2017/2018

[Persephone_Persephone]

Hi all, so its that time of year where I do abit of reflecting back on the previous year and what id like the next to be like. Be lovely to hear your answers too.

 

What have you learnt from 2017?

 

I started 2017 lying in a coma alone, I missed the whole of Christmas and new year and my sons birthday too. I learnt to breathe, walk and do everything again, I have had the most terrible and most amazing 2017. I have learnt who is really there for me in life and I have learnt how strong I really am. I've never laughed or cried so much. So yes I really learnt the famous Dumbledore quote 'Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light'.

 

 

What are your plans or goals for 2018?

 

Travel more...and start planning and saving for an epic trip for my 30th in the near future. 

Focus more on my writing and degree and continue to be an outspoken little bugger who stands up for herself. 

 

Your turn....

[Guest SUeB]

Lovely post. Crikey, yes, you've been through a heck of a lot. You genuinely are the strongest person i know.

 

2017 has been a bit of a crazy one. Started a brand new career, studied and passed another qualification towards furthering that career, met the love of my life, moved to a house i feel pretty comfortable in after getting away from a place i hated, got closer to at least one of my two older sisters, started a new hobby with my Daddy (long distance walking), untangled myself from an abusive relationship, etc.

 

Next year i have plans to take breaks with Daddy with Him alone and also with His walking group, i am going to slowly start with the new leg of my career, and hopefully take steps towards getting a mortgage. Let's leave that one there for now, hehe.

[Guest pacibrat]

Oh 2017.  I lost a Daddy, but gained a new perspective about DDlg by finding this forum. My work life became more stressful, especially lately and I now want to escape the medical field, lol. My son turned 21, officially a man, and I couldn't be more proud of him. I started exploring my creative side by making resin pieces, decorated pacis, hair bows, etc. and I'm good at it. I learned a lot about self care and that focusing on taking care of me sometimes isn't selfish, but necessary.

 

In 2018, I want to go back to school for computer stuffs and start to lay down a foundation for getting out of the rat race and becoming self employed.  I'd like to start writing again (maybe, lol....seems I've been on permanent writer's block forever). I will focus more on myself and what I want out of life (my son is an adult now so I can do that). I also hope to grow my business (not saying anything more about that or they'll probably give me another warning point! )! I want to explore my little side further too.

[Guest littleaddie]

2017 has been a long year for me I spent it looking for a job and now I finally have a job. I realised that I don't have as many friends I thought I did. I discovered ddlg and I've everything about it. I didn't have time to explore my little side and I didn't get out as much as I should.

 

2018 is gonna be a good year for me. I will have time to explore my little side. Make more friends. i can hopefully go back to school and major in IT and get a better job. I can make the changes I want for myself.

Edited December 6, 2017 by Teddybearprincess

[Persephone_Persephone]

Love these positives stories! So good to share and hope you all get to your goals

[princessfreckles]

In 2017 I finally put my novel out there at a writing conference. I pitched it to an agent. In 2018, I'd like to continue to put my novel out there and hopefully get it published under my pen name. I'd also like to publish another novel online using Wattpad or some other outlet. 

 

This year I finally realized that I'm a little! And with more research, I realized that I'm a middle. I'd always been submissive, however a traditional Dom intimated and scared me. Thanks to a lovely chat with another little, I realized that I'm completely a little and a DD is perfect for me. After a horrible experience with my first DD (we were both inexperienced, however he's the one who decided to ghost me after meeting in person), I'm deciding to leave it behind. In 2018 I'm hoping to find a genuine DD who won't leave me. It'll be a massive challenge and I hope I'm up to it. 

[Guest Loki]

2017:

 

I had to work my way out of the most mentally shattered place I’ve ever been, and I had to do it alone.

 

I tried to have some romance, but it was painful mostly becuase I simply had no idea what to do or how to act or how to be healthy.

 

I’ve realized I can never have a normal life and I’ve acdepted it. Some of it was good - hello DDLG, didn’t know you existed :3 - but most of it bad, and me learning how to take negatives and make them positives.

 

I’ve went from eating less than 500 calories a day to eating three full meals a day.

 

I’ve went from having zero energy to actually being able to dance.

 

I’ve begun losing weight becuase I somehow got a good doctor who explained I was so huge becuase I wasn’t eating. Turns out I have the body type that if I don’t eat enough my body goes into “convert everything to fat” mode. So I’ve accepted I’m a big girl and that it’s ok to eat when you’re big. In fact, it’s required.

 

I’ve mostly forgiven my parents for all the shit they’ve done. I understand that they were children and they still refuse to go

past being children. And I’ve accepted you can be childlike and still be mature, becuase for most of my life I didn’t realize this.

 

I’ve acdepted and gotten to know the others in my head. We’ve begun coming together, becuase seriously trying to live seperate lives is weird and hellish in the best of times.

 

I accepted my genderfluidity. I wish I could physically change back and forth becuase when I’m male the dysphoria is .... intense. But I know I can’t ever transition becuase if I did I’d have severe dysphoria when I’m female. *grumble grumble*

 

I’ve began planning an online business. It’s my only ticket out of here, but maybe it’s moot becuase my parents fucked themselves over so bad we may be losing the house and as such maybe 2018 will be me living on the streets.

