Little not wearing their collar

[Leo_Ascendent]

I'll try to make this as short as possible.

 

So my Little got their collar a month ago, or close to it, and often times, they don't wear it. When they send me a pic, it's not on.

When I bring it up, they say they just got out of the shower, or were sweaty, or some other excuse. I don't know if I'm being paranoid,

as I've battled a very long battle with anxiety and the like, or if I am in the right. I don't want to keep asking in fear of seeming,

for the lack of a better word, crazy.

 

I'm just not sure how to bring the subject up, AGAIN, that I got it for them to wear, otherwise I could have saved the money it cost to

get a custom piece mad and not have near panic attacks due to an overactive imagination.

[Sleepless]

Sometimes "excuses" are actually just the truth. If the collar is not waterproof then your little should not be expected to wear in when in water or when exercising due to sweat. My daddy got me a promise ring, but I can't wear it in the shower or when I exercise because when it gets wet the metal irritates my skin. Sometimes I just forget to put it on too, my daddy doesn't get upset when he sees I've forgotten, he just reminds me to put it on. I would try to stop overthinking everything if I were in your shoes and try to be understanding that not all people are able to wear their collars 24/7 because of many different reasons. Don't stress yourself out over something so little or it might hurt your relationship with your little one.

[Leo_Ascendent]

Yup, not waterproof, we learned that with the previous one we ordered, rotted and turned brown. DX

 

And thanks for your input, my mind is quick to jump to conclusions when I see her not wearing it more than I do.

Edited September 15, 2017 by Leo_Ascendent

[princess sophia]

me dont have a collar yet cos me still pretty new (and not found one me and daddy like ) but im sure if i dont wear it my daddy wont get upset with me he will just remind me that i forgot to put it on

maybe your little just forgetful (like me) hope this helps

[Leo_Ascendent]

Not so much mad, we both have "Am I good enough" syndrome due to past relationships, which sometimes makes one of us need reassurance, so more worried than anything.

[Guest headpats]

Totally seconding MachoPrincess. That is probably what it is. Don't worry about it.

 

The most likely alternate explanation is probably that she likes the idea of wearing one in theory but not in practice, or that she just doesn't like wearing it period, which wouldn't be as bad as it sounds because it'd mean that she likes you enough to put it on for you anyway.

 

But still, probably the first one. If this really gets to you, you should definitely ask her why she isn't wearing it instead of letting your paranoia simmer and color your interactions with her. It sounds like you're both aware of your mutual need for validation, which is a great thing. If you need to be reassured, you should tell her.

[Guest chilldude]

Ask her why she doesn't wear it. Maybe she doesn't want to be seen wearing it because she's worried how others will react seeing it. Perhaps remind her of the significance of a collar and what it means if she's not wearing it, with some reasonable exceptions like showering. 

[HeCallsMePrincess]

Ask them. Maybe it is uncomfortable or doesn't fit right, but they don't want to say? Also im a tad claustrophobic and my collar at times makes me feel anxious for that reason. Maybe thats an issue?

[Guest SUeB]

Everyone has different levels of interest and emotion towards wearing collars. Some see it as a cute play thing, a pretty bit of bling. Some people see it as a very serious commitment. The only problem lies in the situation where the two people in the relationship don't see it the same.

Personally, once my Daddy collars me, it won't come off my neck, no matter what, unless it rots and falls off, or He chooses to remove it. Luckily we honestly share the same view on it. Maybe she doesn't take it half as seriously as you do. Instead of continuously asking why she isn't wearing it, have a proper, adult conversation and find out exactly how she feels about it, with no allowance for her just saying things to make you feel better.

[Guest infinitecases]

Have you tried talking to her about just how much the collar means to you? It might help to clarify it and lay down some guidelines on when she should and shouldn't wear it so that you are not worrying and that if she isn't wearing it, you know it's for a valid reason! Then you'd both be on the same page tell her about your anxiety when you see her not wearing it and it might make more sense to her just how important it is? I personally feel that if possible, I'd try and wear it all the time if I had one since it's of significance and is always there to remind me that my Daddy owns me. Have you asked her about the comfort of it or whether she likes the feel of a collar? Some people may not enjoy it and how it feels around their neck. 

[Guest Lepus]

My previous DD, got me a necklace "collar", that I never took off. He got one with a pendant attached that had a secret meaning for us. Maybe that would work for you? Also, I think it is not always viable for us LG's to wear a collar that is collar. 

Hope that made sense!

[LilWittle]

Neck collars are very stylish.

Edited September 26, 2017 by LilWittle