How does anyone honestly know they aren't getting catfished on here?

[Guest FreakDaddy]

What do you do to find out if someone is actually real? 

I generally ask for Snapchat, not on this site, but in general, because usually you can get an authentic pic on the spot. 

Kik = creep

email = creepier

Fb/ig/Tumblr = Too hard to tell at times. 

I suppose Skype video calling works? 

What do you guys use?

 

-thanks

[Guest infinitecases]

Skype video calling is reasonable enough.

[Guest Beardless Viking]

I usually just message with them over a period of time on KIK, and we both eventually end up showing pictures of ourselves when we're getting to know each other, and thus far I haven't seen a picture that seemed obviously fake, so I haven't inquired further. If we talked for longer we'd definitely end up skyping and getting on camera etc, though.

[Guest princessstrawberriess]

i suggest u should video chat with her in skype so u would know she is real not a poser.

[Guest FreakDaddy]

Btw, I do also understand that it's very upfront to ask for someone's Snapchat when you first start talking with them, but Im also not about any shuck and jive BS. It' 2017...the internet has been out for while, let' be real.

[Puppy]

You don't know, that's the problem. People are sneaky and if they aren't up for verifying that they are the person, they are probably hiding something. On kik whenever somebody sends a pic, you can ask them to send it directly from the camera through kik, instead of from their gallery. If it shows up as sent from "camera" it was just taken and you can verify it's them. 

As for email, I don't know who uses that to communicate anymore. You can usually tell from somebody's Facebook if they are real or not. Skype is a good way to verify, or asking them to do a certain pose in a selfie. Snapchat is definitely a good option for verification and snapchat shouldn't be too personal. 

 

If you think somebody is using pictures of somebody else, you can always do a reverse image search. Right click whatever image and select "search Google for image" 

Edited November 18, 2017 by Puppy

[daddyslittleprincess23]

Btw, I do also understand that it's very upfront to ask for someone's Snapchat when you first start talking with them, but Im also not about any shuck and jive BS. It' 2017...the internet has been out for while, let' be real.

I don't think it is strange to ask for someones snap upfront. I agree. Prove who you say you are, I mean isnt DD/lg is all about trust isnt it..?

[MrWrongUk]

Skype is kinda the only way i guess or a pic with todays newspaper lol.

[Tinka]

the most simple and basic ---> right click on pick ---> search google for image. 

 

and then ofc skype. 

 

But just saying , as a person (regardless of internet laws and broken trusts) if someone at the moment we try to start meeting/knowing each other, starts asking about kik, skype, camera etc , its a huge no from me. 

I honestly don`t care if by saying this can make me seem/sound like a catfish, if its suspicious or not. 

I am just the type of girl who wants things slow, who wants someone who will start a conversation about nice subjects , leaving aside the interrogation questions "where do you live? surname and name, age , hometown,job, kik?cam? pic???" ...

These turn me off. 

I met my partner online and in 4 days we will have 1 year roommates anniversary. (together 3 years including the ldr) 

if he would be the kinda guy who would say the typical disgusting thing "Hi, name age and kik?" he would have been ignored and none of us would experience THIS.

 

So as i honestly get your fears and suspicions (suspicious is my second name) i would propose to not let it rule you, when you try to meet people online. 

It might be the reason you won`t get to meet further some really potentially interesting creatures that in them one can possibly change your life. 

 

May you never be catfished and may you never catfish anyone either.  

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

I use kik to talk to new people. My snap story has images of my friends, family, and school so snapchat is limited to people I trust.

 

Skype and kik are pretty standard verification methods.

[Guest SweetKira]

lol I didn't know what "catfishing" meant until I read this thread. I have to say for me, I don't like how it makes me feel when someone asks me for a picture when we've hardly introduced ourselves. But I'm very open and generous about sharing pics once I get comfortable with someone new.

[Guest pacibrat]

I don't even have Snap, nor do I want it.  I'm not looking for someone romantically, but if I was a recent pic would suffice for me at first (everyone has a cell camera).  How do you know it's of them? Ask them to do something in the pic (like have their hand on top of their head) so you'll know it's legit. If you're stealing pics from someone else, you won't find any pic like that, lol. With that said, no way am I going to Skype with someone I just met online.  First, I'm shy.  Second, it just seems like something a creeper would ask for right away.

