. It doesn't make the situation disappear but when I'm wearing something new that makes me feel little and special it's hard to be upset all day :3

[Guest Sinderella]

Meet some little friends or Caregiver friends. They don't have to be your Daddy but at least you can interact with like-minded people. Talking to others in the lifestyle helps me to not feel so lonely. Then do little things alone, it can be fun still. It would be cool to have a little best friend to have sleepovers with ☺