I drove my little away

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Last night my little left me. She said she didn't feel the same way I did. That me telling her shes precious, irreplaceable, amazing was not how she felt about me. She is very depressed and her family abuses her. I thought she came to me looking for someone supportive. Her last message to me was a picture of her crying saying "its not fair I really liked you." I begged her to understand that I said all those things to make her happy not scare her away from me. She asked why I lied. Is it a lie to say shes the cutest girl in the world? Yea it is but that doesn't mean I'm a liar or bad Daddy.

I have a feeling she did not like me truly, but I wish she had said that and had some decency to say goodbye. Given me a different reason so I don't think being a kind daddy will drive away someone special. 

 

I'm sad. Mostly because I've been struggling to keep this kind person inside of me.

[jaredstone363]

Sorry to hear what happened. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. Maybe she is just overwhelmed with how much caring and love you are showing her. It sounds like she isn't used to that amount of affection. Hang in there, maybe she will come back after realizing what a good person you were to her.

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Thanks man.

[Purtykitty85]

This makes me sad to hear. I am very sorry that's you lost your little. Unfort if she comes from a bad family as you say and is depressed she does probably doesn't know how to process positive things like you said. If you are negatively talked to all the time it's what you become use to. Then when you have someone who is sweet and says nice things it makes it hard to believe. You don't have the confidence to accept positive things about yourself and turn it in your head that it is a lie. She sounds like she may need help with a doctor to get her in the right frame of mind.

 

It is not fair to you to just say goodbye without anything else and again I am sorry for that. I am a firm believer in things must fall apart sometimes so better things fall in place. You will find a little who will love the compliments and sweet caring side of you.

 

Good lucks. It's you ever need a friend feel free to message me!!!!

[MusicalGuidanceSuggested]

Thankyou. I wish I had known all this ahead of time. I don't know that this side of me will stay. Theres no doubt I'll be looking to see from now on if a little even likes to be supported. 

[Guest Loki]

You didn't drive your little away. When one is used to abuse when someone shows affection it is frightening. Since the little can't cope with affection or healthy love you did nothing wrong

 

A caregivers job is to be supportive. Don't let this experience prevent you from being a good caregiver.

[Guest qtpie]

 From the bit that you've shared with us it feels like she was a big red flag of an unstable little. Littles with mental health problems and problems at home need real professional help, daddies are not the sole answer to fix their life. It feels like she just used you in the hopes that you'd magically fix her problems because the idea of having a daddy that protects you is very appealling, even though a daddy can't always protect you. If she didn't truly like you, sooner or later she would leave because having a daddy is a full relationship at the end of the day, not just a fun time having kinky sex once in a while. And a relationship with someone you don't truly like will make you unhappy.

 Let me keep it clear that this wasn't your fault at all, and anything you've said to her or how you behaved with her isn't what made her leave or dislike you in case you're feeling guilty. 

Her attitude towards this breakup seems really toxic and dangerous too, which makes me think she just wants to self pity over her own decisions while making you feel bad, which is something awful to do and nobody deserves that.

 You seem like a really kind person and that you truly care about her, so please don't let this experience become something traumatic that won't let you find a new little to love. Relationships with abused people are very complicated. 

Sorry if i'm confusing or ranting too much but this made me very sad and I hope you heal from this very very soon ♥

[MoDaddy]

Hello MGS,

 You have done nothing wrong. Your little has no/little self esteem. She's been abused. She believes the negative things she's been told. And whatever else that is negative about herself that she has started believing on her own. When a little has no self esteem, they will choose to believe their own negative thoughts over any positive input because the positive information is just simply just not what they believe. She just doesn't have any positive thoughts and feelings about herself, and it's  the easy way out to only accept her own negative thoughts that have been inside her for quite some time now. Versus accepting your wonderful and positive affirmations. So she has chosen her own negativity, and doesn't want to be around you because you are challenging her own negative makeup and thoughts about herself. Therefore, it's easier for her to back away from you then to challenge her own negative mental makeup. Like the others have stated, she needs professional help first, then when she has some self esteem and feels good about herself, only then will she be able to accept any positive information about her. About the only thing you can do to help her now is to plead for her to get some professional help. Put your foot down and don't back down! She needs the help!

Stay positive MGS! 

I hope this helps!

[MusicalGuidanceSuggested]

Thank you qtpie you helped me a lot. Both of you guys are right she absolutely needs professional attention. I know if I could go back I could help her more by taking a different approach. But I guess that doesn't mean I did anything wrong. You guys are a blessing to me thankyou.

[chubbylilwolfcub]

As someone who comes from a broken family and an absuive childhood home it took me a long time to accept and be comfortable with kindness and love from others. I ruined many a good relationships because I just couldn't deal. It was unfair of me to end things the way I did and I ended up needing a lot of therapy ro get where I am today. This is NOT your fault. It sounds to me like she needs some help and at the very least some time to figure her own self out. Don't let this negative experience deter your kind heart.

[Guest Sillygirl22]

I'm sorry daddy I love you

[Guest SUeB]

To be fair, and with no apology for this, she sounds completely toxic and unstable and you are better off out of such a negative situation. And judging by a recent comment, my suspicions about her are even more evidenced.

[LilWittle]

MGS, I am so sorry this happened to you and unfortunately it sounded like she has a lot of underlining issues that she has yet to really deal with yet and has to take care of that. You are correct though that she should have been more open with you about truly how she felt instead of acting this abruptly. The only encouraging thing I can say is there are other Littles out there that are looking for great Daddies. Keep your chin up.