Acronyms and other questions

[lilbitquixotic]

[Guest litdaddy]

I’m so afraid of no one answering

hi Im answering, your msg breaks my heart and reminds me of some exes

 

I'll write more later but in short:

 

youre okay and your reactions and confusions are normal

idk the site as well as some but can maybe help if you specify which acronyms

mean when drinking and wanting to send your son away feel like red flags to me (sorry to be judgmental)

if you want a home for your son yourself not all are abusive and you can work with social services to find one and figure out how best to check he is treated well, if he could speak or relate I imagine hed be grateful to you for taking care of him this long while suffering stress yourself (I have a condition similar to ASD but nowhere near your sons level and my mom was easily able to take care of me and consciously/repeatedly did not but if she had and needed to stop I would have supported her)

 

haha "in short" well theres your novel back!

[##1°*BeDaddy'sGoodGirl]

I couldn’t stand the thought of you feeling sad that no one would reply, so I will. People here will reply. Whilst I have been writing out my reply, I see you have already had one other reply. Others will follow. You have found a good, kind, supportive community in this forum. It is well run by the admin team who volunteer their time. I would recommend you have a good read of the forum rules if you are new to the forum.

 

The littles on here are amazing, and very helpful to each other, so I am sure lots of advice will be forthcoming from littles and other Daddies.

There is no right or wrong way to be a little. You do what feels right to you. You do the things you need to do. A title or any other form of words is not needed to validate how you live. Do what makes you happy and makes you smile. If you like drawing, then draw. If you want to have stuffies because it makes you happy, then you should have stuffies......and so on....

 

You are already doing some great things because you have joined here and you are reading other people’s posts on here, and you posted your questions on here.

 

Never be afraid to ask questions on here. Read as many posts on this forum as you can. Make friends with other littles on the forum who you feel you get on with, and who share your interests.

 

If you are struggling with acronyms, write them on here and you will get answers. I will answer any that I can help with. If there is a post dedicated to acronyms, someone will probably post a link.

 

You will get advice and opinions on this forum. What you do with it is up to you. You should do what feels right to you.

It is not my place to tell you what to do regarding your Daddy being mean, but I will say that if you have a Daddy who drinks and is mean, that does not sound like a nice Daddy to me (no matter how nice that person may be when they don’t drink). A Daddy’s role is to be your caregiver. Your Daddy’s behaviour seems like a red flag to me.

 

When it comes to your son and your current Daddy’s proposal to put him in a home, I believe that YOU KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR SON. You know where your son will be safest. You are doing the best job you can do for your son and you should be proud of yourself for that.
 

[Guest Mister Grey]

mean when drinking and wanting to send your son away feel like red flags to me (sorry to be judgmental)

 

 

Agreed 100%

 

I am glad for you that you are starting to discover that your not alone, that there are like minded people and I hope that this discovery and time will bring you some peace

 

but note, that while you may not be good at it, that there are simply aspects of your life that you need to approach as an adult.

 

Take a breath and take a moment, look at your current relationship honestly.

 

I promise you, that I would feel extremely confident that going out on a limb and saying that a true Daddy would not be mean to his little.  Its actually the opposite of the base instinct of a true caregiver.

 

And the suggestion to put your son into a home gives me pause.  The suggestion is out of context but my first instinct is concern for that suggestion.

 

 

Take your time to learn and be honest to yourself.  I wish you nothing but the best of luck on this new journey.

[Guest Arc]

What acronyms do you not know? The only ones I can think of used frequently around here are LDR (long distance relationship), DDLG, CG/l (care giver/little), and ABDL (adult baby diaper lover). Most things you would probably search up on Urban dictionary anyway.  

 

Don't worry about sub groups. Just be yourself and one day you will find a title that fits you. Don't get caught up on what's typical of a title - not all littles wear diapers and have a little space and stuff like that. Just go with what feels right to you. 

 

People who are mean drunks should not drink. As someone who was with an abusive drunk once, I may be biased against it, but that sounds unhealthy. And as for wanting you to put your son in a home? That's not okay. That's your decision. If it's super hard on you and your partner thinks you are struggling, suggesting it as an idea for your sake is one thing. But asking/wanting to do it is another. Suggesting it to help you shows a caring partner but wanting you to do it seems wrong in my mind. It sounds like you do so well by him and that's a huge credit to you. However... there is the harsh truth that you won't be able to look after him forever. You need your own life and own time. Looking into a home may not be a bad thing when you are ready, but it has to be your decision. Nobody should try make it for you. 

[lilbitquixotic]

[Bunniegural]

you sound like a really cool lady. I can relate to how you have suppressed your submission and littleness but it just kept bubbling up anyway, and the naïveté you show in trusting people. sometimes it is very hard to know who is worth trusting.

when it comes to DDlg, the general advice on this forum seems to be “you identify how you feel, and if anyone doesn’t like it, that’s their problem” i’ve been learning a lot through tumblr, too. two bits that haven’t come up are MDlb (Mommy Domme little boy) and the distinction between age play and regression, which what i’ve been told is that people who regress are literally psychologically like children when they are in that headspace, so you shouldn’t do sex things with them, whereas age players (that’s me) know they are adults but like to role play, and some might be sexual and some might not. people might also ask you your ‘little age’ it’s no big deal if you don’t know your age, it’s just something people being up to small talk, mostly, and get a feel for what you are like when you are little (someone who is a baby vs someone who is a middle (tween) are going to be very different)

[cuddlebear55]

Wow, I am new to this forum, and this is the second post I've read of a person in a tough situation looking for some support.  The outpouring and genuine caring support on this site is amazing.  I think you will find this a great benefit to you.

 

As for you son, I can tell you know this and would never do this, but maybe it's good to hear someone else say it.  Never rush anything with him for the sake of a significant other(SO)  I am very glad that you were a strong enough adult to take care of business and get your son and yourself out of bad situation.  Moving can be very hard, especially with autism(my nephew is autistic), but if you are not confident in the care available where you are, and moving is an option, then that might be a good decision.  You definitely need as much support as you can get, whether it be a home, or some in home respite, or a weekend program like you had.  Always push for all the help you can get, it's out there. 

 

Many people on here are talking about skype playdates, maybe that would be a chance for you to enter little space, either with daddy's or mommy's or other little's.  There are even babysitters.

 

Don't worry about where you fit in, this community is quite vast and all proclivities well accepted.  I have no idea where I fit in yet, it's all part of the journey. 

 

You are a very wonderful person, coming on here and reaching out is confirmation of that.  I truly wish you all the best.