Help please

[Fruitloops]

Hi all

 

After many years in a vanilla relationship I have recently discovered the world of DDlg. From the moment I discovered it something clicked within me.

 

I am a 44 year old Daddy and over the last couple of weeks I have been in a fledgling relationship with a little. She is 22 years my junior, this in its self is something I wasn't really looking for or prepared for. And so we come to my dilemma.

 

She's really getting to me. Much more than should be the case. I'm an emotionally stable, clear headed man. I'm successful in business and know exactly what to do at any given time. But this girl has got me feeling levels of emotion I haven't felt in a very long time. I have not shed a tear in 24 years (since my dad died) , but she sang for me yesterday (shes a phenomenal singer), and I had tears in my eyes. She's giving all of herself to me, I'm in awe of this trust, and at the same time scared of it. I almost feel I'm not worthy of it.

 

I had entered this world hoping to explore it and start slowly, maybe meet someone and have some fun and see where it went. What's happening is something I wasn't prepared for and I'm really not sure how to handle.

 

Any advice is much appreciated

[Guest McLeodLot65]

You're not alone. Cg's and littles both say that they can fall head-over-heels so quickly that it can be overwhelming. Browse the fora here and you'll see many stories like yours. That being said, as long as you're not *doing* anything too hasty, I don't see the harm in letting yourself *feel* these feelings that are so powerful. Experience the moment of grace and let it comfort you in trying times.

[Guest Spen1108]

Hey man. it's really common in DDLG relationships to experience high levels of emotion as it can be a much stronger bond with being someone's caregiver. If I were you i'd talk to her about it chances are she feels the same. I'm in the same boat at the moment of feeling a lot all at once and it can be scary. 

[Guest DaddyCares1]

Don't deny your feelings, but do take things slow. I'm a firm believer that slow and steady wins the race. You sound like your head is screwed on, so don't worry too much

[Fruitloops]

Thanks for the quick responses all. For someone who generally keeps his cards close to his chest and doesn't give too much away emotionally I'm a bloody wreck. I havent been like this since I was a teenager. Not a comfortable feeling, and I really feel like I need to take a step back and chill out for a bit.

 

Good to hear that this isn't an uncommon thing though and I do understand that. In the vanilla world youre taking time to learn someone's deepest desire/fetish/kink. And in some cases probably never learning it.

In this case we've met due to our kink so its all been laid on the table at the start. The dynamic is much different and the level of trust from the outset is unlike anything I've experienced.

[Guest SUeB]

Yep, this dynamic in particular can bring out extremely intense emotions from both sides.

If you really want to see where this might go, try to prevent yourself from running scared. It doesn't make you less of a man.

You're new to all of this, and yes, that level of emotion can be terrifying.

Putting aside all of the "what the hell is going on?" stuff, are you happy?

Also remember you've only known her for a couple of weeks. This crazy stuff is incredibly common so soon. It's a bit of a frenzy thing. People often talk about sub frenzy, but it's rarely spoken of from the other side. Maybe cos females are traditionally more open with their feelings etc.