Help?

[PlatinumCalyptra]

I have had this great boyfriend for a while now and we messed around with ddlg after I told him that I was a little. I tried to get him not to act like he was my daddy because that isn't really how it works- faking it until you make it would just be uncomfortable for him. Of course, he didn't listen, and for maybe three months we played around with Kitten play and ddlg. One night, out of the blue, he says that he isn't in a sex mood RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF SEXTING. So I was a little suspicious, but I figured something happened to get him out of the mood and he just didn't want to talk about it. But then he started texting sporadically and saying sorry repeatedly. He mentioned something about 4chan but he didn't linger there, so I didn't think about it too much. I asked him a few times what was up and why he suddenly stopped being in the mood but he always dodged the question. While we had been playing I was in little space, so it wasn't really that easy for me to carry on normal conversations with him as Big Me. I told him this and he kind of breezed over it and kept acting weird. And after a while he said that he needed to go to bed and didn't even say goodnight which is something we promised we would always do. He even said "bye." Which is basically an insult. So I blew up his phone until he texted back and when he did I made him tell me what happened to make him suddenly out of the mood and weird. He told me that he had been in the mood but he had wanted something more "womanly". I don't know what to do. He said that he's just trying to figure out what he likes but he knows that's I'm insecure about being a little. Telling me that he wanted something more womanly killed me. So I just want some advice. We took a week break because i went to this camp where i couldn't take my phone and we haven't really been the same since. I'm really pretty new to all of this and relationships in general so...

[plumflower]

How old is your little? It sounds like he is confusing being with a sexual little and pedophilia. It's not going to be easy to explain this to him unless you have a Daddy explain it to him. See, when me and my current Daddy got together I was not a sexual little because my little can regress to about 3 or 4 and tends to stay at 10. Sometimes she is a bit older like 12 or 13. The things is she is still under the legal age (as young as 16 in some places and 18 in my state) so when my Daddy ask to have my little I was apprehensive at first and we even got into an argument where I hurt my Daddy's feelings. But I tried to understand it his way and we talked. Now, my little craves my Daddy a lot but it's not always sexual.

 

Forgive him, it's tough for him to understand that you are not asking him to be a pedophile but to love your little. To love you when you are at your cutest and cuddliest. Sometimes it won't work out. Keep us posted though.

[Mikaitaku]

it actually sounds like he was looking at porn on 4chan when he got weird with you. maybe he is not interested in you any more I don't know, but it does all kind of sound suspicious. 

[Guest PrincessCakes]

If he isn't a daddy he can't just become one through forcing himself to. It's important that the two of you sit down and have a mature conversation about your needs and feelings, also having a ddlg relationship doesn't have to be sexual so if he doesn't find it sexually appealing then you can still go through the relationship side of it and just have normal vanilla sexting or whatever you guys are doing. From the sound of it he isn't experiencing "dom guilt" he more than likely just doesn't find ddlg sexually appealing, but the only way to know for sure is to have open communication. Edited July 3, 2017 by PrincessCakes