Advice?

[Guest sunnybaby]

SO, I was being bored one day and downloaded Tinder. Swiping left and right and all the ways, and I come across this profile of a guy who turns out to be THE SWEETEST person I've ever fraking met and we go on a date. On the date he kisses me (and i die), and we go back to his place and just cuddle. No moves made hinting at sex, no pressure, just a mutal desire to be in eachother's arms. It was perfect.

 

The next day is Halloween and he comes over and we watch a scary movie and then go haunted house hunting, and before he leaveS he asks me to be his girlfriend. AND OF COURSE I SAY YES BECAUSE I WANTED HIM TO ASK SO FEAKING BAD.

 

And now I'm his girlfriend and he's great and I like him a lot and e've almost even said I love you to eachother BUT i have yet to bring up DDLG.

 

He knows I love disney, and I sleep with a teddy bear (her name is Christina btw and I loe her), and that I have some childlike qualities.

 

And he calls me princess, and babydoll, and angel, and acts like a daddy would.

 

And I lowkey asked him if he knew what ddlg was and he said no so I dropped it because I was scared.

 

If I actually sit down and talk to him about it I'm pretty sure he'd be down to let me call him daddy.

 

Because literally thats the only thing that would change because he already acts like one and is literally everything I need, I just dont want to freak him out and him leave?

 

I've almost called him daddy a few times and I just hid lol.

 

So I guess my question is how do I actually sit him down and ask? I've never had to before and I'm a little afraid.

[Jotck8]

Just be honest with him. Really, if he already treats you how you want to be treated as a little, the daddy thing probably isn't a huge deal, or even that much of a surprise. Even outside of dd/LG, girls calling their BFs daddy isn't unheard of. If he is as sweet as you say, I'm sure he'll be okay with it

[Guest JayRingo77]

Agreed.  Be you and and have that sit down talk sooner rather than later.  The longer you wait, the more history piles on and makes it harder to explain why you kept something hidden. 

 

It's scary.  Your tummy will be all knots and butterflies; however, good relationships have sound foundations built on the hardest material to find - trust.  Having to hide some aspect that 'might' or 'could' or 'possibly' will only continue to gnaw away at you until your anxiety consumes the relationship.

 

Give him the chance to understand, know, and love the real you.  As smitten as he sounds, I doubt he's going to run away.  

 

Be brave.  Be unmasked and honest you - the hardest person to be.

[Guest JayRingo77]

So I guess my question is how do I actually sit him down and ask? I've never had to before and I'm a little afraid.

 

I missed this in my reply - the actual mechanics. Find a place that's comfortable for both of you where you can talk without worrying about eavesdropping or interruption.  Be specific when you ask to talk to him - "I want to talk to you about the DD/lg I mentioned when we have some private time."  because "I want to talk to you about something," is vague and creates anticipation anxiety in both of you.  

 

And don't be afraid to bail on the conversation if it doesn't go well.  Agree to revisit things, take a break, sip something warm, sweet, and comforting (I suddenly want hot cocoa....) when you listen to his words and reaction.

 

Above all - breathe.  It's required.  Good luck 

[LittleKitten13]

One thing...if he's comfortable with essentially being a daddy to you, but not comfortable with the title of daddy, maybe see if there are some other names he might be comfortable with being called.  When my papa and I first kind of found out about being little, he wasn't comfortable with me calling him daddy, but he was okay with papa...and he does take good care of me, like you've mentioned.