 

HOWEVER

 

2018:

 

I am hopeful. From my hell I’ve emerged stronger, better and smarter. My self-esteem is actually on the rise. My social anxiety is diminishing.

 

So for 2018 I’m going to work to having my business go strong. I’m going to work toward finding someone to love and I’m going to work toward having my own life, merged with the others in my head and to just be healthy.

 

I hope I don’t have to do it from the streets, but I’ll survive.

 

Bring it, world. I’m a warrior.

[Wolfycheeks]

2017 was a year full of self-discovery, especially on the DDLG/BDSM subject.

 

First two months I was still in a relationship with my now ex. We broke up because I wanted to experiment with BDSM and older men.

 

Broke up with said boyfriend, met a BDSM master? on Badoo, we met up and did a few sessions and it was both the most amazing and horrible thing ever. I was super new to all of BDSM and he didn't provide any aftercare.. me, not knowing what a sub drop is, or why aftercare is super important, was totally shook. Spent a few nights on his couch crying. Ended contact when I met a better older guy who wanted to be my Daddy.

 

Met said Daddy, and he was so amazing. He bought me plushies, gifts, always took me out to dinner and dates, and spoiled me so much. Besides that he also learned me a LOT. It's only because of him that I am who I am now, and started doing a study and stuff. I was nowhere, with no hope for the future, and now I'm doing a cool study.

 

Then a few months in he told me this; 'I'm so glad we have an open relationship!' and how he met some girls. I was super shook, I was like what? excuse me? open relationship? and he was like; 'Yeah, don't believe in monogamous, it's just what's considered normal but it's bullshit, people should be able to be with other people too! It's a social construct!' I was like, 'Wowie, okay, well you should've mentioned this, because I don't want to be in a poly relationship.'

 

I stayed with this guy, because I really, really liked him. But he was seeing others, and I was feeling super lonely while he was away, so I thought; I need to find someone to have a proper future with, not someone who sees me as part-time entertainment.. Sooo, I met a guy on Tinder, who was like 51, and he was the most boring guy in the universe. He was a great Daddy from the start though. Was welcomed into his house with a dinosaur plushie and my own bedroom, little themed too. I thought it was creepy, seeing it was the first time I was there... But yeah, he was boring, and he got jealous so quickly that he ended up blocking me because I didn't respond for a day when I was visiting family. LOL.

 

I met my current Daddy, who is actually someone closer to my own age, a month and a half? ago? on this very forum, and we had our second meeting today and it was AWESOME and he spoiled me with gifts and love, and I'm honestly so happy with him and hope I can share so much more with him! We're a super cool gaming team, he spoils me lots. I'm so lucky.

 

 

2018.

 

February 2018 will be awesome, since my Daddy got me VIP tickets to my favourite youtuber, and his crew! (Markiplier & Friends!) !!!

I will hopefully finish my Criminology study early 2018, and by then increased my math and Dutch knowledge aswell since I need it for the study I wanna do after, which is Security Manager. After Security Manager I'll apply for a job at forensics at the Police, but that's way in the future haha. I also hope i'll be living on my own, or with my daddy, in 2018. I don't know what 2018 will bring, but I know it's gonna be good.

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

2017:

 

- I completed 15 weeks of intensive PTSD therapy. It was literally hell, but I've come out better for it. I'm finally accepting that the disorder is part of my life and I'm learning to live with it.

 

- We got evicted and were homeless for a while. We're slowly getting back on our feet with a new apartment and Daddy's new job.

 

- I just finished the WORST semester of my entire college career, largely influenced by my mental health.

 

- We got our first dog

 

- We seriously discussed marriage and the things we want/need for when we start a family.

 

- Daddy became my Daddy. We've been together a long time and I finally opened up to him about my little space. It took him a while to adjust, but it's been the most wonderful experience.

 

 

2018:

 

- I hope to have a much better semester starting in January. I feel like I understand myself more and I know what I need to do. My goal is to make the dean's list.

 

- Find a decent summer job that ISN'T retail.

 

- Work on my eating habits and fitness. The dog needs more walks, so she'll be my motivation.

[MrJohnny]

I ended 2016 just days home from 3 weeks in the hospital after a near-fatal work injury, and no comp to cover any bills. Started 2017 in a wheelchair, not knowing if I would be able to practice my profession ever again.

 

Today I am still in my home, working again at my profession, still owning the car I bought brand new just before the injury, have gotten much closer with family, found a better employer, saw all my medical bills paid, gotten a generous year-end cash bonus and paid holidays, have money in the bank (though not much), have credit I never had, have good friends, and no reason to NOT believe that 2018 will continue the trend of a gradually but steadily improving life situation.

 

My goals for 2018 include improving my employment status, saving money, dating again (and within the DD/lg dynamic for the first time), improving my health, writing and preparing to publish, drastically reducing my debt, and preparing for a relocation to better employment and relationship possibilities.