I don't know what to do!

[Guest ConfusedLil]

I have spent several years in my current relationship and I have a wonderful family... But... I feel like I'm hiding who I really am. I have tried several times to bring up the subject of ddlg but my husband brushes me off. He thinks the whole topic is strange so I freak out and let it go because I'm afraid it will change how he feels about me. I don't know how to bring it up and make him listen to what I'm trying to say. I love him but it hurts to keep hiding who I am. Any suggestions?

[Princess-P]

Don't hide who you are, your partner is supposed to love and accept you no matter what as long as you aren't hurting anyone.

 

Being little wont hurt him. He may not want to participate... But a lot of couples are very different people. It still works out.

 

Either just come right out and tell him "hey this is what I like, this is why, I'd like you to do this, but if you don't like it that's OK I can do it on my own"

 

If you can't imagine being little without him as your daddy then you have to consider what is more important.

 

But closed mouthes don't get fed so spill the beans soon. You don't need to be upset about a simple matter.

 

Also don't tell him to research. Way too much mixed info. Just tell him what YOU like and what YOU want.

[Guest ConfusedLil]

I will try again but when he makes these little comments about it being weird my anxiety gets the best of me and I run. My family is the world to me but it's hard to not be little when I feel like I need a daddy.

[Guest Thelittlebear]

You dont need to have a Daddy to go into little space. If being little is what makes you happy, then you should do it. You can do alot of things without a Dom/CG , to feel little. You can color, play with toys, watch shows that make you going into littlespace.

[Guest ConfusedLil]

Littlespace isn't an issue. I go into little space quite a bit when I'm alone but it's lonely. I feel like I don't have anyone and it's frustrating but thank you

[Guest SUeB]

This is not an easy answer, but it sounds like you have already tried enough times to talk to him about it. He is not interested. So you have two choices. Accept that you have to go through this part of yourself on your own (think in terms of a fantasy. People have fantasies forever, without ever putting them into practice, and live perfectly happily just keeping it that way), or you leave the marriage, if this is that important to you. The more you pressure him, the more he will get tired of listening to it, and it will cause damage to the relationship anyway. i am sorry, i know thats not what you want to hear, but sometimes there is not an easy or satisfying answer.

[Guest pacibrat]

Like someone else said, you don't NEED a Daddy when you're a little.  I would just leave him out of it and be little on my own.  If you're happy in the relationship, you should consider staying in it.  It's a tough world out there and a good, RELIABLE Daddy isn't necessarily easy to find. Still, it's your decision, but your current man isn't Daddy material.