Best way to handle a mommy?

[submissiveboyjimmy]

I had a mommy a few months ago, we were in LDR for about 4 months maybe 6 including getting to know each other.  She was really caring and affectionate, I really liked her, she sent me a lot of mixed signals in the beginning, like she would do a bit of dirty talk but a week later if I brought it up she would get angry at me and tell me she's not my domme.  So I told myself we'd be friends, as time went on she cared for me more and more and we fell into a relationship, I let her bring up sexy time, it seemed like she felt used if I brought it up so I didn't say anything unless she did.  This wasn't a huge deal for me since I'm more into the affection and attention.  Then she would start talking about wanting to collar me and while I defintely want that and I felt cared for I didn't feel an amazing connection though I did like her a lot and I didn't want to commit to something that I think is very important, to me it's big decision.  There were a few things that bothered me which I talked to her about but nothing changed.  One of the big things is when I would act a bit distance because I wasn't getting all my needs met, which I told her about, she would freak out and say negative things like it's only a matter of time before I left her and other negative things about herself.  When I told her we had to talk I wanted her to be stronger but she gave me an ultimadum which I didn't like.  So I took the easy way out and told her I'd prefer to not talk anymore.  Looking back I think a break would of been better because I miss her but am scared to messenge her.  One of the reasons I decided to break it off is because though I cared for her, I think she was going a bit too fast for me and I didn't want to lead her on if I wasn't fully invested.  I know I'm not perfect, I've been working on being assertive telling people when things bother me but is there any way I could of handled this better.  I know I learned from this.

[cuppycakes]

I think you handled it fine, and it's great to hear that you told her that you'd rather not talk instead of ghosting her (the coward's way out). To me it seems like she wasn't really ready for a relationship, like she had to work some things out on her own. You couldn't fix her or her problems, and she had a lot of insecurities and fear that you didn't know what to do with. CGs can be insecure and still be good, but that's usually when they have open communication with their little and are self-aware of the problem. She sounded like her mood could change on a dime, and she didn't realize it was happening. That's not exactly the best quality that you want in a CG (especially since you even brought it up to her and she refused to listen).

 

If you really want to talk to her again, there's no harm in trying. Just shoot her a message. Worse case scenario, you're back to not talking again.

[LilHoneyBug]

She didn't handle you telling her your needs well at all, it was manipulative and mean of her to turn the situation in to a personal attack on her as a person. Dommes need to remember that while they are in a position of power they need to be considerate of their little's needs. You handled the situation well though.