Getting more and more frustrated ov being alone

[Nel-Chan]

I've been getting more anxiety attacks, depression bouts and just feeling restless lately. A good part of it is being without physical contact and care/love. Ots,part of what drew me to the DD/LG dynamic. To,have that security and tender care and all,the other aspects of myself that appeal to it. But it's been near torment this past week. I crave attention and being,close against someone and it's been a long time since that need has been fulfilled. It feels even worse since discovering I am a Little, and to,which I've had little success in meeting,potential caregivers/Daddys and my anxiety makes me more impatient and prone to emotional distress

 

It doesn't help that aside from one outstanding guy whom,is taken but talks to me, the majority of people,contacting me want to take advantage of me....which my Hypersexual nature and pathetic craving for interaction/to simulate being close...have me occasionally and regrettably engaging with these people

 

Im just having a hard time being alone and I've had a few breakdowns and one literal tanturm already

[B_ly83]

Hey nellie. Just take a minute and breath, count to 10 and try to relax. You seem like you very smart and dont let the people contacting​ you for other reasons than to be a friend get to you. They will show their true side and then you can kick them to the curb. As for the loneliness, you just cant rush finding a CG. If you jump at the first one it may not end well for either of you. Just get to know everyone and you'll find the perfect one.

[Nel-Chan]

T-Thanks, its hard for me to calm down yoo much on my own

 

Also, you can jus call me Nel xO

[Guest blumonkey]

So you have a bf and gf, but neither one really is there to keep an eye on you/look after you?

Aside from the intro admin greeting message, there are exactly 5 message threads in my inbox. I'm not in your desired demographic but perhaps I can Nel-sit for the time being.

 

I had been thinking the last couple of weeks it would be nice interacting with a little on a limited basis for now, until one of us finds The One.

[Guest Sweetkittenbj]

Oh Nel, do I know what you're going through! I was there myself last week. I've got Bipolar 1 with some slight social anxiety. My friends are all married with children. It seems like all the DDs who want to contact me are taken, far away, or put off by my weight.

 

Please remember these things before everything else: you ARE Loved, you ARE important, & God looked at this tiny planet & decided it needed you (how cool is that?).

 

Breakdowns come, we know that, & they can be cathartic. The same with temper tantrums. But don't stay in those places too long! Exercise (walk, swim, or even better, dance), make lists (doesn't matter what they're about, just make them), reach out to folks here (just like you did today).

 

This will pass, the skies won't always be dark & gloomy.

 

WE LOVE YOU!

 

Kit

[Nel-Chan]

*sighs* Gonna see about getting a new Therapist. Been without one for a long time now, though none of my previous ones were any help.

 

Getting major depression and building anxiety....

 

I think Im just gonna go back to self-harming since Im getting too,upset about things currently

[nevergrowup]

I have bpd and I get emotionally distressed when I'm alone especially at night

I find listening to YouTube videos help sooth me and calm me down.

Here is a link if anyone wants to try it. I can't recommend it enough.

 

I also try to keep busy with craft projects and things I have to concentrate on. I try to distract myself from the fact I'm alone.

 

Self care is important too. Take a nice bath. Put on a face mask or dress up little or find something that works for you.

Personally I have to practice this more. I find self care very hard.

 

If you ever want someone to talk to you can talk to me.

[submissiveboyjimmy]

I'm sorry to hear about your problems nel-chan, I feel the same way, I wish I could offer advice but I crave physical contact and affection as much as you!  Sometimes holding my stuffed frog helps a bit and burying myself in blankets and pillows.  I hope you find a nice person to care for you soon!

[Guest MelodicWhispers]

I went for a long time until I found my Daddy. It's extremely hard to stay patient, so what I did was try to keep busy. I mean, it didn't work all of the time but it helped to lower my frustration and reduce negative thoughts. Eventually I found my Daddy and I'm glad I waited for him. I hope you find a cg soon!, And in the mean time, stay safe and take care of yourself!

[chubbylilwolfcub]

I had a really hard time as a lonely little in the two years between my first Daddy leaving and my current Daddy coming into my life. I am also hypersexual but it did seem like so many "daddies" were only looking for sexual gratification. What helped me the most was making friends with other littles. It's good to have people to talk, and some littles can be care givers too (like myself) if you need someone to talk to or just want to cuddle. It's worth a shot.

 

And maybe you should talk to a professional about your anxieties. I had to break down and talk to my Dr. who is sending me to a specialist. It's scary, but it's important to get better, so I'm doing it.

 

BEST OF LUCK

[Nel-Chan]

I really, really, REALLY appreciate all of your reaponses, thank you so much

[Taken101]

Hey Nelly I truly feel for you because my little has the same problem. If I can do anything to help let me know. I don't like seeing people sad or upset.

[potato]

Nel, I feel you buddy. It's exactly the same for me. I mean, I've never actually had a significant other before but I was always very affectionate and cuddly with my friends and shortly after really getting into CG/l I kind of lost everyone due to changing paths.

But I'm never giving up hope. I try to be patient and if it's too much for me, I take one of my stuffies, cuddle into my pillows and watch something that makes me happy.

I hope you're gonna find your perfect CG soon. ❤