Help! He doesn't wanna be Daddy no more

[DaddysKitten2626]

My husband was my daddy but we started having problems in our marriage and currently are living in different states. I had to move back with family because we just had our son and were having too many money issues. we're trying to work our problems out and it's going alright but, he feels like he can't be Daddy anymore because of them. I know I should be ok with that because of the problems were having but I stay in my little space about 90% of the time and have a very hard time getting out of it. I've never experienced being little without a Daddy before, as he was my first and only Daddy and I only found out about this lifestyle, community and side of myself after we were already married. I just feel really lost and alone without being able to have my daddy and even more so when I talk to him and can't show my little side as much. I keep accidently calling him Daddy and having to correct myself hurts. I've been living by his rules and the routines he sets for me and an almost 24/7 little for about 2 years. Now it's all gone and I still feel just as little. I've talked to him about all of this but he just says that until all our issues are worked out he can't be Daddy for me. I know he's still in my life as my husband but when I feel little I still feel like Daddy abandoned me. Any advice on how to cope with this and help little me not feel so lost and hurt?

[Nymph]

You don't need to stay out of your little space, you need to learn how to be happy on your own to be able to truly be happy with someone else anyways, might as well start practicing! You were most likely a little before you met him and did not know about it, so you have experienced it before, you just didn't know.

 

I have a feeling this is what he is hoping to get out of this. Remember it must be hard for him to not feel like a "worthy daddy" even if you think the world of him, they tend to be very hard on themselves. It is a low blow for a CG to have money issues and the birth of a baby is always stressful on a relationship even if it was a wealthy vanilla couple.

 

May I ask what issues you guys are having other than money and the arrival of the baby? because if that is it, believe me, it will get better soon. I know it's hard to stop after getting so used to the lifestyle but remember being a little is not only about being cute, playful and needy... you also need to take care of your CG in your own little way. Making their life as stress free as possible so they are able to take care of you, being supportive so they don't burn out, remember to always appreciate the things he does for you and be thankful for his efforts is also part of being a little.

 

If you don't give something back he will just feel used and start getting all kind of negative feelings from the daddy title. So it's a good thing he asked you not to use it for now, if you are pushy/needy then he will feel used and it shows you have no respect for him.

 

When you are feeling particularly frail on your own, take some time to zone out watching cartoons or coloring (or whatever you like to do in little space)

[DaddysKitten2626]

I never thought of it like that. Thank you. And we just had some times where one or both of us were dishonest and made some bad choices and it's all come out in the open now so we're trying to rebuild some trust. I never try to push being Daddy on him, it's just hard to break old habits... But I understand how that could be seen differently. Thank you lots.