[Puppy]

With that said, no way am I going to Skype with someone I just met online.  First, I'm shy.  Second, it just seems like something a creeper would ask for right away.

 

This. Skype is definitely not the best nor first choice for verifying if somebody is real or not. If somebody asked me to Skype, especially if I was not friends with them, I would feel really weirded out. Not only that, I know a lot of people who do not even have a Skype. With other chatting platforms becoming available (like Discord, for example) Skype is becoming increasingly outdated. 

[princessfreckles]

You really never do know, which is scary. For me if I see a hot guy interesting me online I'm immediately suspicious that I'm being catfished. I don't wanna waste my time either, so I feel ya on that. 

 

Kik does have a video chat option. As for snapchat, I'm hesitant to add just anyone because I share pics of my nephew and I'm very protective of who sees him. I usually suggest skype or kik because honestly they're the least personal and easiest way to verify that I'm talking to whoever they say they are. 

[Guest JayRingo77]

I Admin a couple of groups on Kik and we use the following to verify for admission into the private room:

 

1.  Have to have a profile pic.

2.  Have to have a real profile name - no single letters, no emoji

3.  Have to send a camera pic (see previous posts in this thread)

4.  Have to mimic the action the admin does in their camera pic - yup, you heard it.  Admins send the person a camera pic as part of the verification process.  This rule killed a lot of the 'dude I'm always in here and you know I'm chill just make me an admin' crap I used to get.  I understand wanting to remain private to an extent; however, if you're going to request a face pic for verification you need to be willing to put yourself out there as well.

 

By action I mean a certain number of fingers on the chin.  Point at the left cheek while blowing a raspberry.  Silly things you can't pull off someone else's social media.  This is because we've had people try to take a pic of a pic to try and dupe an admin with a fake 'camera' shot.  Any hesitation during the process results in a ban from the verification room.  All of these requirements are spelled out in the rules (posted before they verify) and they must acknowledge they read AND understand the rules by replying with a catch phrase.  This way no one can whine about 'I didn't know' or 'I didn't get it' when they break a rule and get booted from the room.

 

Good luck.

[Guest QueenPrincess]

I have not been on this site for long, so bear that in mind, but I have been on other forums and dating sites so I get the jist.

 

Skype and snapchat are both fine ways to verify someone is who they say they are (video chatting being the only fool proof method I can think of off the top of my head). You can reverse search the pictures, sometimes the catfisher uses something really obvious, like, say, an actual model's pictures or you find a name attached that isn't the name they gave you (secret-minors are especially likely to do something silly like this). But, I think the real question is how do you verify the person is real without irking a perfectly genuine person of interest who is, say, a tad shy.

 

And to speak from my personal experience, I have dropped conversations with guys who were too pushy about snapchat or skype on other sites. Especially when they've pushed right off the bat. Thinking: if this person hasn't added any value to my life and is already annoying me, then on what basis are they a good choice? Sometimes I've even dropped them absent-mindedly like "Eh. I'll get to it later. Maybe" 

 

(I can't say for sure how common this is, I could be the heartless exception, but I'm going to go ahead and say it's probably somewhat common given that more men make the first move than vice versa)

 

Which brings up another factor guys interested in girls might need to consider: some girls will not take a photo if they are not photo-ready. Say you don't care all you want, say you want to see me without makeup anyway, say it'll disappear after I send it. Doesn't matter to me. You could be Will Smith himself and it's still a no if I'm not feeling my face. Nope, nope, nopity, nope. So avoid deadlines and insisting on it with any immediacy. A girl who is interested and intends to actually make something happen will probably snap a photo for you within a week. Still not a good idea to verbalize deadlines. Pull away if you get the feeling she's really avoiding it.

 

Finally, just talk to people you enjoy talking to and keep things friendly/flirty. Most people want someone they can get along with outside of roleplay as well as during, and yet general chemistry too often plays second fiddle to fetishes / limits / dynamics / etc in the kinky community. If I have some interesting conversation with someone who turns out to be hiding something I'm not going to pick him to be my S/O...

BUT

What have I lost? Nothing really. Whereas, if I was exchanging touchy-feely messages and planning sexy things with him, then I have to think, "Ew what was I thinking? Who even was I messaging?" and "Damn I really thought he could be special."

[Fading Kitten]

I just don't associate with anyone so that works for me